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    Jenn A. Nocera & A Humorous Look at Comedy

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    We all know that laughter is the best medicine. Since the 2 Annual Asbury Park Comedy Festival is coming to town on August 24, this is a good time to talk about why laughter and comedy are essential to our personal well-being. Poet Robert Frost said, “If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane.” It’s never too late to start seeing the lighter side of life. Having a good sense of humor is an essential social skill. A well executed joke can get you out of a tight spot or help you get away with things that others would not be able to get away with. Humor is often the gateway to friendship and a trait we typically desire in a partner. A sense of humor can be a lifesaver in a relationship. The ability to laugh at one’s self and at life’s challenges allows a person to maintain a proper perspective when dealing with sensitive issues within a relationship. Couples who are playful and teasing can defuse potentially volatile situations with their humor. Sharing the pleasure of humor creates a sense of intimacy and connection between two people, qualities that define solid, successful relationships. But what makes us laugh? For some it's sitcoms like Seinfeld, or classic I Love Lucy. Or maybe you like controversial humor from comedians like Richard Pryor or George Carlin. Ever laugh out loud while reading a book? The only book that ever did that for me was Joseph Heller’s Catch 22. Humor is, of course, subjective, but most of us have something that tickles our funny bone and makes us dissolve into uncontrollable laughter. Join Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera and me for a humorous look at comedy. After the show, please check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.

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    Jenn A Nocera: Discussion on "The Power of Now"

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    Believe in today, your life is now. There is a plaque with these words that I have had for years. Having read this book, these words take on a deeper meaning. According to spiritual teacher and author of The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle, living fully in the present is the key to happiness and enlightenment. But what does “living in the now” mean? If you have ever thought your life would improve when you got a raise, or won the lottery, or lost weight, then you’re not living in the NOW. Life is a journey, a series of “nows,” not the final and future destination. Tolle says “Nothing has happened in the past; it happened in the Now. Nothing will ever happen in the future; it will happen in the Now.” Human minds are conditioned to think in terms of past, present and future. We are preoccupied with past memory and future anticipation, rather than focusing on the now. The past forms our identity and what has led us to our current life circumstances. We focus on the future because this is where we believe our dreams and hopes will come to fruition – what we imagine to be our salvation, but actually a projection of the mind. We can never actually experience the past or the future. The past is gone, and in reality we experienced it as a sequence of “Nows.” Tolle writes, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” Please join me and Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera of Formula for Excellence for a discussion of The Power of Now. This New York Times bestseller has been translated into 33 languages, sold over 3 million copies, and is widely regarded as one of the most influential spiritual books of our time. After the show, please check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional info.

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    Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera on Sympathy, Empathy & Compassion

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    Buddha says, Compassion is that which makes the heart of the good move at the pain of others. It crushes and destroys the pain of others; thus, it is called compassion. It is called compassion because it shelters and embraces the distressed. Sympathy is the heightened awareness of another’s plight such as I’m sorry for your loss. Empathy is the ability to step into the shoes of another person, attempting to understand their feelings and perspectives. Compassion goes a step further, where you first feel empathy and then a desire to help alleviate the suffering of another. Compassion is used to express the same feeling as empathy, but you have a desire to take action. Over the last decade, neuroscientists have identified an empathy circuit in our brains which, if damaged, can curtail our ability to understand what other people are feeling. Evolutionary biologists have shown that humans are social animals who have naturally evolved to care for each other, like our primate cousins. Psychologists feel that we are primed for empathy by strong attachment relationships in the first two years of life. Empathy is a topic for scientists, business leaders, educaters, and political activists. According to research, empathy is a habit we should cultivate to improve the quality of our own lives. The buzz stems from a revolutionary shift in the science of how we understand human nature. The old view that we are essentially self-interested creatures is being nudged firmly to the side by evidence that we are also wired for empathy, social cooperation, and mutual aid. Join me and Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera as we discuss this topic. After the show, check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live.

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    Jenn A Nocera: Living by The Four Agreements

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    On my refrigerator, among the clutter of magnets, photos, and my neglected grocery list, is a small piece of paper with the phrase Choices & Consequences printed out. It’s been on my refrig for over a year and is my constant reminder that almost every decision in my life boils down to those words. As I was reading Don Miguel Ruiz’s 1997 best seller The Four Agreements, I was stunned when I came to page 99 and found the following: “Your life is the manifestation of your dream; it is an art. And you can change your life anytime if you aren’t enjoying the dream. Dream masters create a masterpiece of life; they control the dreams by making choices. Everything has consequences and a dream master is aware of the consequences.” So little did I realize when I stuck that piece of paper on my refrig, that I already had an inkling and a basic concept of The Four Agreements. Don Miguel Ruiz describes four principles, or agreements, to practice in order to create love and happiness in your life. Adopting and committing to these agreements is simple. Actually living and keeping these Four Agreements might be one of the toughest things you will ever do but can also be one of the most life altering things you will ever do. The Four Agreements are Be Impeccable With Your Word, Don’t’ Take Anything Personally, Don’t Make Assumptions, and Always Do Your Best. Sounds so easy and simplistic, right? Join Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera of Formula for Excellence and me for a lively discussion of the agreements. After the interview, check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.

