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I know that you are interested in me but I simply can’t go there because I’m already cheating on my man with my man.

Words I had to say to someone today with ease by the way. I never knew that avoiding temptation would be this easy nor that love could be this hard and yet I’m still so fascinated with the idea of being “in-love”. Yes, it’s definitely the thrill of falling that I’m addicted to (hoping not to crash and burn). But what happens in a marriage when you get bored, tired, fat, and predictable?

Today I woke up with the usual blank expression on my face and hair half way crazy after an awesome night with my man… just us two. Loving every minute of each other and trying desperately not to fall asleep after 3 glasses of wine.  Oh boy , I can feel my body drifting off into one of those deep sleeps when I hear my hubby say the words I’m so used to hearing after 9:30pm:

Damion: “Are you sleeping?”.

Me: “No, no Dee. I’m up, I’m up”, I quickly answered, but of course I was.

Time to fake like I’m awake, I perked up so it appeared as if was up, eyes wide opened as if a dear caught in headlights, half awake, half asleep. Damion takes another look into the room where all the kids are fast asleep and just when I thought the night couldn’t get any better, he picks me up from the couch and kisses me ever so gently and says, “I love you when you snore”.

Me: “Say whaaaaaat? I do not snore. Im simply reacting to how boring this movie is”

I still thinks he’s lying to me but as he gently kissed me, well, lets just say that once again I wasn’t pissed off that he got me up (wink wink).  We laughed and talked about our lives and how far we’ve come. And with all that said, I began to understand again why I love this man so. The man that took care of me while I was on full time bedrest in the hospital throughout all 3 of my pregnancies. How he always seems to have an optimistic outlook despite my harsh and often tragic view of things. Gosh, it’s been a long, hard, fun, crazy, exciting 7 years of marital bliss. And yes, we’ve struggled, cried, and often times wanted to kill each other but life is a funny thing isn’t it? This morning I woke up with more than a smile on my face but happiness in my heart.

We’ve come a long way baby and overcame so much over the years financially and emotionally but you’ve always loved and accepted all of me. The me that most don’t ever see. The true, unadulterated, sensitive, impulsive, unapologetic me and despite it all, you still love ME!  Gotta pick up some more wine.

All my love,

Rhea Brown

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Is it just me or was 2008 the year of the wife? The heat is off the desperate housewives and all eyes are on that thing that you thought had gone west with our mothers’ generation: the art of being a good wife.

In the space of a few months, the spotlight has shifted from women as mothers, women juggling careers and families, and women who drink too much, to women in their role as wives. This is about a new interest in how females keep their men happy.

For those of us who are using the credit crunch as an excuse not to have our legs waxed and cook only pasta and bottled pesto, there is something called the “average and we’re fine, thanks” wife.

The categories of wife that emerged this year:

1.) THE GODDESS WIFE

Last year’s frumpy mummy has morphed into this year’s Goddess wife. She indulges her man with luxurious puddings and sugary cocktails (Hello Mama!… so you already know which one I am right?), and she doesn’t wear mom jeans either. Homemaking is her forte, but always packaged as foreplay. Her priority is making her husband feel very special and, just on the side, as it were, she happens to be a fabulously successful businesswoman with a razor-sharp mind.

2.) THE POSH WIFE

This wife recognizes her responsibility to look good, spend money and generally showcase her man’s wealth and virility, but also knows that she is now required to bring something extra to the party. In the past, a career might have clashed with the job of ego maintenance, but first Victoria Beckham and now Jada-Pinkett Smith have all proved that the sporting trophy wife with projects of her own is a superior asset. Now the Posh Mom with wit and commercial savvy gets more attention and makes her man look modern.

3.) THE PROJECT MANAGER (PM) WIFE

Hillary Clinton is a PM wife. These wives are at least as ambitious as their husbands, but they are pragmatic and focused on the package — in other words, if they know they can get where they want to be faster as a team, a PM wife will sideline her career to get behind her man. PM wives look as if they have given up a lot, but never forget, their husbands are their No 1 investment and, as often as not, the wives are forcing the pace. The new generation of politicians, bankers and big businessmen often have PM wives (as opposed to Vocational wives, see below), because they are extremely capable and happy to be left running their own empires. They are the least surrendered behind the scenes, though they give the outward appearance of always putting themselves second.

4.) THE VOCATIONAL WIFE

She is blissfully content pottering around in her own fragrant, pastel-tinted world, leaving her man to do all the hunter-gatherer stuff, and she freely admits that if she didn’t assume this traditional role, their marriage would never survive. The vocational wife oozes maternal instinct and tends not to differentiate much between her kids and her husband, but note, this is her choice, and, like the PM wife, she has her own power and sphere of influence.

5.) THE INSPIRATIONAL WIFE

Michelle Obama is the no-contest Inspirational wife of the moment, having reinvented the role of supportive political spouse. No more smiling in the background, wearing navy and a hairspray helmet. Mrs. O’s MO is “keeping it real”, keeping it equal and keeping it modern. She is the first first-lady (elect) to dress in Gap, H&M, and J.Crew, the first who was previously the primary breadwinner, the first to talk about her husband’s “stinky” presence in bed. The first to behave, in short, like a regular wife (though with the appropriate extra injection of smarts, glamour and a little bit of style). She is inspirational, not because she is married to the next president of the United States, but because she is determined to make the most visible wifely role in the world a reflection of the lives most of us live.

No1 Inspirational wife: Michelle Obama
Top quote: “People have notions of what a wife’s role should be in this process, and it has been a traditional one of blind adoration. My model is different: I think most real marriages are.”

6.) THE WORKING-AT-IT WIFE

In the past, this woman might have had a walker, or maybe a toy-boy (or girl if your into that) companion, but that was before wifeliness became a competitive sport. The WAI wife is an alpha woman who knows that marriage plus kids is necessary to make up the full life package, and she wants to get this one sorted and filed the way she has done every other lifestyle choice. Inevitably, her husband is a lesser noise than she is and this can make life difficult: the compromise issue, not to mention which continent to settle on, is a problem, hence the “working at it”. Madonna was the classic WAI wife. She hated to compromise, but she knew that you have to do a bit of it, along with some hand holding and whispered ego-boosting.

No1 WAI wife: Madonna
Top quote: “A good marriage is a contest of generosity.”

7.) THE AVERAGE AND “WE’RE FINE, THANKS” WIFE

This wife is anyone who identifies with the following statements:

•  - My husband cooks as often as I do and probably better;
• - I have canceled all waxing, plus the gym, as a credit-crunch precaution;
• - I have never given a speech on behalf of my husband, though I might have heckled during one;
• - I always wear knickers and hardly ever ones you would be happy to be run over in;
• - I would hang on his every word, but not if there is something distracting on television;
• - I do not ask if he likes what I am wearing because of course he is not going to “get” harem pants;

So Which Wife R U? Leave me a Comment

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