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5 Sad Discipline Mistakes That Shame Your Child

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Carol Tuttle

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I recognized the #1 shaming discipline approach when I saw a grown woman do it to herself.

She played opposite me during a game of tennis, and every time she made a mistake, she shamed herself with a message I'm sure she heard all during childhood.


It's a shaming message that only takes one word.


I heard this message when I was growing up. You probably heard it while you were growing up, too. And it's time to stop shaming our children with it.


The #1 shaming discipline mistake applies to all Types of children.


The other 4 mistakes in today's show are customized to your child because they are Type-specific. Listen for your child in particular so you can eliminate the shaming situations your child experiences. 


Caller Questions:

  • My daughter won't snuggle, but I want to—what to do? (Listen at 32:20)


  • How do I keep my husband from shaming our children? (Listen at 38:49)


  • How do I support my Type 2 child so he doesn't need to whine?(Listen at 47:30)


  • How do I stop saying no so often to my Type 3 child? (Listen at 54:09)


Quote of the Day: 

"Discipline in its highest form involves your child having a say in it."

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