http://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovementLos Angeles' Event Producer LaTonya Washington, along with the "Philosopher" Tshombe Tshanti, Co-Host Real Talk the Movement Nationwide! It also is well encapsulated by Consultant and Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Monica. Be a part of our chat room and "chat it up" on the subject matter with Juacclyn Nikol and Chrystal Flanders; it goes down...in a good way! Real Talk the Movement is all about relationships between the genders and how we relate to one another. Real Talk the Movement Los Angeles started in February 2010 at the Tanzore in Beverly Hills after an interesting conversation between LaTonya and a gentleman at the Baldwin Hills Mall who said "African-American women are too difficult and simply don't understand us as African-American men." So instead of me twisting my neck and twirling my finger, I felt a need for us to come together and discuss how we can dismiss the myths, get along and communicate more effectively with one another. It has been going strong ever since. We know relationships can be difficult but with the right perspective, communication and openess, they can work and work well! It makes for a strong community! Join us Tuesday Nights, 7:30 PM PST for interesting conversation, objective interaction and on point solutions to what ails you! Visit us for more details at https://www.facebook.com/RealTalkTheMovement?ref=hl Real Talk the Movement appreciates the support of its listeners. If you're looking to promote your business, book or product, consider being a sponsor of Real Talk the Movement. Inbox us at latonya@latonyawashington.com. *Intro music copyright by Dr. Charsie Sawyer *duplication subject to penaltyenBlogTalkRadio.com. All Rights Reserved.Sun, 16 Jun 2019 04:00:00 GMTWed, 11 Jun 2014 02:30:00 GMTRelationshipsBlogTalkRadio Feed v2.0https://dasg7xwmldix6.cloudfront.net/hostpics/48c4a00b-7676-4560-ac19-7c2750d89387_316473_183758205029740_100001866861325_448629_4631532_n.jpghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovementLos Angeles' Event Producer LaTonya Washington, along with the "Philosopher" Tshombe Tshanti, Co-Host Real Talk the Movement Nationwide! It also is well encapsulated by Consultant and Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Monica. Be a part of our chat room and "chat it up" on the subject matter with Juacclyn Nikol and Chrystal Flanders; it goes down...in a good way! Real Talk the Movement is all about relationships between the genders and how we relate to one another. Real Talk the Movement Los Angeles started in February 2010 at the Tanzore in Beverly Hills after an interesting conversation between LaTonya and a gentleman at the Baldwin Hills Mall who said "African-American women are too difficult and simply don't understand us as African-American men." So instead of me twisting my neck and twirling my finger, I felt a need for us to come together and discuss how we can dismiss the myths, get along and communicate more effectively with one another. It has been going strong ever since. We know relationships can be difficult but with the right perspective, communication and openess, they can work and work well! It makes for a strong community! Join us Tuesday Nights, 7:30 PM PST for interesting conversation, objective interaction and on point solutions to what ails you! Visit us for more details at https://www.facebook.com/RealTalkTheMovement?ref=hl Real Talk the Movement appreciates the support of its listeners. If you're looking to promote your business, book or product, consider being a sponsor of Real Talk the Movement. Inbox us at latonya@latonyawashington.com. *Intro music copyright by Dr. Charsie Sawyer *duplication subject to penaltyfeeds@blogtalkradio.comBlogTalkRadio.comrelationships,love,relationship,men,dating,marriage,women,black,infatuation,sexReal Talk The MovementnoLos Angeles' Event Producer LaTonya Washington, along with the "Philosopher" Tshombe Tshanti, Co-Host Real Talk the Movement Nationwide! It also is well encapepisodichttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/06/11/speak-to-intuitive-reader-esther-austin-on-real-talk-radio-730-pm-pstRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/06/11/speak-to-intuitive-reader-esther-austin-on-real-talk-radio-730-pm-pst/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/06/11/speak-to-intuitive-reader-esther-austin-on-real-talk-radio-730-pm-pstWed, 11 Jun 2014 02:30:00 GMTSpeak to Intuitive Reader, Esther Austin, on Real Talk Radio 7:30 pm PSTTonight, Real Talk the Movement speaks with Holistic Healer, Intuitive Reader, Author and Soul Guide, Esther Austin of the UK.  I had the pleasure of speaking with her when Dr. Kathleen Walls informed me that she would be on the show.  I said, I would listen in as a form of support but boy oh boy, was I in for something more..... she read me and read me well!  This evening, we are opening up the lines to let you speak with her.  Her goal is to empower individuals to understand themselves better and to hopefully bring about a deeper sense of awareness of self and that then of healing.  Esther Austin,  being highly intuitive and  sensitive to energies and people's pain, coupled with her own painful life experiences she has the ability to enrich peoples lives with the awareness of how to create different realities in their life experiences in order to enjoy more fulfilling, loving, balanced lives because now in my life, I certainly have found that. Join us for this hour long conversation as we speak with her and allow her to speak into you...  01:07:00Real Talk The MovementnoHolistic,Intuition,Healer,readersTonight, Real Talk the Movement speaks with Holistic Healer, Intuitive Reader, Author and Soul Guide, Esther Austin of the UK.  I had the pleasure of speaking whttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/21/being-careful-when-dating-know-whose-looking-for-help-and-not-loveRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/21/being-careful-when-dating-know-whose-looking-for-help-and-not-love/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/21/being-careful-when-dating-know-whose-looking-for-help-and-not-loveWed, 21 May 2014 02:30:00 GMTBeing careful when dating: Know whose looking for help and not loveIs it true?  People have to be cautious now when dating because most people are looking for help, not love?  We live in a society now where love has been watered down to the words of "I'm here aren't I?" or "I'm not with anyone else so I must love you!"  That does not mean you love.  It could just mean that it is convenient, you are an opportunist or you have nothing else to do right now and this helps me out. We are relational beings, we were created from love so shouldn't love exude from our very pores?  Life, divorce, faulty relationships have made a many people cautious in their next relationship.  In that caution, are people simply looking at what can the other person do for me as opposed to what can I do for you?  What are the right steps we need to take in order to ensure we are not trapped in the "help syndrome"?  Are there signs to look for and if so, how does one develop the courage to step away from it? Love is a leap of faith.... it simply is. You're either in it all the way or you're not at all.  Talk to us tonight! 01:18:00Real Talk The Movementnolove,relationships,helpIs it true?  People have to be cautious now when dating because most people are looking for help, not love?  