SORT BY Relevancy
Hosted by Marti Oakley & Debbie Dahmer
Guest: Mary Bush
Genevieve Bush lost her husband to a stroke in June 2004, what was to follow his death was nothing she could have ever prepared herself for, although she tried she has now become the victim of guardianship abuse.
In 2005 my mom removed the POA my brothers obtained in 2004 having both parents sign estate plans and wills they wrote and assigned themselves after my father's stroke. Mom sued the brothers for return of monies they moved to themselves in 2007. The brothers disappearing out of our lives after winning the 2007 suit then returned at the end of 2009 filing a lawsuit on both mom and me to obtain guardianship over mom. The court used this petition in its own wish to mend a broken family by awarding guardianship to myself and back to the sons mom removed Through now over seven years of non stop court hearings during which the court in 2011 stripped my mom of all her rights she has now been taken from her home and held in a facility since May 18th without a hearing. The Department of Aging claimed due to conflicts arising in moms care, was in danger and had to be removed from her home.
Since being removed mom has been injured in the facility, she has been diminished, isolated and restricted from walking and even going outside. The Emergency involuntary commitment hearing has been scheduled for August 24th.. There are also other court hearings and filings surrounding this guardianship still active in others courts not yet finalized.
THE GEORGE WILDER JR.
ELDER ABUSE IN AMERICA.
THINGS IN THE NEWS.
AND A LOT MORE.
Elder Financial Abuse.
It is a dirty, disgusting term that makes most normal folks cringe at the thought of such a thing. The sad fact is, it is out there...in your community...maybe in your own family...in so many forms and in so many paces, many consider it an epidemic. Go figure that.
This week, I am privileged to have Barbara-Anne Foley, Executive Director of the Harwich Council on Aging, as my special guest to help address this subject. In addition to her many duties in this important role, she has been able to leverage her experience with thousands of seniors and the stories they have told about financial abuse, by working with in partnership with the Harwich Police Department, trying to warn seniors about these frauds and scams.
For those of you who do not know her, Barbara-Anne began her career in mental health and career counseling in Braintree, MA. She also worked in an adult day care center and a nursing center on Cape Cod before landing her dream job with the Harwich Council on Aging in 1999. She can be reached there at (508) 430-7550.
She has developed a primary focus on Alzheimer's disease and hoarding, both population of which are growing in leaps and bounds.
In 2006, when her own father lost his 10 year battle to Alzheimer's disease, she and her family started the "Remembery Walk ---Dave Birtwell Memorial", raising over $150,000 to date for Alzheimer's patients and their families.
This show will hopefully help you understand:
How to recognize elder financial abuse
The different types of financial abuse
How to uncover it in your own family
What to do about it once you do discover it
This is an important show. Please tune in and tell as many people as you can to do so as well.
Public historian David E. Paterson studies people who lived in nineteenth-century Upson County, Georgia, especially those who experienced slavery and Reconstruction. A civilian employee of the US Navy by day, he spends his leisure hours researching and writing local history. David has helped manage the Slave Research Forum at AfriGeneas.com since about 2001. David emigrated to the U.S. in 1958 from Scotland and was granted U.S. citizenship in 1975. He lives in Norfolk, Virginia.
We will discuss the most fruitful probate records for slavery research in most states, for the period about 1800 to 1865. The discussion may be less useful for the colonial period, or for the records of Louisiana or Spanish colonial Florida whose laws and processes derived from different legal traditions. In addition, David will describe the process flow from one record to the next – the purpoe of each record – and what kinds of slavery-related information maybe found in the record. Particular attention will focus on records that are sometimes overlooked in guides or how-to books; especially annual returns and vouchers. Researchers may find records of a deceased slaveholder separated by many years – in cases when a “life estate” came back under supervision of the court as a “residual estate.” Finally we will show the connections and similarities between probate records and guardians’ records.
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Tonight's special guest is Kym Harmony Tracy from Robinson, Illinois, a returning NAASCA family member who's a survivor and activist and an Inspirational Christian speaker. "For most of my life I've have heard, 'but you seem so normal.' Well, I'm far from normal. As a matter of fact, I call my life a beautiful mess," says Kym. "And then, just when I thought I could no longer take it, when I felt I couldn't even breathe, God entered my life at just the right time." Kym reports, "I have experienced many things from most all forms of [sexual] mental, physical and emotional abuse as well as divorce and dysfunctional relationships." She was in the second grade when she was first molested. At 9 she was abused by a babysitter and at 16, still a virgin, she was date-raped by her then boyfriend. Kym says, "Since we last spoke I decided I really needed to get down to the rawness of my wounds. I felt to really feel that true pain I needed to revisit the places that the monsters changed my life for ever." She goes on, "I went back to childhood places of attacks. I spoke with my rapist. I confronted my abusive father. I gained much more insight as to my purpose and what God has planted in my heart." She concludes, This past year has been a whirlwind of emotions and some have physically tried to stop me from speaking out. I AM READY TO ROAR!"
