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In our quest to create the life of our dreams, and to be the people we’ve always imagined ourselves being, we must become willing to truly take a look at ourselves, take a personal inventory, so that we can get a better sense of our strengths and weaknesses.
Now this, admittedly, can seem downright overwhelming. In many ways, it can seem like we are on a mining expedition seeking out negativity. And if all we’re going to do is pick ourselves a part, then what’s going to be left? We might end up feeling like Swiss cheese - full of holes.
But we have to realize that coming to terms with our defects of character is only looking at part of the picture. If we concentrate only on our flaws and our weaknesses, then we are leaving out our strengths.
In this podcast we learn that an inventory is simply an accurate account of what you have and what you don’t. And what you have is just as an important part of the equation as what is lacking.
And we will ultimately find that a strong foundation, on which to build the life of your dreams, cannot be constructed from failures. They have to be built on our strengths. Our failures can serve to redirect us, but in the end, it will be the positive aspects of ourselves, our victories that will motivate us to keep moving forward, and out of the ruts of the past.
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Many of us discount the idea that past events in our lives still affect us to this day. We have convinced ourselves that the past is in the past, we grew up, and now we’re over it. We tell ourselves that all that stuff, from all those years ago, no longer affects us.
There are those who fully admit that past events affect the present, but those who deny it, often end up blindly repeating the same patterns again and again, and find themselves totally confused as to why life is not going as they want it to.
In this podcast, you will hear a portion of Dr. Nadine Burke Harris’ Ted Talk on How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime. After hearing her, you’ll have a better idea of why is it so hard to escape the past and why it keeps reinserting itself into our lives, whether we openly acknowledge it or not.
We’ll learn that each of us must become willing to truly look at our past, truly examine it, and begin to see how it has, and still is, affecting our lives. Until we do, until we begin to process and heal some of these events, until we become willing to face up to the discomfort that comes from facing the truth, the past will never truly be in the past. It will continue to haunt the present, and our future.
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How many times have we found ourselves in a situation with someone where he or she will not back down from an argument? No matter what, that person insists he or she is correct. Situations like this are often unpleasant and frustrating and we often don’t think very highly of people who must be right at all costs.
We have to ask ourselves, though, how often do we do the very same thing? Our first reaction is likely that we’re not like that at all. But is that really the case? Are we more like the person who has to be right; only to lesser degrees?
How many disagreements could possibly be solved by simply harmoniously agreeing to disagree? It is possible. It merely requires us to change our perspective. It demands that we stop seeing the world from a self righteous viewpoint.
In this podcast we learn that when we find ourselves in one of those tense situations where we just have to prove our point, we can defuse the situation by asking ourselves, “Would I rather be right, or would I rather happy?”
We will find that momentary feeling of victory, of winning the point, or the whole match, is fleeting, because friction and strife is not likely getting you where you want to go. It is not creating stronger bonds. It is not moving you in the direction of personal growth. It’s really keeping you stuck.
We’ll discover that sometimes we simply have to decide between being right, or being happy. Because the reality is, that you can’t always be both.
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In Al-Anon, a 12 Step Program for people who have been affected by another’s drinking, members remind each other to Keep the Focus on Yourself. For many, those five little words scream of selfishness. How can I simply stand by and watch someone I care about suffer, or self destruct, or die? How could I be so selfish?
In this podcast, we discover that this idea is not selfish at all, and it is not cruel. It is actually just the opposite. By focusing on ourselves, instead of the people around us, we learn to create boundaries. We learn that our actions play a part in everything that goes on around us. We take away many of the ways people blame us because we no longer meddle in their lives. When we stop involving ourselves in other people’s business, even if it means we have to see them deal with the consequences of their choices and actions, we then allow them to be dignified human beings with the same power to change their lives that we recognize in ourselves.
Ultimately, keeping the focus on ourselves is an act of accepting others for who they are. And it allows us to concentrate on changing the only people we can, ourselves.
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Have you ever told someone something personal and had them go off and tell someone else? Have you had someone in your life, that you truly thought had your best interest at heart, or at least should have had your best interest at heart, violate you in some manner?
Most of us have felt this on at least some level. We’ve had our trust violated. Yet we operate in a world of relationships and often have to rely on others in myriad ways. And like it or not, it requires a certain amount of trust.
In this podcast, we take on the importance of learning to trust. We learn that that trust is a skill that has to be developed, and that a true sense of wellbeing in our lives is dependant on developing that healthy sense of trust.
China Syndrome. As the China Market Meltdown story goes mainstream, it’s pundit tug-o-war between ‘China Doom’ proponents and ‘Nothing To See Here Folks’ adherents. Fun for the media, not so fun if you’re trying to figure out where this might go … could go wrong. Hopefully this podcast will be of some help. We start […] Read more
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Is your life not where you want it to be, and you look at everyone else around you and think, Wow how is it they seem to have it all together? Do you feel stuck, like you’re in a rut, and you can’t understand why others seem to be able to move forward, but you can’t? Do you try to keep it all together, to be like a juggler and keep all of those different balls in the air, only to find yourself exhausted and feeling like a failure? And really, if you’re being honest, you’re only doing it because you don’t want others to think that you can’t?
Many of us go through life feeling tired and weary. We’re trying to do it all, or at least appear we are, and it about wears us down. We do so because we think that’s what’s expected from us in life. Everyone else seems to be able to do it, so we probably should too. Yet all we feel is trapped, in lives and situations that aren’t even exactly what we want. We just stay on that hamster wheel because we think it’s what’s expected of us. It’s how we measure up.
In this podcast, we take a look at how constantly comparing ourselves to others often results in us feeling bad about ourselves. As we compare ourselves to those around us, we see the seemingly perfect lives of others, and we just can’t understand why they can have it, but we can’t.
But if we look a bit deeper, we soon discover that we can never truly know what’s going on in other people’s lives, no matter how it appears. Just because things appear to be idyllic on the surface doesn’t mean it is in actuality.
And when all is said and done, we learn to simply focus on our own forward motion. Because in the end, our growth, our personal evolution, is the true sign of a life lived successfully.
Welcome to the 2015 edition of the Directors Series Podcast hosted by Dr. Kevin O. Davenport Ed.S. & Ed.D and The Marching Podcast. We have expanded beyond a four part series and proud to give our listeners the fifth installment of our series. We invite the listener to call and join the discussion. Tonight's podcast will be about Time Management. We will allow Dr. Davenport to form the conversation with his expertise and continue the dialog with our host and listeners. Please call in at 718 664 6025, you can join our chat room live on the page of the broadcast. You can email the show at firstname.lastname@example.org, tweet us @marchingpodcast or follow our blog at blog4.themarchingpodcast.com
America 2015 Pre Fascism? These days American politics seems to be nothing more than snark, shouts and screams, politicians doing and saying whatever they can to get as much media time as possible, served by a willing media looking for a three ring circus to increase ratings, clicks, favorites and views. Rather than working in […] Read more
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Back To School. At some point in our childhood, most of us remember looking up somewhere around the middle of August and realizing we only had two or three weeks left in the summer. We’re getting that old back-to-school feeling at the Bob Davis Podcasts. Somewhere around this time, you’d end up at The Gap, […] Read more
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