We live in a society now where love has been waterehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/14/new-relationship-calls-for-new-boundaries-with-the-exesRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/14/new-relationship-calls-for-new-boundaries-with-the-exes/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/14/new-relationship-calls-for-new-boundaries-with-the-exesWed, 14 May 2014 02:30:00 GMTNew Relationship calls for New Boundaries with the ExesWe've been talking for the past few weeks about doing what's best for the children as adults.  If you have an ex in your life and you have children in the union or children from a previous relationship, you will be called to co parent which can, if allowed, cause tension between the new person in the picture.  The ideal situation would be for all parties to live in perfect harmony, right? However, we don't live in a perfect world and if selfishness, wrong motivations or strife exist, "Houston, we are going to have a problem."  The reason second time around relationships fail, many times is because we have not set boundaries with the previous.  As a woman, one thing I know is that if the other woman feels she has the upper hand on you because of what the man does, it will cause conflict.  How does one get through?  Do you discuss what goes on in your current relationship with your ex? When it comes to the children, how is our discussion?  Should you always be available for frivolous conversation?  How does one make the ex realize that they are going to have to deal with the current person you're in a relationship with? When is it okay to be honest with the ex and let them know you are in a new relationship?  It is important when there are children involved to maintain a good healthy balance in your relationship with the ex and the current. It’s never an easy transition, but many times we create our own defaults and downfalls, which often lead to epic fails. Many people deal with the X-factor so we want you to talk to us tonight..this is Real Talk the Movement 01:31:00Real Talk The Movementnoboundaries,relationships,Ex-Wife,ex-husbandsWe've been talking for the past few weeks about doing what's best for the children as adults.  If you have an ex in your life and you have children in the unionhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/07/do-you-stay-out-of-obligationRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/07/do-you-stay-out-of-obligation/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/05/07/do-you-stay-out-of-obligationWed, 07 May 2014 02:30:00 GMTDo you stay out of obligation?I've seen people in relationships that you can tell no love exists.  As a matter-of-fact, they don't even talk.  Could it be that relationships have taken a turn to us staying there due to obligation as opposed to authentic love?  Why do many jump in in the first place?  Mind you, when you make a decision to be in a committed relationship, does that make you obligated to the other individual?  Is that a difference from being accountable?  I believe partners become accountable because they are committed and because they want to and it allows trust to grow.. .you communicate because you want to... you love because you feel free and its simply natural to do with that person.  To be obligated means you are morally or legally bound; you are committed or here we go...you feel a debt of gratitude for a service or favor.   I feel there lies the problem...feeling indebted!   Because a person has been there for you financially, physically due to sickness, let you have a place to stay, etc., you may feel you owe them for it.  In the end, it doesn't always turn out right.  Please don't start the madness and be honest and true from the beginning. A void lies and one may begin cheating, both are not happy, the children see the stress.  We need to assess the foundation to any relationship.  Faking it in a relationship not only hurts the other person, it hurts YOU in the long run.  The only proving you have to do is prove to yourself that you can always find the courage to do what is the absolute best for YOU, in spite of what society, your parents, your friend, your colleagues, and your church says! At the end of the day, being in an obligatory relationship is self-serving because you are trying to meet your own personal needs. Let's talk about this tonight because we don't want to see anyone get into one or be on the other end of it!  01:33:00Real Talk The Movementnoobligation,relationships,LoveI've seen people in relationships that you can tell no love exists.  As a matter-of-fact, they don't even talk.  Could it be that relationships have taken a turhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/30/should-you-stay-in-the-marriage-for-the-sake-of-the-kidsRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/30/should-you-stay-in-the-marriage-for-the-sake-of-the-kids/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/30/should-you-stay-in-the-marriage-for-the-sake-of-the-kidsWed, 30 Apr 2014 02:30:00 GMTShould you stay in the marriage for the sake of the kids?By all means, we are advocates of marriage, we believe in love and relationship.  We do know, because of unforgiveness, hardness of heart, infedility, etc., many marriages fail...and our children suffer.  Tonight, we want to discuss "should people stay in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of the children and try to work it out?"  Is that possible? In loving environments, we know that we not only thrive, but our offspring thrive as well.  So if there is no love, no trust, no respect, what does that show the children?  Kids are not crazy, they can feel what goes on in an atmosphere.  So what do we do to maintain structure in a family?  I learned from my parents what a marriage looks like and I tried to recreate just that.  It just so happened that it did not work out.  Could it have worked...maybe?  But it takes two and the circumstance always arises.  So for the sake of the kids, do we stay together?  Understand that kids tend to do what we do.  Some will feel it is okay to stay in a loveless marriage as it preserves some sort of structure while others learn if it is not working, to get out!   Don't think for a minute that your kids don't pick up on any of this, that you hide it from them, or that you teach them to "do as I say, not as I do". They are learning how to make relationships by watching what you do in yours.  Let's talk about this tonight!  01:31:00Real Talk The Movementnochildren,marriage,loveless marriageBy all means, we are advocates of marriage, we believe in love and relationship.  We do know, because of unforgiveness, hardness of heart, infedility, etc., manhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/16/should-you-really-stay-friends-after-the-relationship-is-overRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/16/should-you-really-stay-friends-after-the-relationship-is-over/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/16/should-you-really-stay-friends-after-the-relationship-is-overWed, 16 Apr 2014 02:30:00 GMTShould you really stay "friends" after the relationship is over?Breaking up IS hard to do. There’s pain, tears, possibly even anger.  So to soften the effect of the words, what we do is say, "but let's stay friends." In a civil world, this may seem like a good idea. Mind you, you were in a relationship with this person for some type of good reason, it is evident you like them as a person, you had fun together and shared a lot together. It's just now, things changed.  If both individuals are emotionally mature, and completely lacking in romantic feelings for each other, then a jump straight to the friend zone might be possible. However, this very rarely happens. Mutual breakups are usually not mutual, and the breakee is holding on. So the question is:  Can you easily turn off the romantic feelings when relationships end?   