Urban Therapy with Sun #53 The 1st Time Making Love. The...

The 1st Time Making Love and the Last Time Having Sex is about the way we learn from our sexual experiences and whether we would describe our intimate physical experiences as having sex or making love.

On the surface many may think that having sex and making love are the same thing but as with many things there is truth and feelings in words as well as what the words convey.

For many people, the way their 1st sexual experiences are presented to them will often be indicative of what their sexual health and future may be like for many years to come. When someone consistently refers to intimacy as making love it usually means that there are often deeper emotional feelings associated with their sexual experiences and that they may look at sex as a connection made with their partner. Not something that should be taken lightly. Even if it happens in the backseat of a car.

When a person refers to intimacy as having sex it usually means that the person has an awareness of the overall physical nature of what copulation is and they may not have the same future connective expectations as the person who refers to sex as making love. Not that  people who refer to intimacy as having sex don't appreciate or place in value their sexual experiences but it may be that their overall expectations of what having sex will hold to them as far as an emotional connection to someone may not be as high. Even if it happens on a honeymoon.

On this show we will look at the way that either making love or having sex can transition from one to the other and see if there is any way or reason to return to the way we viewed our personal and universal sexuality.

Is there any going back once you've gone from having sex to making love or vice versa or are they just words used to describe doing the same thing?