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    Q & A Night - Call in .. ask questions .. Tonight's THEME: How bullying behaviors can lead to abusive behaviors. NAASCA family member Mary Romero from Richmond, VA, an abuse survivor herself, will lead the discussion about bullying. We are consistently hearing about bullying in our schools, nearly on a daily basis. It has become an epidemic. When bullying behaviors goes un-checked, they can lead to abusive behaviors whether in children or adults alike. There have been far too many children who have taken their own lives due to being bullied and this evening's discussion will help give us the information and tools that parents can use in helping their children deal with bullying and it's negative effects. Now an anti-child abuse advocate, Mary is a Life Coach and author of the book "The Breakdown of an All-American Family: an autobiography of child abuse domestic violence and recovery." She'll soon be coming out with a follow-up book, "Repurposing Your Pain," meant to help survivors learn to become thrivers! ~~ Everyone's invited to engage on tonight's show .. on the phone or in SCAN's ever-present community chat room. ~~ Please visit our website: www.NAASCA.org

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "Child Abuse, Trauma and 12-Step Recovery" - STEP 11 - SCAN host Bill Murray will be joined by special guest co-host Rivka Edery, MSW, LCSW, from NYC, author of the book “Trauma and Transformation: A 12-Step Guide." Bill founded the recently launched Adult Survivors of Child Abuse Anonymous (ASCAA). Together they will lead tonight's discussion on STEP 11: "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out." Step Eleven is the daily practice and experience of deepening your awareness of your Higher Power through prayer and meditation. You are capable of prayer and meditation, regardless of your background or history. If you set aside the time daily, you can reach for whatever you believe is greater than, deeper than, or beyond yourself. Step Eleven also assumes that by now you have a conscious awareness of your Higher Power, and you are drawn to deepening that connection. ~~ A child abuse survivor herself, Rivka Edery is grateful for the spiritual recovery she found in the 12 Steps of AA. She's been active in the 12 Step community for over 17 years. Bill Murray credits his 30 plus years of recovery to the spiritual power of the 12 Step program, too. ~~ Join us every two weeks to further examine a 12 Step approach to recovery from abuse. Next show we'll address STEP 12. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/Trauma-12Step or write to Rivka at: rebecca.edery@gmail.com

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's was originally planned to be a show dedicated to a special guest. But instead there was a robust discussion of a variety of topics, chiefly about the how media covers (and doesn't cover) the issues of child abuse and trauma. We also talked about the important role played by reliable government statistics. Criticism of how media and government presentations was directed at our ability as a group to impress upon the general public that the issues we cover, child abuse and trauma, are as important to them as almost anything else we consider a priority to address in America. Bill Murray, NAASCA founder, was joined by Carol Levine from New Jersey, our cio-host, and by Max "from Montana." Tonight's show featured NAASCA panelist's thoughts and ideas about how to engage the public and provide resources, services and programs to anyone with an interest in fighting against child abuse and trauma.

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    Tonight's special guest is Jay Lore from Laurel. Maryland, child abuse survivor and author  of the book "Sometimes You Lose, Sometimes You Learn: How I went to a party one night for twenty years and lived to tell about it." Jay is transgendered from woman to man, and agrees this was a part of his recovery, of "being comfortable living inside his own skin." That wasn't always the case. "I was 4 years old when it started, I don't know at what age the physicality stopped. I was 32 when I first spoke it out loud to someone." Because of the abuse, Jay turned to drugs early on. "I did my first drugs at age 11. LSD, to be exact. It escalated from there. In group my councilor used to get me to read my drug list because it was so extensive and there were things she'd never heard of. There were three suicide attempts. "I was a cutter. I loved the feel of the blade, the sting as it pierced my skin, the pain told me I was able to feel .. something. I lost my kids." Eventually Jay called an 800 drug line. That was in 1987, and Jay's been clean now for over 28 years. "I've been telling my story every chance I get," he says, "to anyone who will listen and some who don't want to hear it." He offers his book for free. Jay now lives with his oldest daughter and her family. He attends and serves at church faithfully. "It's about reaching that one someone that needs to hear my story as only I can tell it. To get that one to realize there is hope and love and light. And most importantly, that they need never walk alone again." 