Deep down inside, if you still have feelings for that person do you still have the "hope" that you will get back together? How about those mixed messages? One of the worst things that can happen to your dating life is getting hung up on someone who doesn’t love you. You pine, and they move on. Each new person that comes your way and expresses interest is swiftly blown off, because you are desperately hoping you can rekindle the flame with your ex. You can’t meet someone new because your old love is still in your life — hanging around being your pal and reminding you how great they are. I believe everyone needs a cooling off period but that can get very tricky if the other party still has not let go!  Serving walking papers.. Staying Friends – is it a good idea? 01:33:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,exgirlfriend,exboyfriend,friendshipBreaking up IS hard to do. There’s pain, tears, possibly even anger.  So to soften the effect of the words, what we do is say, "but let's stay friends." In a chttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/09/drunk-in-love-is-that-healthy-or-dysfunctionalRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/09/drunk-in-love-is-that-healthy-or-dysfunctional/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/09/drunk-in-love-is-that-healthy-or-dysfunctionalWed, 09 Apr 2014 02:30:00 GMTDrunk in Love: is that healthy or dysfunctional?It has been said that to be drunk in love or "love drunk" is when you miss the other person so much that you simply cannot get them out of your mind and you become a mess constantly thinking about them.  You're facebooking them, calling, texting trying to get a hold of them, and going crazy when you can't reach them. Some people said they zone out, become anxious and can't think straight, sounds like "drunk to me."  Real Talk, when you love someone, don't you think about them constantly, love to be around them and if you were to break up, heartbreak would occur?  So what's the difference?  Let's talk about this Love Drunken State.... is it healthy or dysfunctional?  02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnodrunk,Love,Healthy,dysfunctionalIt has been said that to be drunk in love or "love drunk" is when you miss the other person so much that you simply cannot get them out of your mind and you bechttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/02/signs-of-a-psychopathwhat-you-need-to-know-beforeRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/02/signs-of-a-psychopathwhat-you-need-to-know-before/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/04/02/signs-of-a-psychopathwhat-you-need-to-know-beforeWed, 02 Apr 2014 02:30:00 GMTSigns of a Psychopath...what you need to know beforeThe older we become, the more people come into our lives with issues and baggage.  No one is exempt, you just need to know what you're getting and if you are able to handle those issues and that baggage; the negotiables and nonnegotiables as Dr. Ryeal Simms mentions often.  Could you be in a relationship with a person that doesn't seem quite right?  A psychopath, a sociopath, etc?  You need to know the signs so cra cra does not enter the building.  We want to see all people successful in life and relationship, so let's pay attention. Psychopaths can be extremely charming so unless you know the signs, you will get sucked in.   Some times they will do what is called "crack in the mask"....  he/she will blurt out, "you know I'm crazy" or "I'm cheating on you" but then they play it off as a joke.  Of course, nobody is perfect, and some people are just immature and go through periods of giving the silent treatment, try to create jealousy because they're insecure or bored or don't even quite realize they're doing it. Let's talk tonight! 02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnodating,psychopath,crazyThe older we become, the more people come into our lives with issues and baggage.  No one is exempt, you just need to know what you're getting and if you are abhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/26/sexism-feminism-chauvinism-they-come-in-3sRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/26/sexism-feminism-chauvinism-they-come-in-3s/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/26/sexism-feminism-chauvinism-they-come-in-3sWed, 26 Mar 2014 02:30:00 GMTSexism, Feminism & Chauvinism: They come in 3s!Ask yourself:  Do you discriminate based on sex?  Do you stereotype the opposite sex because of something you experienced, heard or simply look for the negative?  We've all had bad experiences with those of the opposite sex but do you yet categorized into the following:  "women are hoes and men are dogs".  Since women's lib, women have been afforded the opportunity to work in a so called "man's world" and are doing it.  But has it cost us relationship?  Many of our men are incarcerated, have lost their jobs and some carry "the momma's boy syndrome..  Has that effected the way men deem themselves as the man of the house or the bread winners in the household? I believe we have work to do in order for neither of the sexes to judge, put down, stereotype, etc... why?  because many things are individualized though we have been effected in a genera sense.  Let's talk tonight about Sexism, feminism and chauvinism on Real Talk Radio!  We're ready...  LET'S GO!  02:00:00Real Talk The Movementnosexism,chauvinism,feminismAsk yourself:  Do you discriminate based on sex?  Do you stereotype the opposite sex because of something you experienced, heard or simply look for the negativehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/19/signs-of-an-alpha-femaleRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/19/signs-of-an-alpha-female/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/19/signs-of-an-alpha-femaleWed, 19 Mar 2014 02:30:00 GMTSigns of an alpha femaleWhen hearing the term alpha male, women see him as powerful, a "man's man," possesses the qualities of a leader, protector, territorial.  Women now possess these same qualities due to career choice, having to take on the responsibility of mom and dad in the household or business owners.  She is then known as the "alpha female."   Being an Alpha Female should be looked at as a good thing, but most bold women are sometimes recognized as high-maintenance, controlling, strong, harsh at times.   At the end of the day, a woman is a woman and the feminine qualities are there, it is just many of us have to find them again.  At the end of the day, a woman wants a man to take charge, protect, lead and respect her.  So now, how does a woman get back to her feminine ways or learn how to turn off the alpha rhythm?  Tonight we will speak with Dr. Darnise Martin on "Leading with the Feminine".   We're excited about it! 02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnofeminine,alpha womenWhen hearing the term alpha male, women see him as powerful, a "man's man," possesses the qualities of a leader, protector, territorial.  Women now possess theshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/12/can-love-and-fame-co-existRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/12/can-love-and-fame-co-exist/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/03/12/can-love-and-fame-co-existWed, 12 Mar 2014 02:30:00 GMTCan love and fame co-exist?We just experienced the Oscar's last week and saw so many smiles, hugs and kisses amongst couples.  Couples in love, couples on their way to love and friends just being with friends.   I look back at Denzel and Pauletta Washington,  how before Denzel came to fame and fortune, there was Pauletta by his side, the same goes for Samuel L. Jackson and Latonya Jackson and so many others.  