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Tonight's special guest is Deborah Dooley from Denver, Colorado, a NAASCA family member who's making her first appearance as a special guest on our show. "The support of the unity of your organization has already impacted me," she told us some time ago. "I already felt great about even making contact with you and knowing what you are doing that it gave me a refreshed hope about my own journey of healing." Deborah's a proud member of the Christian community, but also wrote me that she recognized the benefit of using a 12 step "design for living" for child abuse recovery, saying, "Many times, I have thought about how valuable it would be to have a 12 step program for abuse issues that could translate to help all people since the 12 step is so effective in its use." A 12 step program encourages belief in a Power greater than oneself, of course, but allows for a God as you understand Him. She said, "I, personally, hope to go through this 12 step program that you have developed" (please see www.ASCA12step.org). Deborah was born in Hawaii but lives in Denver now, and tells us she's the proud mother of a daughter who unfortunately ended her life in July 2013 after a long series of very traumatic circumstances. "My life up until her death was focused on getting her safe from abuse by her dad since the courts don't protect kids from this," she says, "and there's no place to turn for help at this point to protect your child. I am now working on what is the best and most expedient solution for the courts." She believes that these kinds of preventable tragedies can be stopped from happening to children and families. Deborah hopes to work toward making our country be more loving towards its children.
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Gratitude Night !! On this Thanksgiving evening, we'll pause to give expressions of our gratitude for our recovery from child abuse and trauma, and express our desire that we can be effective in our mission .. (1) to educate the public to stop the silence and (2) to offer hope and help to the still suffering adult survivor of child abuse. Wearing a Blue Ribbon is the symbol of Child Abuse Awareness! Millions of abuse victims (men and women) hide the story of their experience well into adulthood. A huge number continue to suffer from pain, anger, fear, shame and embarrassment for decades. Most will agree their traumas have resulted in an inability to trust, make good decisions and have healthy relationships. But giving up the secret is often how recovery begins, one survivor talking to another. Join Bill Murray and his co-hosts, panelists and guests, many of them abuse survivors, others supporters and friends, for an informed discussion of the many important issues that surround child abuse. Anonymous calls and chat room participation are encouraged. ~~ Please see our web site at: www.NAASCA.org
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Tonight's special guest is Barbara Ochoa from San Francisco, a returning NAASCA family member who's Executive Director at Help4Guys.org. Barbara's here once again to talk about the events that are planned in celebration of "Male Abuse Awareness Week" (MAAW) which is held each year during the first week of December. MAAW is an awareness campaign that was started by the P. Luna Foundation in 2008, and the website is an extension of that program. The main focus is to change the negative social stigma that goes along with the topic of males who are victims of sexual or emotional abuse and domestic violence. "Most abused males avoid therapy and treatment because they are too ashamed or afraid of being judged for doing so," according to the web site. "By bringing the subject to light once a year we hope to make this topic more socially acceptable and in return more men will feel comfortable enough to seek the help they desperately need but in many cases avoid." Since the awareness campaign's inception in 2008 we at NAASCA have been pleased to participate hand-in-hand with Barbara Ochoa, and Bill Murray has appeared at several of the live events. We too want to help men who were victims of past abuse break their silence, in order to inspire younger men into getting treatment. Like Barbara, we have seen more and more celebrities come forward and many more news stories reporting on males who are victims of abuse.
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Tonight's special guest is Debra Monk from Enfield, New Hampshire, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse from multiple perpetrators over several years throughout her early childhood and into her early teens. She's now become an anti-abuse advocate who's now writing a series of children's books addressing a topic that's close to her heart. "Most of my abusers were direct or close family members," Debra says. She explains the new book series for children touches on the tough but important topic of family violence and abuse, and what that might look like through the eyes and perspective of a child. That's because Debra eventually came to understand that there was a systematic cycle of abuse within her family that had already been going on for many generations. "I'll address family violence, such as domestic and intimate partner violence, sibling abuse, sexual abuse, incest, neglect and physical abuse. Abuse and malnourishment can create patterns and characteristics that when, if not dealt with appropriately may cause repeated cycles or systems of family violence and abuse to occur later on and well into their adulthood lives." Debra's published before. Her work "A Journey of Poetry from an Adult Survivor of Sexual Abuse" is available as an e-book and author Caroline De Chavigny included Debra's missive in her book, "Letter to a Monster." Debra says her mission and goal is to create positive change that reduces the risk for violence in already broken and volatile homes.
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Q & A Night - You'll suggest the themes for tonight's show, which will involve any topic from the world of public safety, violence prevention, and child abuse and trauma. Special co-host Dr. Debra Warner, Psy.D., a Los Angeles based Forensic Psychologist will lead the discussion. ~~ NAASCA is pleased to announce that Debra will be making regular special co-host appearances on upcoming Tuesday night question-and-answer style community participation shows. An educator and violence prevention expert, Dr. Warner will assist SCAN host and NAASCA founder Bill Murray field questions and lead a variety of topic discussions suggested by our call-in participants. Debra's understanding of the issues of child abuse and trauma spring not only from a professional perspective, but also from a personal one. Multiple members of her own family have been victims of predators. She'll share how she's participated in their struggle with surviving and thriving. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org
THE GEORGE WILDER JR. SHOW.
THINGS IN THE NEWS.
AND LOTS MORE.
On tonight's show, we'll look at the sobering combo of the Sun and Saturn conjuncting in Sag, which starts the week off in a sobering tone after the feel good and festivities of the holidays. We'll look ahead at the celestial weather for the week ahead and explore the meaning of the Via Combusta as it relates to the last degrees of the sign of Libra. Lastly, I'll have a special offer for all listeners for my upcoming webinar on Chiron.
Please join me.