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11/22/2009 7:57 PM UTC
No one deserves "a rebuke" for TELLING THE TRUTH.
11/22/2009 7:56 PM UTC
Even though some of my sisters believed I was telling the truth, they still attacked me relentlessly. That hurt the worst.
11/22/2009 7:55 PM UTC
Thank you so much for your heartfelt words. My family has been bent on destroying me ever since I "told" and made the incest known in an effort to protect my niece who was going to stay with my parents. For over 20 years the assaults have never stopped. I too had hoped for healing that will never come. Silence is the only rule in my alcoholic incestuous uncaring family. It's heartbreaking but there seems to be nothing I can do about it but pray. Please, keep writing. You are keeping our stories, and us, alive!
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New time is 10:30 AM Monday morning. Speaking out about sexual assault, I will rely on a combination of personal experience, news items, and information from organizations focused on sexual assault. At the end of this hour there will be 30 new victims added to the statistics. One day: 1440 One Week: 10,080 But we are not merely a statistic. We are lives twisted, and often terminated. A Yahoo News Link pertaining to sexual assault is in my links list. Watch for new developments. This is a topic close to my heart. National Sexual Assault Hotline 1.800.656.HOPE An Online Hotline Link may be found at www.rainn.org
Original Air Date: 5/27/2009 1:30 PM UTC
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Date / Time: 5/20/2009 2:00 AM UTC
To the Editor:
Carol Tavris's essay "Beware the Incest-Survivor Machine" (Jan. 3) has just been brought to my attention. I feel it borders on a dangerous trend in psychology, blaming the victim -- something that harks back to the Freudian days when all stories of incest were sloughed off as patient fantasies.
I have had a great deal of experience with incest survivors. I therefore can cite specific human experiences, not statistical data. When a patient relives the original scene, it is precise in every detail, not fabricated. An incest story can be embellished when a patient recounts an early childhood event through the veil of the adult cortical mind. This is because the early trauma does not have full access to consciousness, so clearly the story must be added to for it to have coherence. When the patient is back in the grip of the child mind, where there is total access of an early event to consciousness, the memory is exact.
To say that the patient fabulates (to make a fictional account or representation of something) means that what she or he says is not to be taken at face value -- one step removed from the old Freudian position of not believing anything the patient said. If one could see the hundreds of hours of agony it takes to relive one early event of incest, one would know that no one could do that as a "pseudomemory." And why on earth would a patient want to fabricate such agony? Just to wallow in pain?
We have filmed and measured by sophisticated electronic instruments the reliving process, in which the body temperature can rise three or four degrees, in which the blood pressure and heart rate can double in a matter of minutes when the patient is deep into the memory. That is an unfakable experience. No one has to "focus" a patient on the abuse as the reason for present unhappiness. Not only is incest the reason for the unhappiness, it is also the most psychosis-producing of nearly all childhood traumas. Only academics could deny such a fact and do such an injustice to suffering human beings.
Unfortunately, incest is a major story, not one that a therapist decides is a major story. The victim does have to fix herself. That does not exclude also doing something about her present life. Let me ask you, Ms. Tavris: if "the origins of women's victimization" are not inside the woman, where are they? ARTHUR JANOV Venice, Calif.
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Date / Time: 5/19/2009 6:39 PM UTC
Sexual assault is an incredibly personal and destructive crime. Its effects on victims and their loved ones can be felt psychologically, emotionally, and physically. They can be brief in duration or last a very long time. It is important to remember that there is no one “normal” reaction to sexual assault. Every individual's response will be different depending on the situation. In this section, we have explained some of the more common effects that a victim may experience. View one of the pages below to learn more about the effects a victim may experience.
There are many reactions that survivors of rape and sexual assault can have. But for adult survivors of childhood abuse there are reactions that may either be different or stronger than for other survivors.
A controversial concept, battered woman syndrome is a model that was developed by Dr. Lenore E. Walker to describe the mindset and emotional state of a battered woman.
Body memories are when the stress of the memories of the abuse experienced by an individual take the form of physical problems that cannot be explained by the usual means.