These couples proved the test of time.  But with the fame, has come other distractions in the form of people, more stardom, money and I'm sure things we could only imagine.  Though they are on the big screen, what about those not on the big screen and are climbing the corporate ladder or in the limelight?  Can love and fame co-exist?  If so, what has to happen for it to sustain?  Do people really grow apart or is it that one simply gets caught up? Let's talk tonight!      01:55:00Real Talk The MovementnoLove,fame,coexist,HOLLYWOODWe just experienced the Oscar's last week and saw so many smiles, hugs and kisses amongst couples.  Couples in love, couples on their way to love and friends juhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/26/confusing-the-lesson-for-the-soulmateRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/26/confusing-the-lesson-for-the-soulmate/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/26/confusing-the-lesson-for-the-soulmateWed, 26 Feb 2014 03:30:00 GMTConfusing the lesson for the soulmateIn life, there are many lessons we will learn.  During some of those lessons, we will become frustrated, hurt, saddened, thoughtful and hopefully grow.  The most important lessons seem to be those that frustrate or hurt us the most.  In those, you may be in a relationship that may not necessarily be the right relationship for you, but then again...it could be.   At that moment, you have to begin to ask the right questions.  The problem for many people is that we get into a rush or believe a relationship will never happen so we jump in to a thing and stay in it even though it does not feel right.  There is a lesson here and you can learn more about you in it.  Tonight, we will talk about the following: How do you know this is the wrong person for youHow to know what a healthy relationship looks likeCan one maintain friendship with the "lesson"Do you have the willingness to know when it is right to stay devoted and committed Join us for the conversation...   02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnolesson,soulmate,love,LoveIn life, there are many lessons we will learn.  During some of those lessons, we will become frustrated, hurt, saddened, thoughtful and hopefully grow.  The moshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/19/do-black-women-tear-each-other-down-more-than-other-racesRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/19/do-black-women-tear-each-other-down-more-than-other-races/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/19/do-black-women-tear-each-other-down-more-than-other-racesWed, 19 Feb 2014 03:30:00 GMTDo black women tear each other down more than other races?In lieu of it being Black History Month, we are going to face the elephant in the room!  Do black women tear each other down?  It amazes me as to when I hear of someone's success, there are others who find the slightest crevice to tear it down with little words like, "she ain't all that!"  "Honey I remember when!".  Are we bitter towards one another and if so, why?  Is it because we are not happy where we are or simply don't respect one another?  We are some of the most intelligent people I know, are creative and can take the impossible and make it possible with the help of God!  Somebody tell me what's really going on!  I can't wait to hear from my sistas!! 01:39:00Real Talk The Movementnoblack,Women,compete,usaIn lieu of it being Black History Month, we are going to face the elephant in the room!  Do black women tear each other down?  It amazes me as to when I hear ofhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/12/heshe-has-kids-is-that-a-problem-for-youRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/12/heshe-has-kids-is-that-a-problem-for-you/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/12/heshe-has-kids-is-that-a-problem-for-youWed, 12 Feb 2014 03:30:00 GMTHe/She has kids! Is that a problem for you?The older you become, the more apt you will run into "potentials" who have children.  The question is, would you be willing to date someone with kids?  The reality!  When people have children, those children will require time, it's a must.  You may vy for your partner's attention on a daily basis or should you really vy for time?  Many factors can come into play that you will have to begin to ask yourself before moving further.  It could be monetary, it could be the number of children involved, were they out of wedlock, does it matter?  Let's go there tonight because let's face it, most relationships going into will be blended.  02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnokids,datingThe older you become, the more apt you will run into "potentials" who have children.  The question is, would you be willing to date someone with kids?  The realhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/05/does-black-love-really-matter-our-enslaved-ancestors-fought-for-itRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/05/does-black-love-really-matter-our-enslaved-ancestors-fought-for-it/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/02/05/does-black-love-really-matter-our-enslaved-ancestors-fought-for-itWed, 05 Feb 2014 03:30:00 GMTDoes Black Love Really Matter? Our enslaved ancestors fought for itWe hear about sticking together, looking out for one another and embracing the concept of “Black love." Why is this so important to us?  Noted in Essence Magazine.  When it comes to African-Americans, it is mentioned that love is a very complicated and often an evasive concept. Our enslaved ancestors had to fight for love and sneak it in when our captors were not looking. As Bell Hooks says in "Salvation: Black People and Love," post-slavery movements to secure true freedom often made our men feel like they needed to be “fighters, not lovers." They did not always see that it was possible to be tender and romantic with love in the home, at the same time that they were strong and battle-ready when dealing with the enemy outside of it. And while women contributed a great deal of nurturing, they also struggled with balancing the demands of work and love. We have often experienced forced separation from our partners and our families that has made love an even more traumatic concept. Is this what has been tangling us up?  Let's talk! 02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnoblack love,enslaved,ancestors,relationshipsWe hear about sticking together, looking out for one another and embracing the concept of “Black love." Why is this so important to us?  Noted in Essence Magazihttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/29/men-say-a-good-woman-is-hard-to-findwhy-is-thatRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/29/men-say-a-good-woman-is-hard-to-findwhy-is-that/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/29/men-say-a-good-woman-is-hard-to-findwhy-is-thatWed, 29 Jan 2014 03:30:00 GMTMen say a good woman is hard to find..why is that?Why do men say a good woman is hard to find?  Could it be they are looking for a mother, a stay-at-home wife, a woman who is so submissive that she can't think for herself?  You tell me?  What is their definition of a good woman? Is a woman's independence a problem for men that makes her less desirable as a woman?  Could it be that they feel women are not emotionally stable and don't know how to treat a man?  I'm looking forward to hearing from our men tonight!  I mean we all come with baggage so are good men hard to find as well?  Wallk it out!  Let's all be open tonight! WE'RE LOOKING FOR SPONSORS:  If you have written a book, have product or have a business that you would like promotions for, please inbox me at latonya@latonyawashington.com.     02:03:00Real Talk The MovementnoWoman,good,Relationships,menWhy do men say a good woman is hard to find?  