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is Brittany Ecton from Olathe, Kansas, a 26 year old single mother who's a child abuse and adoption trauma survivor and activist. Still in early recovery, this will be the first time she tells her story in public. Sexually abused by her father, a belligerent drunk, she recalls being "conditioned" by him for years. A deeply troubled child her parents took her to many therapists, she says, ".. and every time I hinted at the abuse they would switch, and they forced medication on me for years." Her mother neglected her throughout her entire life and never showed her love or any form of kindness. "She had 3 other kids and it was obvious she loved them and not me." She explains, "I started acting out my abuse with my brother as a child, and the memories are so dark that I can't bare to even look at my brother anymore, without hating my entire body and mind for those memories. Once my hormones kicked in, I became ashamed of my body and life, I had no friends and no life, and I was tormented by kids for being different." A troubled teenager, she broke all the rules, before 18 had 7-8 suicide attempts. "I got pregnant at 19 and my mother forced me into giving my baby away due to no money, help or support, and I lived in a homeless shelter for 7 months." At 21 she married her friend, Zachary, a bad boy doing everything wrong who she'd knows since 15 years old. "He was in the military and promised to save me from my life," she shared. Returning from Afghanistan 80% disabled presented Brittany with new problems, and the additional challenge of giving birth to their son. In the middle of everything else she discovered she'd been adopted! Now married 4 years and seeing a therapist, Brittany's still struggling with doing what's best for herself and her young son.

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is Olivia Martinez from Pico Rivera, CA, child abuse survivor and Employment Coordinator at the California Department of Rehabilitation who says she always aims at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Immigrating from Mexico in the 60's her family lived in the largely Latino East LA area. Her father was a blue collar worker who suffered from alcoholism. "I always felt alone," she wrote. But her mother spend the majority of her time dealing with her father's alcoholism. Olivia was repeatedly sexually abused by a cousin, eight years older than her. The first incident of this was when she was about three, but the last time was in adulthood. "I grew up eating my anxiety away and reached 375 pounds in adulthood. I was fat and felt like a monster." Eventually she began working on herself. "I had gastric bypass and lost all my excess weight. I began kick boxing I learned how to physically to not let anyone hurt me gain. The recovery period has been long and imperfect." Olivia began therapy for the first time when unsuccessfully trying to prevent a break up with her boyfriend, but eventually found more appropriate help at the East Los Angeles Woman Center where they assist woman who have been sexually and/or physically abused. "I have developed a more keen relationship with myself," she says, "and continue to work on me and my developmental stages and inner conflict I go through every day. I now am ready to let the world know my story and take what happened to me and embrace all the good things of who I am. I am preparing to finally forgive men in general for what one man did to me, and I want to one day forgive him for changing the course of my life and introducing a struggle that will never go away."

  • 01:31

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    SPECIAL TOPIC Night - "For Our Kids" - Deborah Maddison and Tracy Baxter, Canadian activists from British Columbia, will join Bill Murray to lead this evening's discussion about the Rights of Children and Families in North America. Tonight's TOPIC: "Breaking The Bonds of Parental Alienation and Systemic Abuse" Nothing stirs up passions more than the controversy generated when parents are at war over the custody of a child. With the pathological 'win-lose' mentality of our family courts and CPS increasingly abducting and witholding children from loving parents to support the many industries that feed off commodifying our children, the system is aiding and abetting abuse, and reaping the financial rewards at the expense of our children and families. Join us as we speak with parents and advocates Keith Marsolek, Carolyn MacCloud and Marcie Harding who will be sharing their heartbreaking and frankly outrageous stories of alienation enabled by this system. Learn the steps they are taking to fight this devastating injustice both for themselves and others who are facing this brutal and overwhelming situation. We are also pleased to welcome back panelist, advocate and author Robin Karr, who's own incredible story remains one of the most corrupt and cruel examples of judicial terrorism we have ever encountered. ~~ Every two weeks a new THEME will be presented in this series, with frequent special guests speaking from their own experience. ~~ Please see our web page at: www.NAASCA.org/ForOurKids or write to: naasca.forourkids@gmail.com