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    Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera Talks Body Adornment

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    Adorning yourself to enhance beauty, pledge allegiance to a group, express your identity, or show off status has been a part of the human experience for as long as there’s been humans. Body adornments are popular in various forms in virtually every corner of the world. Examples include tattooing, piercing, branding, or scarification. These days body piercing is everywhere, especially among young people who often get several parts of their bodies pierced  as an affirmation of their individuality, as a means of sexual gratification or stimulation, to reclaim their bodies from physical or emotional trauma, or as an adornment. It’s common to see pierced noses, navel, lips, and tongues. And there are the pierced places you don’t see such as nipples and other areas further south. I had my ears pierced when I was in 9 grade and that was only after considerable pleading. How times have changed! One of the most popular and ancient forms of body adornment, other than jewelry, originated with ancient and tribal cultures before spreading into European society -- the ancient practice of tattooing. Many native or tribal populations had traditions of facial tattoos. Tattooing was also very popular among the Polynesian Islanders. The concept of decorating oneself with body art was first brought to Europe by sailors who had learned of the practice while traveling through Polynesia. Tattoos are acceptable among mainstream Americans, and are often done in areas that can be covered up while at work. The times they are a-changing, and few people are shocked by tattoos and piercings as body adornment. Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera and I will give our two cents on this subject and discuss other adornments like the vajazzler. Really. Google it. After the interview, please check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.

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    Give Peace A Chance with Life Coach Jenn A Nocera

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    How safe do you feel? New Jersey ranks 28 out of 50 on the US Peace Index. The 3 most peaceful states are Maine, Vermont and New Hampshire. Maine has been the most peaceful state for 11 years. Louisiana, Tennessee and Nevada are the 3 least peaceful states. Louisiana is the least peaceful state for the 20th year. The South is the least peaceful region; it has highest homicide, violent crime, incarceration rates, and highest rate of gun ownership. The 3 least peaceful countries are Afghanistan, Somalia, and Syria. Peace is essential to resolve global challenges facing humanity. The Global Peace Index (GPI) is the world’s leading measure of national peacefulness. Now in its 7th year, it ranks 162 nations according to their absence of violence. Without peace, we can’t achieve the levels of cooperation, inclusiveness, and social equity necessary to resolve poverty, global health issues, and climate change. The GPI is developed by Institute for Economics and Peace (IEP). It has 22 indicators, ranging from a nation’s level of military expenditure to its relations with neighboring countries and the percentage of prison population. The GPI defines peace as the absence of violence and the absence of the fear of violence. Some experts feel world peace and prosperity can be attained through the realization of 5 fundamental freedoms: freedom of speech, freedom of religion, freedom from want, freedom from fear, and freedom for the environment. These 5 freedoms establish a framework within which all other human rights, and therefore peace, can flourish. Join me and Life Coach Jenn A Nocera for a look at the GPI and what it means to the planet. After the show, please check After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.

  • 00:31

    Jenn A. Nocera -- Support for Emotional Eaters

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    We’ve discussed the topic of Emotional Eating before on JCL and felt we wanted to provide some final thoughts on this subject. Life Coach, Jenn A. Nocera, of Formula for Excellence, is an expert in this field, and with the warm weather and bathing suit season approaching, this seems like the right time for her wisdom and support. Jenn will be sharing some ideas for support mechanisms to keep you on track for the healthy lifestyle you’re aiming for. Emotional eating can have a devastating impact on your physical and mental well-being. Support can come from family, friends, and professions, but even social media sites can be a powerful source of support in your times of need. The fact is that you’ll need a strong and nurturing support network to insure your success as you work towards your goal of a healthy lifestyle. Life is all about choices and consequences. Are you still in denial and believe you can conquer your emotional eating on your own? Now is the time to acknowledge that some of your choices may have derailed your best intentions for success. Here is an opportunity to learn from Life Coach Jenn about the positive effects of emotional support and how this will aid you in achieving your goals of healthy living and ending the cycle of emotional eating. After the interview, please visit After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.