Could it be they are looking for a mother, a stay-at-home wife, a woman who is so submissive that she can't thinkhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/22/secrets-lies-leadership-with-featured-author-and-pastor-sherman-dumasRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/22/secrets-lies-leadership-with-featured-author-and-pastor-sherman-dumas/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/22/secrets-lies-leadership-with-featured-author-and-pastor-sherman-dumasWed, 22 Jan 2014 03:30:00 GMTSECRETS, lies & Leadership with featured Author and Pastor, Sherman DumasWe've seen it time and time again on the television screen, heard it on the radio or through the grapevine that a leader or Pastor has gotten caught up in a scandal, their little secrets have come out the closet or they've been caught in a lie. Are our leaders to be held accountable by our "sanctified" standards and should they be obligated to "tell us everything about their past and there thorns in the flesh?  "Preachers of LA"...oh yes, let's talk about it!  We know they're human and as a human, we have flaws, but should a leader show that much transparency? Tonight, we speak with Author and Pastor Sherman Dumas of Kingdom Culture Worship Centre, in Southern California. His impact reaches thousands through outreach, television, and radio broadcast appearances. He established Renaissance School of Ministry, in 2011 to further educate leaders and create a space for exponential growth and development for emerging world changers. Let's Talk about the Secrets, Lies & the Leadership!  amazon.com.  I want to know....IS ANYONE CLEAN?  Host and Founder of Real Talk the Movement, LaTonya WashingtonCo-Host:  Tshombe TshantiConsultant/Clinical Psychologist:  Dr. MonicaChat Room Moderator:  Juacclyn Nikol WE'RE LOOKING FOR SPONSORS!   If you are a business owner, have written a book or have product and would like promotions through Real Talk the Movement, do inbox me at latonya@latonyawashington.com.   We have great things in store!   02:06:00Real Talk The Movementnosecrets,lies,leadership,church,pastorsWe've seen it time and time again on the television screen, heard it on the radio or through the grapevine that a leader or Pastor has gotten caught up in a scahttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/15/you-give-me-butterfliesso-does-that-mean-its-the-real-deal-holyfieldRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/15/you-give-me-butterfliesso-does-that-mean-its-the-real-deal-holyfield/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/15/you-give-me-butterfliesso-does-that-mean-its-the-real-deal-holyfieldWed, 15 Jan 2014 03:30:00 GMTYou give me butterflies...so does that mean it's the real deal Holyfield?"Man, I saw him, he spoke to me and I got chills up and down my spine plus my stomach was doing flips!."  What does it mean?   Michael Jackson said in his song..."you give me butterflies"!! What about those people who say "when I first met my man/woman, I wasn't necessarily into them that way."  Do the butterflies come? You tell me?  we know butterflies play a role, but is it an important role?  Does that mean there is chemistry?  What happens when the challenges come?  We know that butterflies are not easy to come by and if they are still there after a lengthy period of time, is must mean something...the question is what is that something? So let's talk: A few questions that will be posed tonight will be: If the butterfly affect is there initially, does that mean it's a spiritual connection?Can butterflies come later if they were not there in the beginning or are we kidding ourselves?If  we share with one another and get to know one another better, does that generate the butterfly affect? You ready?  Get out the popcorn!  WE'RE LOOKING FOR SPONSORS:  If you are an author, speaker, business owner and would like us to be part of your promotions, please inbox me at latonya@latonyawashington.com.  02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnobutterflies,Chemistry,Relationships,Human Nature"Man, I saw him, he spoke to me and I got chills up and down my spine plus my stomach was doing flips!."  What does it mean?   Michael Jackson said in his song.http://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/08/signs-of-a-serial-dater-and-heshes-not-about-to-commitjust-yetRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/08/signs-of-a-serial-dater-and-heshes-not-about-to-commitjust-yet/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2014/01/08/signs-of-a-serial-dater-and-heshes-not-about-to-commitjust-yetWed, 08 Jan 2014 03:30:00 GMTSigns of a serial dater and he/she's not about to commit...just yet!We've all experienced them or have been them ourselves.  Serial daters don't necessarily see things long term, but week to week, or as the term goes... "we're just kicking it for now and I date other people...you okay with that?"   The mentality can be if that one does not perform or give me what I want another one will so "deuces."  OR I like my cookies and ice cream over here, but I like that conversation over there... and I'm liking that one too!   Serial daters are mindful of the options out there and normally are confident though may have other issues. Serial dating or daters is not necessarily a bad thing or are bad people, they're just not ready for committment.  So what is one to do if ready for relationship and come across a serial dater?  Pay attention because it can be a sneak attack!   In this session, we are going to talk about the following: What are the signs of a serial dater?Are most serial daters afraid of comittment?If I want to be a relationship and dating a serial dater, should I hold on with hopes of them changing? Get the notpad and paper out, let's converse!  There are some things you simply need to know.  WE'RE LOOKING FOR SPONSORS!  If you have a business, have a book, are a speaker and want to be part of our promotions weekly, do inbox me for details on sponsorship.  email is latonya@latonyawashington.com 02:04:00Real Talk The MovementnoSerial,date,committment,men,WomenWe've all experienced them or have been them ourselves.  Serial daters don't necessarily see things long term, but week to week, or as the term goes... "we're jhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/18/has-career-gotten-in-the-way-of-your-relationshipRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/18/has-career-gotten-in-the-way-of-your-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/18/has-career-gotten-in-the-way-of-your-relationshipWed, 18 Dec 2013 03:30:00 GMTHas career gotten in the way of your relationship?We work 10 to 12 hour days, receive endless e-mails and texts throughout the day and evening.  The you know we are working on stuff over the weekend.  The pressure of doing the work to stay relevant in the career and wanting a lasting relationship or maintaining a relationship can be tough on you and your partner.  So now what is one to do?  Can you have a fabulous career and relationship simultaneously or is that impossible?  A many marriages and/or relationships have fallen apart because one put career over the family.   Real Talk!  It is what it is... women are making drastic moves in career and becomeing entrepreneurs.  Men are moving up the ladder too so where is the compromise?  How do we make it work?  Tonight, we'll talk about it!  Join me, your host, LaTonya Washington; Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti; Doc on Hand, Dr. Monica; Chat Room Moderator, J Nikol!   