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Awareness - Control Drama

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Are You A Control Drama King or Queen?

A control drama is a way or technique that people use to try to get what they want which often causes conflict and is usually learned or developed unconsciously.

Most people who use control dramas do not know of or are not aware of any other ways to get their needs met. Often these techniques are ones people develop in order to get what they want that has been developed or has been passed on from people around them, usually family and relatives. 

We attempt to control and manipulate others because we believe that if they would change their behavior we would be happy and so would they. When people do things we don’t like, or when we are not getting our way, we think they are wrong. Then, believing we are right and they are wrong, we think that we have the right to impose our beliefs on them. What we are attempting to do is protect our beliefs. 

Getting rid of this habit isn't easy because it's always unconscious at first. The key to letting it go is to bring it fully into consciousness, and we do that by seeing that our particular style of controlling others is one we learned in childhood to get attention, to get the energy moving our way, and we are stuck there. This style is something we repeat over and over again... our unconscious control drama. 

I'll give some tips to change the dynamics of control dramas.