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  • 00:42

    John Carver Show - More Than you Think

    in Self Help

    This is a sermon I shared on the importance of not thinking little of what you do for other people.  Here is some of what I shared:


    More than you Think


    “Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could only do a little.”  Edmund Burke


    “I’ve seen and met angels wearing the disguise of ordinary people living ordinary lives.” Tracy Chapman


    “I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catchers mitt on both hands.  You need to be able to throw something back.”  Maya Angelou


    “The great use of life is to spend it for something that outlasts it.”  William James


    “It is the heart that does the giving; the fingers only let go.”  Nigerian saying


    There are some gifts that are given for one intent but received it with another intent. The wise men brought frankincense which was medicine but the Jewish people used it for religious ceremonies.


    There is something else that jumps out at me while I re-read this story.  The wise men offered their gifts with HUMILTY.


    There is so much more that I shared...please tune in and share with your friends and family.

  • 01:02

    John Carver Show - Conscious Capitalism (Ryan McShane)

    in Self Help

    Recently I interviewed Ryan McShane who has helped me tremendously.  Ryan opened my eyes to looking at how you can impact your workplace and your home.  Some of what he talks about is:


    There are four principles of Conscious Capitalism.


    1. Conscious leadership


    Organizations mirror the actions and personality of the individual at the top. This is the kind of person people want to follow. The authentic, open person. Conscious Leaders are the ones who inspire loyalty and consistent high performance in their teams.


    2. Stakeholder orientation


    Conscious leaders know the importance of taking into account all of their stakeholders. You’re never going to become a premium brand by only focusing on the shareholders. The really important factors for long-term business success are the employees and customers, and often the vendors and community as well. Take care of them and they will take care of you.


    3. Conscious culture


    A values-based culture is one that is intentional about how people act and perform. When a culture is not defined and enforced, your people aren’t all moving in the same direction.


    Related: Can Etsy Make Money and Do Good at the Same Time?


    4. Higher purpose


    Finally, the company should be in business to do more than just make money. Great leaders realize that in order to become successful over the long term, you must provide true value. That comes from passionate people getting inspired about their work. How inspiring is your company’s purpose? For example, would you want to work for a company whose mission it is to “deliver maximum value to the shareholders”?


    At the end of our talk Ryan shares how he might be able to help YOU in your career and home life

  • 00:54

    John Carver Show - The Link

    in Self Help

    I have found that most of us have many links attached to our thoughts and actions.
    What you link to an experience is very important. What emotion or memory have you linked to an experience that needs to change for you to move on in life?
    For some, the definition they apply to their link becomes their reality.
    Think of my title as how a hyperlink works.  You click the hyperlink and you expect it to take you to a certain website.
    Here’s the kicker…you and I assign our own hyperlinks.
    Every “link” you have established, in your life, can be changed…by YOU!


    Discipline is what you must have to resist the lure of excuses” ? Brian Tracy, No Excuses!: The Power of Self-Discipline
    “You can make excuses or you can make progress. You choose.” ? Brian Tracy, No Excuses!: The Power of Self-Discipline
    What you link to an experience is very important. What emotion or memory have you linked to an experience that needs to change for you to move on in life?


    For some, the definition they apply to their link becomes their reality.
    Listen to the words of author Malcolm Gladwell from his book Blink:
    “Our first impressions are generated by our experiences and our environment, which means that we can change our first impressions…by changing the experiences that comprise those impressions.


    Based on that understanding we…you and I…have the power to change our links.
    Stereotyping is another example of how links work.


     


     

  • 00:18

    John Carver Show - The Skill of Self Confidence - Dr. Ivan Joseph

    in Self Help

    These are the main points for building self-confidence:


    1.  Practice what you want to do. If you choose something that you’re passionate about, it’s easier. There’s no way around the fact that practice, practice, practice is the key.


    2.  Stop the inner negative dialogue. “I can’t do this.” (Yea, I have said that too often, even while pregnant.) Our thoughts influence out actions so stop the negative self talk.  In quiet moments remind yourself — “I am the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.”  I’m not talking about ego or false pride. But you need to give yourself credit. This is especially true when you are religious, because you can feel down.


    3.  “Get away from the people who tear you down.” In fact, that kind of thing can bring on the inner negative dialogue. Don’t hang with those who bring you down. Avoid negative energy.


