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GREATLY influenced by the media, music and Hollywood, modern day dating has evolved into a sex driven, commitment lacking bowl of unparalleled eroticism. This perspective is meant to show how modern day dating affects tomorrow’s marriages (or lack thereof).  Today dating comes in many forms from one-night stands, speed and Internet dating, myspacing, blind dating and booty calls. There is also anonymous sex, recreational sex, casual sex, group sex, safe sex, dry sex and a host of other seductive sounding dating categories coined by the sexually active and glamorized by the media. 

Modern day dating refuses to take into consideration: bad character, sexual history, patterns of failed relationships, harmful attitudes, child abandonment, HIV/AIDS or other STDs.  Modern day dating renounces the impact of: criminal records, lying tongues, drug or alcohol addictions and child support conflicts. Modern day dating rejects the critical significance of: abortions, incarcerations, serial marriages, restraining orders or the fact that a person is abusive, promiscuous and violent prone or emotionally debilitated. Looks and appearances reign supreme and the mentalities are “Live for today! And “Express your sexuality!” I call these men and women, extreme sexual gamblers

What Has Modern Day Dating Produced?

It has produced men and women who mock sexual purity, openly berate morality and sneer at the sacredness of the marriage covenant. Modern day dating has procreated men and women who bear children they neither want nor care about. It has produced countless unwed mothers and fatherless children. Children who will never know their biological dads because their mommies can’t locate or determine which of the thugs, players, pimps, ballers or shot callers impregnated them.  These males would rather pay entry into a nightclub or purchase a twelve-pack of beer rather than buy a box of pampers for children they’ve fathered.  These smooth talking misogynistic males only view females as sex objects instead of wives or mothers. 

Modern day dating has bred multitudes of bitter women who have been played, dumped, lied to and cheated on, who have no hesitation about committing paternity fraud or filing false rape, abuse or molestation charges.  These females now suffer from low self-esteem, bipolar and borderline personality disorders. Their numerous dating catastrophes have caused them to become cynical, angry, enraged, confused, depressed and driven to use mind-altering drugs such as Prozac or Zoloft.  This group of females will go to almost any lengths to get revenge for being spurned or cast aside by their casual sex partners and enigmatic lovers.

Modern day dating has produced a swarm of men and women who if (and that’s a big IF) they decide to get married, have learned some terribly cruel lessons. They have had multiple sex partners, lied, cheated, broken hearts and toyed with people’s emotions.  Did you know that one of the modern day dating standards is to have sex with ten to forty or more sex partners and then get married? By the time they walk down the aisle they’ve developed callous hearts and ill feelings toward the opposite sex.  Like it or not, agree or not, this is the face of modern day dating.  That's why most people looking for true love or a “soul mate” will agree at how extremely rare they are to find.

Has Modern Day Dating Ruined Marriage?
My answer to that question is… “Possibly!” The men and women who have embraced modern day dating practices could have possibly ruined marriage!

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Metamorphosis RAP to Hip Hop

“Once upon a time, not long ago, when people wore pajamas and lived life slow” there was RAP; acronym for rhythm and poetry.  These were simpler times when you could buy a record single and on said single there were three versions of the song.  Version one was the song itself, version two was the instrumental and alas the third and final version was acapella (voice track without the background music).  I would jam the song, study the lyrics and finally spout out my own words to the instrumental.  Regardless the reason for the separate tracks, you had the opportunity to appreciate the “rhythm” and “poetry” individually.  The poetry
(also known as the lyrics) was an important part of the song as well as the determining factor of an MC’s success.  Let’s talk about the term “MC”, which means Master of Ceremonies.  In history the role of the MC was to control the crowd during ceremonies, if the MC could not entertain the crowd he was removed from his position and replaced.  In the beginning people would come simply to dance to the music and enjoy the festivities, while the MC entertained the crowd between acts.  Then the MC began to speak in a manner
which flowed with the rhythm of the beat henceforth creating RAP music.  With all that being said, allow me to introduce myself, I’m Double R (RAP Rebel).  Let’s further examine the role of the MC and the importance of “good” lyrics.

       “Rappers stepping to me… they wanna get some, but I’m the Kane so Yo, you know the outcome.  Another victory, unsolved mystery, so pick a B.C. date cause you’re history”, opening lines to Big Daddy Kane’s “Ain’t no half stepping”.  “Now I’ve walked on ice and never fell, I spend my time in a plush hotel.  I’ve stood on many stages, held many mics, take airplane flights at huge heights”, DMC from “King of Rock”.  “There was a Hardy boy mystery you trying to solve, can’t understand why you got involved, but
here’s a clue… try the ghetto master blaster, now think who causes disasters”, opening lines to EPMD’s “Get off the Bandwagon”.  Lastly, a classic line, “I wanna rock right now, I’m Rob Base and I came to get down, I’m not internationally known but I’m known to rock a microphone” opening lines to Rob Base’s “It Takes Two”.  There are so many tracks I can quote that I can write a book on it.  Upon closer look you may notice a similarity of all the verses, found it yet? That’s right, every verse is a boast each MC makes about
their skills on the microphone.  Each artist is making the same claim without the repetitiveness of today’s rappers.  The pioneers didn’t do it for the money, they didn’t do it for the women or the fame, they did it for the love.  There was no money, women or fame, only street credibility.  With each new artist came a new and different style, sound, technique and message.  Every rapper didn’t claim to be a gangster or a big time drug dealer or boast of how many times they were shot or remind us of how much less money we have than they.  
They would speak to us about things we could “all” relate to and feel, while talking on equal ground.  You could listen to an entire album and each track served a different purpose and would have some type of message behind it.  There were songs to uplift, songs to inform, songs to inspire, songs to make you dance, songs to make you cry and songs to make you angry not because of the beat but because of the artistic storytelling of the MC.

In closing, I guess what I’m trying to say is… if I have to hear another song about money, dancing or doing something *censored* to a woman, I’ll have to scream!  Rappers and record labels alike, PLEASE hear this; we know you have money (we get it).  If one guy makes a hot dance track, you don’t have to piggy back off of it and make up a dumber dance than the other guy.  I know the song goes hard in the club, but everybody’s not in the club all the time.  Finally, please-please-please… start listening to your own lyrics, you’re a
professional so if it sounds like recycled garbage – write something new! Any questions???Log on to www.SPEntertainmentMusicGroup.com or email, realtalk@SPEntertainmentMusicGroup.com