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Rescheduled from 9/22/2009

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Sabrina Oxford

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Today's show is to honor National Peace Day~ i will be readings this article from the Trump U site! ************************** Are Good Manners Out of Style? Posted by Thomas M. Schmitz on 9/21/2009 at 9:32 AM Posted in Self Improvement Blog Image The recent spates with Joe Wilson, Serena Williams and Kanye West left some people wondering if America lost its civility. If you enjoy pop culture or politics it may seem that way. How much effort does it take to treat other people the same way you want them to treat you? I've actually asked people about this. Surprisingly, many think that being nice: * Breaks the flow of the conversation * Feels artificial * Produces self-consciousness or embarrassment Some people are friendly and polite with their buddies, family, colleagues and co-workers. But when it comes to people that they do not know, like baristas, store clerks and servers, they remain dispassionate, neither mean nor nice. I was especially surprised by how many people told me that they lower their heads to avoid saying hi when passing others on the sidewalk. But I'm an optimist. I still believe most people remember and follow the rules of etiquette. No, I don't think you should recreate the formal graces of a Jane Austen novel, but I hope you have the words hello, please and thank you at the ready. Will you try an experiment with me? The next time you go into a coffee shop or fast food restaurant - the drive-thru is perfect for this - I want you to be sticky sweet nice when you order, pay and receive your food. Notice how your server reacts. Do they smile? If your server does not react or does not look at you as if you belong in an asylum, take it up a notch. Next time, be even nicer. Ask how their day is going. Act interested. Keep doing this, being nicer and nicer, until you get odd looks. I do this, and you know what? I have to be insanely nice and interested before I outstretch peoples' appreciation.