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  • 00:46

    Sexual abuse

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    Sexual abuse is very traumatic and devasting to the person encountering it.  How can we stop this?  

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1344

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    Tonight's special guest is Nikki DuBose from Los Angeles, a child abuse survivor who was later abused as a young professional model. Among other things, Nikki advocates on her web site for better regulation of the modeling industry (she tells me about 40% of models have an eating disorder and that there's a lot of sexual abuse/harassment). Nikki also works closely with Matt Sandusky at the "Peaceful Hearts Foundation," where she serves on the Executive Board and is their Volunteer Director. Nikki says, "I wholeheartedly believe that full recovery is possible, but it starts with speaking out and reducing the shame and stigma that is so often attached to mental health issues." In her upcoming memoir, "Washed Away: From Darkness to Light," due out later this year, Nikki details how being sexually abused as a child led to a seventeen-year battle with serious mental health issues such as eating disorders, depression, self-harm, body dysmorphic disorder, substance abuse and sexual addictions. During her career as a professional model, she encountered a great deal of success, yet that prosperity came with a high price - one that often mirrored the sexual abuse from her childhood. Coming to a place of full healing has not been easy for Nikki, but she says, "Being an advocate is what allows me to wake up every day and feel truly alive. All of that pain that I lived with for so many years is now channeled into making a difference in society. Whatever issues you’re passionate about, use your voice and the resources you have; love yourself first and from there you can help to change the world."

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1345

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    Tonight's special guest is Richard Sipe from La Jolla, California, a Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor who earlier spent 18 years as a Benedictine monk and priest. Now married, Richard is devoted full time to research into the sexual and celibate practices of Roman Catholic bishops and priests. That path has lead him to the study of the sexual teaching of the church and its effects on behavior - especially sexual abuse of minors by clergy - and the tangle of sexual problems that some people claim are blocking every religious agenda and destroying beyond repair the credibility of the Catholic Church in sexual matters. The Academy Award winning Best Picture for 2016, "Spotlight," featured his words as part of their investigation into clergy abuse. Richard was trained specifically to deal with the mental health problems of Roman Catholic Priests. In the process of training and therapy, he conducted a 25-year ethnographic study of the celibate / sexual behavior of that population. His study, first published in 1990, is now considered a classic. Richard has published six books that explore these themes, including A Secret World and Celibacy in Crisis.' Widely interviewed by media he's known internationally and has participated in 12 documentaries on celibacy and priest sexual abuse aired by HBO, BBC, and other networks in the United States, United Kingdom, and France. Richard has no professional sympathy for the cardinals and bishops and other ranking church officials who cover up their crimes. "Some of them are so terrible," he says. "I mean the plain lying that I've seen, bishop after bishop saying, 'No, this was never true. I don't know anything. I can't remember anything.' And sometimes the bishop just smiles. One bishop said, 'I only lie when I have to.'"

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1338

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    Q & A Night - You'll suggest the themes for tonight's show, which will involve any topic from the world of public safety, violence prevention, and child abuse and trauma. ~~ NAASCA is pleased to announce these "Open Mike" night question-and-answer style community participation shows. NAASCA founder Bill Murray field questions and lead a variety of topic discussions suggested by our call-in participants. Our panel members have an understanding of the issues of child abuse and trauma that springs not only from their personal one life experience but also from their activism. Most were child abuse victims at one time, struggled with surviving and now are healing. They're thriving as warriors in the fight against child abuse and trauma. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website:www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1341

