The High Road  

Sisters this one is from you.  I have heard conversations for years ranging from outright man-bashing to pretty insightful wisdom on relationships and men from the female perspective.  Well I figured that I had a little something of value to add to the discussion.

Lately I have been engaging people in conversations about community.  What it means, what roles people play & what some of the different relationships are in a community.  Sorry if I offend the Independent women out there but:  You need a guardian.

That's right I said it.

A Guardian.  Infact everyone, male or female should be able to point to another person who serves as their guardian.  Especially if you are single.  Just ride with me for a little while on this one.  Don't compare what I'm saying to what you know about how the world works.  The community I'm talking about doesn't exist along the common roads.  You have to take the High Road to see where I'm coming from.  :-)

Ladies identify someone in your life that 1) has proven that they will look out for your best interest 2) Is in tune with the God within AND 3) Has Good Sense.  Equal amounts of all 3 is ideal.  Tell them you trust their judgement and ask them to help you make the important decisions in your life.

Then before you go letting your feelings fool you into letting the wrong person get too close to you, send them to your Guardian.  The next time a man shows interest in you ask him "Can I have my 'guardian' call you?"  LOL I'm imagining the initial response.

If the conversation continues you can educate on how a community works & let them know that the bar has been raised.  If he's worth anything your guardian will give him a pass.  If not you don't have anymore gum stuck to the bottom of your shoe.

Whadyathinkaboutdat?  :-)