  • 01:32

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    Tonight's special guest is Tim Fisher, a returning NAASCA family member who lives in the Las Vegas area and runs Juvenile Justice Now. Tim, a child abuse survivor, will be with us tonight to describe his experience, strength and hope. Tim was seven years old when he met his predator, a neighbor, teaching Sunday school at the Baptist church. Now Steve Friess has written an article about Tim's important work: One Survivor's Crusade Reveals a Plague of Errors in Nation's Sex Offender Registries. The subtitle: "Estimates of the number of entries with crucial mistakes run into the tens of thousands. One man—and pretty much only one man—is trying to fix them." Tim has told us in the past, "By the time I had reached my 14th birthday I had been sexually molested approximately 350 times over the course of seven years." He continues, "It took four years for me to become strong enough to come forward." Eventually he went to the Anaheim police and reported his abuse and name his predator. From start to finish it took a year almost to the day for him to be convicted. Eventually he took a plea of guilty to 49 counts of child molestation, lewd conducts involving a minor and with the use of force. Sadly although he was sentenced to 2 to 12 years he was released after serving just nine months. "I’m here to remind you that the abuse never stops for the victim," Tim says, "I encourage anyone who has been sexually abused to make a report even if it happened when you were a child." In the recently published article, Steve accompanies Tim to the home of his molester, a registered sex offender.

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is Stacie Kelly from Victoria BC, an abuse survivor and activist who's serving as the Coordinator for 1st Annual #NoMoreShame Conference 2015, being put on by Trauma University which will be held June 26, 27 & 28th in Portland, Oregon. It's described as "For Survivors. By Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse." Born and raised an Oregonian, Stacie describes herself as, "an exceptionally positive individual who enjoys staying busy." But, she explains, "About three years ago I was diagnosed with Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). I am a survivor of a decade of incest - an unfortunate multi-generational pattern of abuse that extends as far back as three generations ago. I am on bi-daily antidepressant medication(s) and am currently in weekly somatic counseling." She says, "Childhood trauma is still a relatively new field of study and it is often overshadowed by Veterans and/or people with Traumatic Brain Injuries. My hope is to shed light on the daily life of someone struggling with mental wellness and provide insight on the impact of sexual abuse and silence." And true to form she's not just sitting back waiting for others to make further developments in the field. "I am currently working in a volunteer capacity as a Conference Coordinator for Trauma Recovery University. I speak every day to survivors around the globe who are interested in participating in our conference. It is survivor led and born out of passion to break the cycle of shame, silence and abuse."

  • 01:33

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    Tonight's was originally planned to be a show dedicated to a special guest. But instead there was a robust discussion of a variety of topics, chiefly about the criticism of current parenting in America. In recognition of the work we have done to benefit the nurturing and safety of children and families, Bill Murray, NAASCA founder, announced he has been designated as an Global Presence Ambassador by the Parenting 2.0 organization. The Global Presence is the community service arm of Parenting 2.0 - formally registered as an educational non-profit corporation and recognized in the US as a charitable 501(c)3 tax exempt organization. "Global Presence Ambassador" is an honorary title, recognizing professionals around the planet who are passionate nurturing a more dynamic and proactive narrative for human development - and specifically Life Skills - in their daily lives. In accepting this designation we are linking arms with a phenomenal group of Life Skills educators and humanitarians committed to substantive social change around the globe. The short book about Parenting 2.0's genesis, "Kissing the Mirror: Raising Humanity in the Twenty-first Century" is an Amazon bestseller receiving five star reviews. One hundred percent of the proceeds go to The Global Presence. Another feature of the organization is their "Life Skills Report Card," a tool that measures effective parenting.Tonight's show featured NAASCA panelist's thoughts and ideas about how to promote better parenting, and to better identify and "regulate" parents who abuse and traumatize their kids. 

  • 01:31

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    Tonight's special guest is KiloMarie Granda from St. Cloud, Minnesota, a child abuse and rape survivor who's now a Violence Prevention and Response Coordinator and a Wellness Center Coordinator at University of Minnesota. She's also the founder of Unspoken Voices, where the motto is "One voice changes everything." KiloMarie has worked with both offenders and victim/survivors and has seen the damage caused in lives of many due to interpersonal violence. As a result of this and her own experience as a survivor of childhood abuse and rape, she realized that far too many individuals' voices, including her own, often remain unspoken. KiloMarie believes that if the work that Unspoken Voices does affects even one life in a positive manner, than it gives meaning to her experiences. "For far too long, victim/survivors, bystanders, and our society has remained silent on the issues of personal power-based violence. The silence must be shattered," she says. "We must be willing to raise our own voices and declare that violence is not okay, not tolerable, and should never be encouraged." To this end, KiloMarie and Unspoken Voices offer a variety of awareness, educational, and training events, regionally and nationally. She invites folks to "please feel free to reach out to this organization or another on behalf of yourself, your friend, your neighbor, or the person that you pass on the street. Violence is occuring at epidemic proportions, and only when we use our voices against it, do we have a real opportunity to create a positive and lasting cultural change."