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    Tonight's special guest is Joy T.J. Riley from Baltimore, Maryland, a child abuse survivor nearly from birth who's now an activist and radio show host of "Get Your JOY In The Morning". Joy says, "My trauma of sexual abuse began not long out of my mother's womb by a relative. I didn't remember much at first. It took years before understanding I suffered from PTSD." Joy was also molested by a baby sister and two relatives. "It was the last occurrence that pushed me into writing as a way to cope with all the emotions," Joy says. "I was angry because in nearly all the cases, authority figures abused their authority over me." Joy's also gone through domestic abuse and adult rape .. and it's been a long haul. But things are different now. As she explains, "It took many years before I understood there were long term effects." Eventually Joy began writing about what it's like for survivors not just as children but about the journey of healing. "I interviewed other survivors like myself. In order for me to interview others, I had to go back and remember everything I felt. It was painful but I'm in a better place." Now her focus is on healing through writing, speaking, community work and her faith. The motto of "Get Your JOY In The Morning" is that it's through faith that one finds purpose and healing. Joy's also involved with the "Safe Shores - Washington D.C. Children's Advocacy Center," a child-friendly direct service nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting and working directly with child victims of sexual and physical abuse in the District of Columbia.

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1340

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    Tonight's special guest is Cecibel Contreras from the Bronx, NY, an advocate for children's rights as well as a survivor of incest, child sexual abuse and human trafficking. At the age of eight years old she was first molested by her grandmother, and later by her biological father, at home, where no one could see. After five years of this she came forward to the police and her father was arrested and sentenced to 10 years. But Cecibel was placed in different foster homes in which she continued to be physically, emotionally and sexually abused. Years later she fells prey to a human trafficker (a supposed 'boyfriend') who took her to Colombia. Once there she was raped, tortured, drugged and sold to different men for 6 months. The men who would buy these services were politicians, priest, lawyers and “respected” members of our society. Cecibel was rescued and brought back to the US. Her life continued to spiral out of control with a drug and alcohol addiction. An accident left her a in coma for 4 months. That’s when her life changed. She heard the voice of God or a higher power say “You must go back and continue your unfinished mission.” She started the healing journey. She sought help, checked herself in a program and cleaned up. Started college and graduates with a MSW degree. Today Cecibel is an advocate for child abuse, child sexual abuse, human trafficking, the founder of Incest Survivors United Voices of America, and It Was Me Campaign, and author of three books, 'Rainbows in The Dark' and two children’s books, 'The Princess & The River of Truth' and 'Joseph’s Secret'.

  • 01:27

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1342

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    Q & A Night - You'll suggest the themes for tonight's show, which will involve any topic from the world of public safety, violence prevention, and child abuse and trauma. Special co-host Dr. Debra Warner, Psy.D., a Los Angeles based Forensic Psychologist, professor at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology and coordinator of the annual SCRIPT conference in LA, will help lead the discussion. ~~ NAASCA is pleased to announce that Debra will be making regular special co-host appearances on upcoming Tuesday night question-and-answer style community participation shows. An educator and violence prevention expert, Dr. Warner will assist SCAN host and NAASCA founder Bill Murray field questions and lead a variety of topic discussions suggested by our call-in participants. Debra's understanding of the issues of child abuse and trauma spring not only from a professional perspective, but also from a personal one. Multiple members of her own family have been victims of predators. She'll share how she's participated in their struggle with surviving and thriving. ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1337

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "Examining Institutional Abuse" with special co-host Dr Jill Jones-Solderman (PhD, MSW, MSHS), a NAASCA family member. In this series of monthly shows we'll specifically take a look at institutional abuse. ~~ TONIGHT'S TOPIC: The McMartin Case - The Case for Children as Unreliable Reporters of Sexual Abuse ~~ Reporting allegations of Child Sexual Abuse is the dilemma for the protective parent. A child makes a statement and .. "OMG .. What do I do?"!! Parents who report allegations of abuse instantly face accusations of "coaching, brain washing, alienation and revenge, especially if the allegation is against a family member or spouse. The McMartin case, based in California (1983 - 1990), represents ground zero for the formal elaboration of studies by psychologists demonstrating through "laboratory" staging of structured interviews, the manner in which children can be coached, influenced, subject to memory insertion. The new truth, elaborated as scientific certainty, was embraced by the Criminal Justice System. "Child Protective Services" and the Family Courts found another access port to transfer children into the hands of their abusers through engagement in the strong arm tactics of Judicial Discretion and multiple forms of malfeasance and fraud. ~~ NAASCA knows "institutional abuse" is rampant, worldwide, and dramatically effects childhood experience of our youth, frequently causing trauma that lasts a lifetime. Many issues of child abuse involve dealing with the courts and law enforcement, foster care, child protection services, CASA and CAC organizations, etc. Jill's experience with her Foundation for Child Victims of Family Courts and her US Whistleblower effort uniquely position her to speak to these issues.