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    Jenn A. Nocera: All You Need is Love in February

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    It’s February and love is in the air. All you need is love. Love is a many-splendored thing. I can’t help falling in love with you. When I fall in love, it will be forever. Wait a minute! If love was easy to find, there would be no one on dating sites. In reality, the course of true love never did run smooth. Physical attraction is one of those “you know it when you see it” concepts. Sometimes we confuse the feeling of attraction with the emotion of love. Not being able to distinguish these can keep people on the same path of bad relationship selection because they keep choosing the same way and getting the same wrong people. Attraction can also be based on behavioral characteristics. Some women are attracted to guys with a great sense of humor. Others are attracted to athletic guys because of the behavioral qualities of athletes. And then there’s the attraction of the “bad boy.” Ladies, you know what I’m talking about. These rebels without causes are confident, exciting, adventurous, and mysterious. They’re totally indifferent, very masculine, and being with them is a challenge. Hey, I know. I’m attracted to them too! As Baby said in Dirty Dancing, "I'm scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I’m with you!" Cher has a different take: "Men are a luxury. Not a necessity."
    Guys have issues too; they are often swept away by “bad girls."  Mean, manipulative women who make constant and unreasonable demands. And you still miss her? What about the nice guys and girls of the world? Do they stand a chance?  Join Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera and me for light-hearted observations about love. After the interview, check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live.

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    Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera: Family Dynamics & the Holidays

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    Is this the accurate description of your family holiday gathering? “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us, we were all going direct to Heaven, we were all going direct the other way.” Oh yeah, Charles Dickens nailed the vision of family dynamics during the holidays. Bonus points if you know the origin of the quote. The holidays are here, and it can be the most wonderful time of the year – or not. Families are highly complex units that are bonded by strong emotions. Three important parts of a family dynamic are assigned roles, inherited patterns of behavior, and unspoken rules. These help determine everyone's general sense of health, happiness, and stability, and within each family can be found good and bad aspects of the dynamic. If you want to have a happier and less stressful holiday experience, consider modifying your role in the dynamic by understanding some key issues such as needs, emotions, flexibility, and perspective. Each of these issues can be either a hot button or an implement of change for the better. Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera of Formula for Excellence will expand on these issues and we’ll offer some options to make this holiday season truly “the best of times.” After the interview, please check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.

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    Jenn A. Nocera: Forgiveness & Letting Go of Grudges

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    At some point in time most everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your mother criticized your parenting skills, your trusted co-worker sabotaged a project, or your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even a taste for vengeance. However if you don't practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you can also embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy. Consider how forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. If you're an unforgiving person, you might pay the price repeatedly by bringing anger and bitterness into every new relationship and new experience. Your life can become so wrapped up in the past wrong that you are unable to enjoy the present. Take a “forgiveness journey” by grieving and letting go. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings peace that allows you to move forward with life and is good for the body and soul. It can lower blood pressure, heart rate, and reduce levels of depression, anxiety, and anger. Forgiving people tend to have better relationships and feel happier and more hopeful. The trouble is, most of us don't know how to do it. There's no manual for forgiveness and getting beyond betrayals, disappointments, and hurts from the past. Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera is on the case and will outline a 6-step program for letting go of grudges. Because at the end of the day, “don’t worry, be happy” makes the most sense. After the interview, please check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.

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    Jenn A. Nocera: Feeling Gratitude in the Aftermath of Sandy

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    A few weeks ago, Hurricane Sandy slammed the northeast and left a huge swath of devastation. Portions of the Jersey Shore are in ruins, there are billions of dollars in property damage, and lives have been disrupted. Let’s not even mention the power outages. So what is there to be grateful for? In the aftermath of Sandy, there was an outpouring of kindness and compassion. Those who had power rigged up charging stations; friends, neighbors, and strangers came together. Clothing drives were formed, hot meals were served, utility workers and EMS teams came to NJ from far and wide to help us get through the chaos and complexities of restoring order to our shattered reality. Gratitude is a basic human emotion that is about our ability to feel and express thankfulness and appreciation. Have you thanked those that blessed you with their selfless efforts and worked non-stop through the storm? Saying "thank you" is a way of recognizing or honoring each other and makes a powerful connection between the giver and receiver. “If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” said Meister Eckhart,  a German theologian, philosopher who died in 1327. Can more appropriate words be found – even in light of the disaster that came into our lives? Life Coach Jenn A. Nocera of Formula for Excellence and I will talk about why we feel gratitude (we’re alive, we’re here with you) and how to make gratitude part of your life. Thanksgiving is almost here, and we need to shift our focus to the blessings we have in our lives. Are you safe now? If your answer is “yes,” then Thanksgiving has come early for you. After the show, please check out After Hours at Jersey Coastal Live for additional information.