• 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1012

    in Self Help

    This is an OPEN TOPIC or "open mike" night. Call in! Pick any issues, topics or subjects you'd like to discuss. Join our founder and host, Bill Murray, and his co-hosts, panelists and guests, many of them abuse survivors, others supporters, National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse family members and friends, for an informed 90 minute discussion of the many important issues that surround child abuse .. where community call-in participation is always welcome! Wearing a Blue Ribbon is the symbol of Child Abuse Awareness! Millions of abuse victims (men and women) hide the story of their experience well into adulthood. A huge number continue to suffer from pain, anger, fear, shame and embarrassment for decades. Most will agree their traumas have resulted in an inability to trust, make good decisions and have healthy relationships. But giving up the secret is often how recovery begins, one survivor talking to another. ~~ Please see our web site at: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1015

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Erica Hammel from Michigan, a mother who became an advocate and activist because of the childhood abuse of her young child a year ago. The boy, known as Wyatt The Warrior, nearly died from his injuries, and his mother, Erica, become a voice for victims of child abuse. The toddler was abused when he was just 1 year old (he turned 2 in October, 2014).  Wyatt was physically assaulted (shaken baby syndrome) by the woman Erica's ex husband had left her for. The child suffered a major brain bleed, broken ribs, and permanent brain damage and, and was not expected to live. In fact Erica was told he might never even crawl. But after spending 7 weeks at Children's Hospital he was considered a living, breathing miracle. Wyatt is now walking and has literally beaten all the odds. Erica writes, "His father is not allowed to see him. His father's girlfriend had a criminal history of child abuse that he knew of (I didn't know) and he still left Wyatt alone with her. On the days he was going to work he told me Wyatt stayed with his mom." When criminal proceedings began, Erica had to quit her job because Wyatt needed full care. He currently does some sort of therapy 4xs a week. His main problems are he can't talk and he can't eat solid food. As Erica says it, "The fact that Wyatt's abuser had a previous history of child abuse sickened me." She wondered how someone who is convicted of physically abusing a child wasn't on a register sex offender registry." She concludes, "I had to speak up, I have to make a change. We need to protect our children, especially the ones who don't have a voice."

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1014

    in Self Help

    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "Child Abuse, Trauma and 12-Step Recovery" - STEP 4 - SCAN host Bill Murray will be joined by special guest co-host Rivka Edery, MSW, LCSW, from NYC, author of the book “Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide." Bill founded the recently launched Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (ASCAA). Together they will lead tonight's discussion on STEP 4: "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." Most survivors, unless they are in a crisis, do not put much thought into what happened; the people, places, things, and reactions to events that have long-shaped their life. But if you have not yet taken a look at the traumas that have shaped your personality, behaviors, fears, and ways of responding in life, Step Four is a good opportunity to stop and think about it. Perhaps you have reached the day when you realize that you are not living your life as you really want to. Perhaps you feel a deep inner longing for healthy, secure attachment, love and a more kind relationship with yourself. ~~ A child abuse survivor herself, Rivka Edery is grateful for the spiritual recovery she found in the 12 Steps of AA. She's been active in the 12 Step community for over 17 years. Bill Murray credits his 30 plus years of recovery to the spiritual power of the 12 Step program, too. ~~ Join us every two weeks to further examine a 12 Step approach to recovery from abuse. Next show we'll address STEP 5. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/Trauma-12Step or write to Rivka at: rebecca.edery@gmail.com

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1013

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Kathleen Milliken from Seattle, Washington, a returning NAASCA family member who's dedicated to finding holistic and empowering ways to help the world heal from domestic violence and abuse as well as life's every day challenges. In 2009 Kathleen wrote a book to help empower women of Domestic Violence and abuse and to help herself heal from past wounds. The title, "Escaping the Glass Cage: A Story of Survival and Empowerment from Domestic Violence" (under the name Schmidt). From this Project Empowerment was born as she felt the pull to do more and reach more people. The mission is dedicated to finding holistic and empowering ways to help our world heal from domestic violence and abuse as well as life's every day challenges. As part of Project Empowerment, Kathleen hosts a BlogTalkRadio show dedicated to empowering lives everywhere, bringing people, stories, ideas and inspiration to help each of us make our world a better place. Kathleen's also a Women's Empowerment Coach. Her focus is to work with women of all ages to help the find their voice, passion and path in life. "You can hike with me," she suggests, "meet for coffee or talk on the phone/Skype. I also do workshops for bigger groups, all designed to help you empower your life, right now!" She goes on, “If you can find that spark, that driving force that pulls you in the direction of doing something bigger than you, listen to it. We each have a voice, we each can make a difference in the world, and it all starts with us."