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1343

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    Tonight's special guest is Misty Reynolds from Spokane, Washington, a NAASCA volunteer and a survivor of child hood trauma from as early as she can remember until she was 18. She'd struggled with drugs and alcohol in her teens, cleaned up briefly when she got pregnant, and had a child in her senior year. "I went through the AmeriCorps program after graduation becoming a peer model at the school," she says. "Mentoring mediating and helping my peers get out of the chaos they lived in." But that didn't last long "I picked up the bottle where my step dad left off .. still functioning day to day to life." As Misty notes, "I married my last abuser and didn't know he was a pedophile until our son was 2." She explains, "I married him so I wouldn't have to testify against him for attempted strangulation." She cleaned up briefly during her second pregnancy, but relapsed when her son was 7 months old. Eventually she sought numbness, and began using meth. I cheated on my daughter's dad with my boy's father. "The next three years are still pretty blurry except the abuse. I remember that clearly." But her trauma didn't end there. As she implies, Misty is also a survivor of domestic violence. At various times she's worked with Betty Maxwell, a DV advocate in the community where she lived. Betty wanted her help to bring other survivors into her program. "The only problem was I couldn't stop using." And no wonder. "My mom was my supplier as well as my husband. I saw no escape so I continued to use." Misty's slowly but surely building back her life now however, noting, "I haven't worked in a long time due to PTSD and barely survived my ex-husband's wrath." We know she'll do well with NAASCA. 

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1334

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "Child Abuse, Trauma and 12-Step Recovery" - STEP 8 (and we'll include a bit about TRADITION 8) - SCAN host Bill Murray will be joined by special guest co-host Rivka Edery, MSW, LCSW, author of the book "Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide." Bill founded the recently launched Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (ASCAA). Together they will lead tonight's discussion on STEP 8: "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and become willing to make amends to them all." ~~ A child abuse survivor herself, Rivka Edery has been active in the 12 Step community for nearly 20 years. Bill Murray credits his 30 plus years of recovery to the spiritual power of the 12 Step program, too. ~~ Join us every two weeks to further examine a 12 Step approach to recovery from abuse. Next show we'll address STEP 9 & TRADITION 9. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/Trauma-12Step or write to Rivka at: rebecca.edery@gmail.com

  • 01:32

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1333

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    Tonight's special guest is Diane Roblin-Lee from Uxbridge, Ontario, an activist and author who says, "The sad thing is that, until people's lives have been touched by abuse, not many understand how to keep their kids safe or how critical it is to be educated." Her eight-booklet Predator-Proof Your Family series (first book "What's the Fuss?") is an attempt to explain things. Diane's son was molested by his grandfather. "Years later," she explains, "I discovered my husband (of 38 years) to be a child molester, one of the victims being my granddaughter. It was horrendous, but I was determined not to let the shattering of my precious family be for nought." Diane's husband was convicted of child molestation and went to prison. After diligently seeking the Lord regarding His plans and purposes, she obtained a divorce and immersed herself in researching how parents, grandparents, churches and organizations could protect the children in their care from child sexual abuse. She wondered how a young mom could ever be expected to recognize a predator – if she could live with one for 38 years and not know it. She was determined not to allow the shattering of her family to happen for nothing, but to use her hard-won insights to help other children and families to be protected from the horrific fallout from child-sexual abuse. Of her activism and writing she concludes, "The hope is that whatever we do can somehow protect others from having their lives shattered." Diane is the author / co-author of over 20 books, two of which have been Canadian best-sellers. See her website: www.bydesignmedia.ca