If you would like to be a sponsor of Real Talk the Movement Radio, do send an e-mail to pr@realtalktm.org.  We will be glad to have you.  If you are an entrepreneur or small business, you will receive advertisement rights throughout the show and with our marketing campaign.  02:04:00Real Talk The Movementnocareer,relationship,support,menWe work 10 to 12 hour days, receive endless e-mails and texts throughout the day and evening.  The you know we are working on stuff over the weekend.  The presshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/11/men-go-to-their-caves-while-women-talkRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/11/men-go-to-their-caves-while-women-talk/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/11/men-go-to-their-caves-while-women-talkWed, 11 Dec 2013 03:30:00 GMTMen go to their caves while women talkFor years, we've been trying to get men to open up and communicate.  It has become obvious that most will not be so open to it because it is against their nature to do so.  Women on the other hand, we are more open to talk to one another and "get it out."  So where's the happy medium?  How do we know when to let one go to their cave and let the other talk and express their feelings?  I believe we have to understand one another's nature.  For instance, when a man says "I don't want to talk about it right now," how do we as women perceive that?  Most times we may think him to be upset but in actuality he is just in need of time to work a thing out in his mind.  When a woman says "talk to me" how do men perceive that?  Most times men may think she wants to nag but in actuality, she may just need an understanding or want to see how she can help.  So now what?  If a man is pursued into his cave, the deeper he will go.  If a woman is ignored, her mind may begin to wonder.  The questions tonight are?  As a woman, how do you ignore the instinct to follow the man to his cave? How do you learn to understand one another before conflict arises? How do you assure self to not allow your mind to wonder to a place that may not even be the situation? How do you  read between the lines of the one you love? Join us tonight for Real Talk Radio with your host, LaTonya Washington; CoHost Tshombe Tshanti, Doc on Hand Dr. Monica and Chat Room Moderator, J Nikol.      02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnotalk,Cave,men,Women,stressFor years, we've been trying to get men to open up and communicate.  It has become obvious that most will not be so open to it because it is against their naturhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/04/why-am-i-still-singleRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/04/why-am-i-still-single/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/12/04/why-am-i-still-singleWed, 04 Dec 2013 03:30:00 GMTWhy am I still single?The whole truth and nothing but the truth so help you God!   We at Real Talk the Movement hear it time after time, people wanting to hang up the single life for a relationship and not just a relationship, a loving relationship.  That's a good thing!  So the question is asked,  "I take care of myself, I'm pretty, I have a great job and/or career... why am I yet single?  Honey, let's face it, those are outer ingredients.  I'm sorry, I had to add that in. In my experience as a woman, I have never had a problem with being approached, asked out on a date or engaged in conversation.  The question is, in those few moments, what choices were made?  Was there a connection?  was I ready?  Was I a runner (you remember the movie Runaway Bride)!!.  You see, you have to go deeper than the surface.    Are you honest about the level of committment you expect...because you know you will also have to give. Do you believe you truly deserve the right kind of love?  Boy I can go on and on but I won't... we're going to save it for tonight's conversation!  Let me add this though, some of y'all need to come out the box, the same routine gotta go and leave a few things to the imagination....ijs Join me, your host, LaTonya Washington; Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Doc on Hand, Dr. Monica and  Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol.    Looking forward to speaking with some special guests tonight, the Amazing Clarks, Melanie and Anthony Clark will be shedding light tonight so put your seatbelt on!   02:04:00Real Talk The Movementnosingle,Relationships,MARRIAGE,Alone,womenThe whole truth and nothing but the truth so help you God!   We at Real Talk the Movement hear it time after time, people wanting to hang up the single life fohttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/27/why-are-men-admiredRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/27/why-are-men-admired/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/27/why-are-men-admiredWed, 27 Nov 2013 03:30:00 GMTWhy are men admired?I was sent this invite on Facebook that asked the question...? What man or men do you admire most?  Of course immediately my father came to mind because he taught his little girl well along with my four siblings.  Though we didn't always heed, we developed wisdom, understood life lessons more.  It also took me back to the positive that men represent in our lives, our communities and in our world.  This episode is based off on that question of Chris L. Hickey Sr.  What do you admire about men and why?  So, can you think back to the man(men) you admire the most and think back to why?  Do men hold a positive light in your life?  Let's talk tonight about what we admire about the men in our lives, the men who may not necessarily be in our lives but we love what they represent and how it affects you.   I hope to have Chris as our special guest tonight!  Join us, Host and Founder, LaTonya Washington, along with Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Doc on Hand, Dr. Monica, clinical psychologist, along with Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol.      It 02:05:00Real Talk The Movementnoadmiration,men,Women,affection,relationshipsI was sent this invite on Facebook that asked the question...? What man or men do you admire most?  Of course immediately my father came to mind because he taughttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/20/the-compatibility-factor-signs-that-you-are-right-or-wrong-for-each-otherRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/20/the-compatibility-factor-signs-that-you-are-right-or-wrong-for-each-other/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/20/the-compatibility-factor-signs-that-you-are-right-or-wrong-for-each-otherWed, 20 Nov 2013 03:30:00 GMTThe compatibility factor: signs that you are right (or wrong) for each otherLast week, we dicussed the stages of relationship.  But before we even get to the relationship, we need to evaluate if we are compatible with one another.  How do you know if you are compatible?  We all want the one who is right for us.  In order for us to stop the casualties of love, we have to stop going into any relationship frivulously.  Your partner has to "fit" your personality, habits and things you deem important.  So what do you need to look for? Personality..  Do you really get along? Communication... Do you do all the talking or does the other?  Evaluate the conversation, do they flow and are they enjoyable. Intimacy..what is your idea of romance, is there chemistry there? Health....if I'm a gym rat and they are a couch potatoe, how is that working for you? Friends and Family...it is very important to meet these folk. Finances... are you generous and the other frugal?  