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1011

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Mandy Smith from Portland, Oregon, a child abuse survivor, activist and writer. Her "Healing Beyond Survival" BLOG is excellent. As she says, "Any way that I can help spread awareness about abuse, count me in!" To this end she's reaching out to others, and joining the NAASCA family. But advocating for abuse victims wasn't Mandy's orginal goal. "Three years ago, I started out with a plan to write a story," she says, "a personal story about my childhood sexual abuse and it’s aftermath. By the time I had finished the first draft of my memoir, "Secrets In Big Sky Country" (due to be published in Sept 2015), I became aware that it wasn't just my story. There were many others out there with similar stories of abuse." Beginning at age three, Mandy was groomed and molested by her stepfather, the man whom she called "Daddy." At 14, when she broke the family's code of silence, she was shunned. As a young girl her search for acceptance led Mandy down a dark path where she incurred more abuse. When a brutal rape results in pregnancy, the deep love she felt for her unborn baby surprised Mandy. Plans took shape quickly for their new life together. Then, one final act of deception and betrayal by her parents sent Mandy into a four-decade-long abyss of depression, eating disorders and PTSD. But now she says, "My forthcoming memoir is the story of childhood abuse, betrayal and abandonment. But it doesn't end there. My journey has led me to a place of healing beyond survival. I especially hope that adults who were molested as children will read it and know they are not alone. I know that together, we can overcome the shame that comes from secret-keeping. Recovery and healing is possible!"

  • 01:00

    Family Abuse

    in Relationships

    Dynamics of family abuse and destruction

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1007

    in Self Help

    This is an OPEN TOPIC or "open mike" night. Call in! Pick any issues, topics or subjects you'd like to discuss. Join our founder and host, Bill Murray, and his co-hosts, panelists and guests, many of them abuse survivors, others supporters, National Association of Adult Survivors of Child Abuse family members and friends, for an informed 90 minute discussion of the many important issues that surround child abuse .. where community call-in participation is always welcome! Wearing a Blue Ribbon is the symbol of Child Abuse Awareness! Millions of abuse victims (men and women) hide the story of their experience well into adulthood. A huge number continue to suffer from pain, anger, fear, shame and embarrassment for decades. Most will agree their traumas have resulted in an inability to trust, make good decisions and have healthy relationships. But giving up the secret is often how recovery begins, one survivor talking to another. ~~ Please see our web site at: www.NAASCA.org

  • 01:30

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1010

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Jeanette Allison from Monterey, CA, who suffered neglect and emotional abuse at the hands of her mother, a raging and mean alcoholic with Bipolar disorder, a sadistic and narcissistic personality who suffered from a schizoaffective disorder with paranoia. Jeanette's father was the enabler in the family. He worked three jobs to support the family of four. Her mother targeted her specifically, not her more compliant brother. Until recently Jeanette was a single mother and an LGBT activist. She had problems with alcohol in the past and successfully broke free of those problems through the help of AA's 12 Step program which she still practices on a daily basis, targeting the spiritual malady that lead her to drink in the first place. Although AA has been the solution to her alcoholism, she found no relief for trauma she suffered and carried with her from childhood. This is changing now as Jeanette found an answer to addressing unhealed maladies when she learned of Rivka Edery's book "Trauma and Transformation: A 12 Step Guide" and NAASCA's every other Thursday night "Stop Child Abuse Now" radio talk series that's devoted to the application of a 12 Step Program and approach to recovery the trauma of childhood abuse. Jeanette continues to be a shining light, despite suffering from a traumatic work accident, and a rare hand tumor that have halted her dream job as an occupational therapist. As such has a special interest in individuals with disabilities. She married her wife, Jackie Allison, this summer, and strives to be a leader who use her compassion, her kindness and the love of writing and photography to heal others' hearts.