Borderline Personality Disorder is one of the most controversial mental illness diagnoses in Psychology today.
Diagnosis necessary to describe the symptoms experienced by survivors of long-term trauma such as child sexual abuse and prostitution.
There are many emotional and psychological reactions that victims of rape and sexual assault can experience. One of the most common of these is depression.
Dissociation is a mental process in which a person's thoughts and feelings may be separated from his or her immediate reality.
Flashbacks are when memories of past traumas feel as if they are taking place in the current moment.
PTSD is not a rare or unusual occurrence, in fact, many people experience PTSD as a result of a traumatic experience such as rape or sexual assault.
If you were recently raped, you may have concerns about becoming pregnant from the attack.
Rape Trauma Syndrome is a common reaction to a rape or sexual assault. It is the human reaction to an unnatural or extreme event.
Table of Sexually Transmitted Infections, their symptoms, treatment, and possible complications.
If you are currently thinking about suicide, or know someone who is, please reach out for help.
Date / Time: 5/19/2009 6:15 PM UTC
The exact definition of “rape,” “sexual assault,” “sexual abuse” and similar terms differs by state. The wording can get confusing, since states often use different words to mean the same thing or use the same words to describe different things. So, for a precise legal definition, you need to check the law in your state. But here are some general guidelines based on the definitions used by the U.S. Justice Department. Please note that these definitions are a bit graphic, which is inevitable when describing crimes this violent.
Rape is forced sexual intercourse, including vaginal, anal, or oral penetration. Penetration may be by a body part or an object.
Sexual assault is unwanted sexual contact that stops short of rape or attempted rape. This includes sexual touching and fondling. (But, be aware: Some states use this term interchangeably with rape.)
There are three main considerations in judging whether or not a sexual act is consensual (which means that both people are old enough to consent, have the capacity to consent, and agreed to the sexual contact) or is a crime.
People respond to an assault in different ways. Just because you didn’t resist physically doesn’t mean it wasn’t rape — in fact, many victims make the good judgment that physical resistance would cause the attacker to become more violent. Lack of consent can be express (saying “no”) or it can be implied from the circumstances (for example, if you were under the statutory age of consent, or if you had a mental defect, or if you were afraid to object because the perpetrator threatened you with serious physical injury).
Rape can occur when the offender and the victim have a pre-existing relationship (sometimes called “date rape” or “acquaintance rape”), or even when the offender is the victim’s spouse. It does not matter whether the other person is an ex-boyfriend or a complete stranger, and it doesn’t matter if you’ve had sex in the past. If it is nonconsensual this time, it is rape. (But be aware that a few states still have limitations on when spousal rape is a crime.)
Just because you don’t remember being assaulted doesn’t necessarily mean it didn’t happen and that it wasn’t rape. Memory loss can result from the ingestion of GHB and other “rape drugs” and from excessive alcohol consumption. That said, without clear memories or physical evidence, it may not be possible to pursue prosecution (talk to your local crisis center or local police for guidance).
Rape can happen when the victim was unconscious or asleep. If you were asleep or unconscious, then you didn’t give consent. And if you didn’t give consent, then it is rape.
Alcohol and drugs are not an excuse – or an alibi. The key question is still: did you consent or not? Regardless of whether you were drunk or sober, if the sex is nonconsensual, it is rape. However, because each state has different definitions of “nonconsensual”, please contact your local center or local police if you have questions about this. (If you were so drunk or drugged that you passed out and were unable to consent, it was rape. Both people must be conscious and willing participants.)
It depends on the circumstances. If you didn’t say no because you were legitimately scared for your life or safety, then it may be rape. Sometimes it isn’t safe to resist, physically or verbally — for example, when someone has a knife or gun to your head, or threatens you or your family if you say anything.
If you’ve been raped or sexually assaulted, or even if you aren’t sure, contact the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline or the National Sexual Assault Hotline (1-800-656-HOPE) for free, confidential help, day or night.
Date / Time: 5/19/2009 5:30 PM UTC
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