That's a talker!! If you find yourself not compatible, what will you do?  change or leave? Join us for Real Talk the Movement Radio with your Host and Founder, LaTonya Washington; Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Doc on Hand, Dr. Monica and Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol.   LET'S GOOOO!!! 02:04:00Real Talk The Movementnocompatible,relationship,personality,finances,intimacyLast week, we dicussed the stages of relationship.  But before we even get to the relationship, we need to evaluate if we are compatible with one another.  Howhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/13/the-five-stages-of-a-relationship-the-processRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/13/the-five-stages-of-a-relationship-the-process/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/13/the-five-stages-of-a-relationship-the-processWed, 13 Nov 2013 03:30:00 GMTThe five stages of a relationship... the ProcessEvery relationship we enter follows five stages of development in a precise sequence.  These stages will progress unless there is a deliberate intervention on one's part to stop them.  What we must be cautious about is moving through each sequence too quickly or jumping past a stage.   For instance, you may have a great first impression and immediately begin to think of marriage.  Don't get it twisted!  You have not gone through the stages yet of getting to know the individual.  Slow your roll.  Think about this, just as a seed is planted in the ground, it takes time for it to develop and grow.  THE STAGES:  First Impression or the introductory stage:  when you view the outside of the individual or listen in Acquaintanceship: when you move beyond the outer assessmentDeeper disclosure: when you begin to share private informationFriendship:  when you begin to build on the relationship, the trust comes after disclosure of informationFormalization:  when you make an announcement that you are a couple, it is know pubically.  So are you willing to go through the stages and allow it to progress?  Relationships require space, each person who comes into your life will take up some space.  How much are you willing to give?  The ones you want to nourish and flourish should receive more...  so can you handle that? Let's talk tonight on the Stages of Relationship!  Host and Founder:  LaTonya Washington.  Co-Host:  Tshombe Tshanti.  Doc on Hand:  Dr. Monica.  Chat Room Moderator;  Juacclyn Nikol.    If you would like to be a sponsor of Real Talk Radio, do inquire within at pr@realtalktm.org   02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnostages,Process Improvement,Impressions,acquaintancesEvery relationship we enter follows five stages of development in a precise sequence.  These stages will progress unless there is a deliberate intervention on ohttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/06/not-knowing-what-you-want-the-reboundRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/06/not-knowing-what-you-want-the-rebound/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/11/06/not-knowing-what-you-want-the-reboundWed, 06 Nov 2013 03:30:00 GMTNot knowing what you want: The Rebound The Gray Area, that's what I call it... the area where you really don't know...you can be veered to the left or the right at any given time or with any given situation.  When we don't know what we want in a relationship or a mate, our actions can move from person A to person W quickly...all because of a spark... a feeling.  This also can cause a rebound.    So what is a person to do when feeling they are now mature enough to go into a meaningful relationship?  Are there questions that should be asked?  How about your own development?  When do you know you are ready for a relationship? We all know that most people can see desperate, fake, immaturity.  It cannot be hidden.  But they also know confident, truth and one who is mature.... all of which comes in time.  Get your pens and paper out for this one, your first step is writing down what you believe you want in a relationship...  Ready...set...GO!   I think the rest will follow but let's talk about it....   02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnorebound,want,gray,middle,relationshipThe Gray Area, that's what I call it... the area where you really don't know...you can be veered to the left or the right at any given time or with any given shttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/30/group-think-or-peer-pressureRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/30/group-think-or-peer-pressure/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/30/group-think-or-peer-pressureWed, 30 Oct 2013 02:30:00 GMTGroup think or peer pressure? As I continue to grow, I'm learning daily it is a good thing to obtain wise counsel, but make sure it is wise counsel.  We learn that at the end of the day, we have to be true to self and the one(s) we are in relationship(s) with.  Our friends, our peers have experiences and interests that may be similar.  We all make decisions and in those decisions we have to make sure WE allow our own spirit to speak.  No one knows your relationship better than you and the other person involved.  Now if you are being beat up on, you need to take heed but when it comes to how you choose to engage in your relationship, who you choose to engage with and when, is your choice with the hope that you make the right choice.  It's natural for people to identify and compare themselves to one another. We are very influential and can be influenced.   My question to you is: 1.  If in a relationship tha does not fit the norm, do you feel uneased because people will look at you differently 2.  Do you feel you need to be married by a certain age because others say you should be? 3.  If you have a strong liking for someone but others say they're not right for you, what do you do? These are just a few things we will discuss.  Join the conversation!02:04:00Real Talk The Movementnopressure,people,heart,logic,truthAs I continue to grow, I'm learning daily it is a good thing to obtain wise counsel, but make sure it is wise counsel.  We learn that at the end of the day, wehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/23/when-do-men-hold-men-accountable-for-their-behaviorRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/23/when-do-men-hold-men-accountable-for-their-behavior/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/23/when-do-men-hold-men-accountable-for-their-behaviorWed, 23 Oct 2013 02:30:00 GMTWhen do men hold MEN accountable for their Behavior?I said this during the last Real Talk the Movement Reel and I'm saying it again:  "I keep hearing men say I want to teach women how to treat a man OR I want to help women understand what not to do OR I want women to know they need to stop being bitter.  If you have paid attention like me, most articles are about coaching women on how to be, what to accept and what not to accept.  Where's the balance and when do the men start teaching the men how to treat women?  Have women lowered their expectation that men have convinced themselves that it's okay to hang low? Even if a woman does not treat herself with respect, is is not the responsibility of the man to yet treat her with respect?  Is it possible that she may not know what to do but if you show love, she just may come up higher.  We tell our women not to have sex so quickly with a man but what about men not having sex so quickly with that woman?  C'Mon y'all.. LET'S GET IT TOGETHER and THRIVE~! What would happen if men began to really make one another accountable just as women making one another accountable... that would be quite interesting to me...  how about that MAN CODE? Join us tonight for some Real Talk....AGAIN! 