    4.  Acknowledge the good. Remember how you’re supposed to catch your kids doing good? We have a tendency to catch them doing bad. It takes work to remember to look for the good and ignore the things they didn’t do — like take out the trash. Give yourself credit for doing the good things. We all mess up but we don’t need to dwell on it.


     

  • 00:19

    John Carver Show - How to Make Stress Your FRIEND!

    in Self Help

    I found this talk on stress on YouTube.  Amazing stuff!


    Kelly McGonigal is a health psychologist who is known for her work in the field of 'science help'—popular explication of scientific research—as it relates to achieving personal goals despite inner conflict. 


    Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal is a leader in the growing field of “science-help.” Through books, articles, courses and workshops, McGonigal works to help us understand and implement the latest scientific findings in psychology, neuroscience and medicine.


    Straddling the worlds of research and practice, McGonigal holds positions in both the Stanford Graduate School of Business and the School of Medicine. Her most recent book, The Willpower Instinct, explores the latest research on motivation, temptation and procrastination, as well as what it takes to transform habits, persevere at challenges and make a successful change.


    She is now researching a new book about the "upside of stress," which will look at both why stress is good for us, and what makes us good at stress. In her words: "The old understanding of stress as a unhelpful relic of our animal instincts is being replaced by the understanding that stress actually makes us socially smart -- it's what allows us to be fully human."


    What others say


    “She is a leader driven by compassion and pragmatism.” — Forbes.com

  • John Carver Show - A Different Frame of Mind

    in Self Help

    This is a sermon I taught in October 2015.


    There was once a grasshopper who loved life. He spent his time lazing in the sun, eating when he wanted to, sleeping when he wanted to, generally enjoying himself all the time. He lived like he did not have a care in the world.


    One day as he was sun-bathing, he saw an ant pushing a bread crumb across the ground. The grasshopper asked, "Hey brother! What are you doing?" The ant replied, "I am gathering food for the winter while the weather is still warm. Once winter sets in, I am going to stay home and just eat from my stock of food."


    The grasshopper made fun of the ant's dull life and went on sun bathing saying, "There's enough time for such boring work. You should take time to have fun like me." Soon the summer passed and the winter started to set in.


    As the weather became colder, it became harder for the grasshopper to get out. However, he soon started to feel hungry. He decided to brave the weather and find himself some food....


     


    Mark 1:16 As He was going along by the Sea of Galilee, He saw Simon and Andrew, the brother of Simon, casting a net in the sea; for they were fishermen. 17 And Jesus said to them, “Follow Me, and I will make you become fishers of men.” 18 Immediately they left their nets and followed Him. 19 Going on a little farther, He saw [l]James the son of Zebedee, and John his brother, who were also in the boat mending the nets. 20 Immediately He called them; and they left their father Zebedee in the boat with the hired servants, and went away [m]to follow Him.


    My theme is about having a different frame of mind…having a PROACTIVE mindset!

  • 00:54

    John Carver Show - I Am The Storm

    in Self Help

    I think many of us walk around being an umbrella….dodging the rain and the storms in our lives.  For me, it’s a constant struggle to remain on the offensive instead of the defensive.


    I read a quote, once, that (currently – October 2015) I have stuck to my laptop.  “Fate whispers to the warrior “you cannot withstand this storm.”  The warrior whispers back “I am the storm.”  556 Productions


    I’ve read through the Bible many times and it seems, to me, that those who make it BIG TIME are those who PUSH even when they don’t think they can push any more.


    Benjamin Franklin dropped out of school at age ten.


    Franklin's parents could only afford to keep him in school until his tenth birthday. That didn't stop the great man from pursuing his education. He taught himself through voracious reading, and eventually went on to invent the lightning rod and bifocals. Oh, and he became one of America's Founding Fathers.


    Thomas Edison failed 1,000 times before creating the lightbulb. 


    “MOST PEOPLE wait around until their circumstances change and things to look better. The FEW make the circumstances change so things WILL look better.” Me


    When I look at all the people now and throughout history who are going through and have endured so much more than me how dare I whine and complain.

  • 00:57

    John Carver Show - What to do with your Gifts

    in Self Help

    “A wise lover values not so much the gift of the lover as the love of the giver.” Thomas A Kempis.


     


    When you and I get confused or so arrogant to understand that we should be servants to other people we miss out on the best life has in store for us.


