Vacations;negativity;productivity;new friends threaten old

Dr Julie Helmrich, famous Shrink'n'Drink psychologist from Milwaukee, answered these questions: 1)husband's dream vaca is beach; wife's is city; how to not waste limited vacation time on vacation that isn't fun without hurting spouse's feelings, 2) new group of friends (runners) are positive; old group subtle in poor treatment of each other; how to tell old friends why spending more time with new friends? 3) negative co-worker, 4) negative sister, 5) productivity