  • 02:01

    "The Government-Made Child"

    in Lifestyle

    SPONSORED BY MARK PITTMAN--Endless comparisons to modern-day youth versus the youth of its previous generations can be made to show vast differences--almost complete opposites of the other, in fact, and not for the better. Many changes in society and the mindsets of their elders can be attibuted to the vast changes, but one change that has been the master wrecking ball change has been the increase of government interference into the household and the virtual removal of parental rights. Almost all of the government's brilliant changes have fast-tracked our children's entry into adulthood without properly preparing them for the transition OR actually legally cerifying them as adults. The laws are their own contradiction, stripping parents of the right to raise their child, yet holding the parents responsible for the messy situations the children under 18 get into because the government gave them a free pass around their parents' rules. For society on a whole, it's an injustice to a child's well-balanced upbringing--for Black America, fast-tracking a teen's development justifies the pre-conceived dehumanization of our children's innocence and subjects them to accountabilities they shouldn't truly own, and allows the extreme punishments to be rendered by a biased society. With the new-age "not-really-emancipated-emancipated child", do parents have to step back and let their child go the hard road? Or do we fight all the way to the legal age? Join in tonight at 10:30 pm EST by calling 347-327-9967.

  • 01:29

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1008

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Tamra Gregory from Littleton, Colorado, a child abuse survivor, parent and activist who we met recently through NAASCA family member Feather Berkower, also from Colorado. Now middle aged, Tamra was a victim of sexual assaults occurred between the ages of 8 and 12, by family members and a swimming instructor. She reports, "I have been in and out of therapy both individual and group beginning in my 20's through my 40's. In retrospect, a very difficult divorce, my 2nd, was a pivotal event in my healing. The pain of this divorce dislodged me from the anger stage of grief. I think I had been stuck there for 40 plus years." She began telling her story to close friends. While was working on her MPA and enrolled in an emotional intelligence course, Tamra was required to write a bio. It was another opportunity to share her story (with 26 other people) and reap the support that occurs when one takes the risk to be vulnerable and authentic. "I have never confronted my abusers," she says, "but I have shared my story with other family members and although they have expressed sympathy for me, none have really taken a stance in opposition of them." Tamra goes on, "Needless to say, I do not engage with any of them now. The sad part for me is missing all of the family gatherings and missing seeing my extended family." A firm believer in Feather Berkower's work, her Parenting Safe Children web site and her book "Off Limits: A Parent's Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse," Tamra is busy giving back. "I spend my personal time volunteering with groups that provide mentor-ship and support for kids in the foster care system."

  • 01:31

    Stop Child Abuse Now (SCAN) - 1006

    in Self Help

    Tonight's special guest is Melina Corzine Draffen from Illinois, a survivor, activist and author. She's especially revealing on her BLOG. Her father died when she was 18 months old. She was sexually abused by her stepfather, manipulated by her mother, and left to stay in the prison of a lie, the lie that she had a wonderful home life. It was far from normal. As she grew up and had children she made bad choices. "My excuses or reasons for my decisions were my abuse," she writes. About 10 years ago, Melina attempted suicide. "We could easily reflect on only the negative and live in our sorrow and pain," she says. "I choose to break the chain." She goes on, "I am a survivor, God has help me overcome a great tragedy in my life to stand up and tell about what He has done for me. I'm here, I'm blessed, and I'm alive. I will strive to do what He asks of me, to help those that feel alone." Her book, "Forgiveness Not Permission: A true story of my journey as a young child and young adult, through sexual abuse," was written under the pseudonym Mrs. Beth Kozine. On her blog Melina writes, "What I question today is, am I doing enough? Sure I wrote a book about my experience as an abused child and my decisions as I grew up, but is it helping anyone? Is there more I could or should do? Does God have more planned for me? Yes! Somewhere along the way I will know if I am doing everything I was supposed to. We all have a purpose."

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