     


    Gary Inrig, Life in His Body shares:  Several years ago, two students graduated from the Chicago-Kent College of Law. The highest ranking student in the class was a blind man named Overton and, when he received his honor, he insisted that half the credit should go to his friend, Kaspryzak. They had met one another in school when the armless Mr. Kaspryzak had guided the blind Mr. Overton down a flight of stairs. This acquaintance ripened into friendship and a beautiful example of interdependence. The blind man carried the books which the armless man read aloud in their common study, and thus the individual deficiency of each was compensated for by the other. After their graduation, they planned to practice law together.


     


    5-7 That precious memory triggers another: your honest faith—and what a rich faith it is, handed down from your grandmother Lois to your mother Eunice, and now to you! And the special gift of ministry you received when I laid hands on you and prayed—keep that ablaze! God doesn’t want us to be shy with his gifts, but bold and loving and sensible.


     


    One of the biggest hurdles is to stop comparing what you have to offer (the world) with that other people have to offer the world.

  • 00:59

    John Carver Show - Meanwhile I Will...

    in Christianity

    For many years I have been in thousands of homes, across, three states and DC, and have seen quite a bit.
    There have been times when I’ve seen many people waiting for “their ship (or fortune) to come in” or they play the lottery all the times hoping to strike it rich.
    I’ve seen people, “stuck,” with a problem and spend years waiting for the problem to resolve itself instead of the people resolving the problem.
    Too many people create a lifestyle of “meanwhile.”
    There is a tendency, for some of us, to assume good things will run us down and tackle us.
    The 5 Ps
    Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance
    Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance
    Prior Planning Provides People Protection
    Proper Planning Provides People Protection
    Proper Practice Prepares Perfect Players
    Poor Planning Promotes Poor Performance


    There seems to be credibility places on proper preparation versus WAITING for good things to happen.
    “If you’re proactive, you don’t have to wait for circumstances or other people to create perspective expanding experiences. You can consciously create your own. – Stephen Covey
    I remember reading several stories about Jesus when he encouraged others to not wait around for what they want…tweak…believe…work and watch.
    A few weeks ago I shared Jesus was challenged with feeding 5,000 hungry people with just a few scraps of food.  
    There are times when you have to be proactive in leveraging what’s available to create a miracle in your life.
    Proactive people LOOK FOR miracles waiting to be birthed.


     


     

  • 00:51

    John Carver Show - Unbelievable Focus

    in Self Help

    I cannot get over the intensity of some people to stay focused for years and decades until they reach what they’re striving for in life.
    “Be on guard. The road widens, and many of the detours are seductive.” ? David Foster Wallace
    “Knowing the Techniques of Survival........
    Life has a way of knocking you off balance and even knocking you down from time to time.
    There’s many verses, in the Bible, that talk about focus.  
    Psalm 42:1-2 - “As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?”  
    Can you hear the desperation on the writers words?
    Psalm 63:1-4The Message (MSG)
    A David Psalm, When He Was out in the Judean Wilderness
    63 God—you’re my God!
        I can’t get enough of you!
    I’ve worked up such hunger and thirst for God,
        traveling across dry and weary deserts.
    2-4 So here I am in the place of worship, eyes open,
        drinking in your strength and glory.
    In your generous love I am really living at last!
        My lips brim praises like fountains.
    I bless you every time I take a breath;
        My arms wave like banners of praise to you.
    Desperation, many times, causes intense focus!
    Washington Post (Feb 2014) - Earlier this week, fishermen near the Marshall Islands in the western Pacific found 37-year-old Jose Salvador Alvarenga adrift in a 23-foot fiberglass boat. Alvarenga had a fantastic story: He'd been lost at sea for 13 months, after setting off for a day of shark fishing near the Mexican coast where he lives, 5,500 miles away. Some have expressed skepticism about his story, but he would have been far from the first to endure such seemingly unendurable odds.
     


    www.johnwcarver.com

  • 00:16

    John Carver Show - How to Stay Calm... (Daniel Levitan)

    in Self Help

    Years ago I was introduced to TED TALKS (http://www.ted.com/) by my amazing friend and photographer Arthur Hawkins (http://www.arthurhawkinsphotography.com/index2.php#/home/).  Today's show is from one of those short talks that TED is known for around the world.


    Daniel Joseph Levitin, FRSC is an American cognitive psychologist, neuroscientist, best-selling author, musician and record producer.  In this show he shared a few tips to help all of us keep our stress level down.  You can get more information about him at http://daniellevitin.com/publicpage/


     

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