02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnoaccountable,behavior,women,men,treatmentI said this during the last Real Talk the Movement Reel and I'm saying it again:  "I keep hearing men say I want to teach women how to treat a man OR I want tohttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/16/is-love-overratedRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/16/is-love-overrated/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/16/is-love-overratedWed, 16 Oct 2013 02:30:00 GMTIs LOVE overrated? Is love overrated?  This question was posed to me via Twitter and though I believe in it, realized there are many who either have watered it down, no longer believe in it or don't even know what it looks like.  I then took the question to our closed Real Talk the Movement Group on Facebook and asked the same question:  One person said "it's not overrated but misunderstood between healthy and unhealthy."  Another stated "due to unhappiness experienced with it, many may think it to be overrated."  Our Co-Host also stated "one has to feel love in order to know what it truly is."    What a discussion in the group! So now, evaluate...how many have experienced love?  Can you tell me what it feels like, what it looks like, what it is?  Let's talk!  Guests will be talking with us and we look forward to the conversation.  Host:  LaTonya Washington.  Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti.  Docs on Hand:  Dr. Moinca and Ryeal "Relationship Coach" Sims and Chat Roo Moderator: Juacclyn Nikol.  We are opening up the doors for sponsors.  Great advertisement opportunities.  Send e-mail to pr@realtalktm.org.      02:04:00Real Talk The Movementnolove,overrated,happiness,functional,dysfunctionalIs love overrated?  This question was posed to me via Twitter and though I believe in it, realized there are many who either have watered it down, no longer behttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/09/ladies-hes-not-that-n2u-if-he-is-having-sex-with-anotherRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/09/ladies-hes-not-that-n2u-if-he-is-having-sex-with-another/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/09/ladies-hes-not-that-n2u-if-he-is-having-sex-with-anotherWed, 09 Oct 2013 02:30:00 GMTLadies: He's not that N2u if he is having SEX with another How many times have you heard this..."it just happened, I got caught up in the moment, I thought we were in an "open relationship babe...my bad"  Would this now be considered the following relationship status:  "It's Complicated."   Relationships are how we relate with and to one another.  When sex is involved, an intimacy can occur, emotions get involved and now we have a situation. We've heard of mistakes, people cheating and then coming back and asking for forgiveness which is now up to the other person whether they will let them back in or not.  But when it is a pattern that is repeated over and over and over again, when do you recognize...."he's not that into you or there is a condition or addiction going on?  Now what? - your choice. If in an established monogamous relationship and someone sleeps with another, that for most is considered to be a blatant disrespect.  Does one accidently sleep with anyone?  I don't think so but let's hear what the people have to say..... HE JUST MAY NOT BE THAT INTO YOU!  ijs Would you take someone back if they had sex with someone else if in an established relationship?  yeah yeah...I already know what you are going to say...."it depends."  is that your REAL?  ijs If you took them back, would you punish them or make them suffer? Would you then consider cheating? Guest Co-Host for this evening is writer/publisher, Michael McGrew.  He's going to talk to us a little bit tonight about his latest, Designer Relationships!  Let's talk!! Let's talk on Tuesday 7:30 pm PST.  This is REAL TALK the MOVEMENT!  If you would like to be a sponsor of Real Talk the Movement, send an email saying "I would like to be a sponsor" to pr@realtalktm.org.     02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnocheat,sex,ladies,men,openHow many times have you heard this..."it just happened, I got caught up in the moment, I thought we were in an "open relationship babe...my bad"  Would this nohttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/02/is-social-networking-affecting-real-relationshipsRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/02/is-social-networking-affecting-real-relationships/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/10/02/is-social-networking-affecting-real-relationshipsWed, 02 Oct 2013 02:30:00 GMTIs Social Networking affecting real relationships?Is social media allowing us to develop meaningful relationships that we may never have done before or has it allowed us to "hide" behind the screen and play make believe?  Do we now feel compelled to share all the business when we let emotions take over - There is no taking back once it hits cyberspace.   So how is social networking affecting our relationships? I've now curious to know are our behaviors changing because we don't have to work as hard to maintain intimacy?  Ask yourself, have I let go of the common phone conversation or turned to text messaging, e-mail, facebook, Twitter? Telling my information to everyone from where I am at 4pm to "he's my man/woman so Step Off!"  Tonight we will talk about how it may be affecting you, your committment to your significant other and your life in general.  Join us for the conversation. Your Host, Founder and Executive Producer  Latonya Washington.  Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti.  Docs on Hand Dr. Monica and Ryeal "Relationship" Coach Sims and Chat room moderate:  Juacclyn Nikol!  02:06:00Real Talk The Movementnosocial media,networking,male,female,snoopingIs social media allowing us to develop meaningful relationships that we may never have done before or has it allowed us to "hide" behind the screen and play makhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/25/relationship-with-disabilities-and-illnesscould-you-do-itRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/25/relationship-with-disabilities-and-illnesscould-you-do-it/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/25/relationship-with-disabilities-and-illnesscould-you-do-itWed, 25 Sep 2013 02:30:00 GMTRelationship with disabilities and illness..could you do it? Say you had a high school sweetheart, you married, lived a happy life and then suddenly they were strickened with an illness.   How about meeting a wonderful person who stole your heart but they were cripple.  Would you go into a relationship with them or would you shy away from it due to its outer appearance?  This is Real Talk and we listen to Real People.   Not everyone has the perfect appearance, we come with one leg possibly shorter than the other, a missing finger or toe, heart disease, diabetes or even wheelchair-bound.  Love is love but do we limit ourselves because of the image.  I had to even ask myself the hard question....would I? Tonight, we are going to have a real discussion with US, those with disabilities, those with an illness and those without.  Let's dig into the feelings on Real Talk the Movement.  We all deserve love....right? Your Host:  LaTonya Washington, CoHost:  Tshombe Tshanti, Docs on Hand:  Dr. Monica and Ryeal "Relationship Coach Sims, Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol.   02:07:00Real Talk The Movementnodisability,illness,love,Reeves,crippleSay you had a high school sweetheart, you married, lived a happy life and then suddenly they were strickened with an illness.   How about meeting a wonderful phttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/18/getting-past-the-hurt-the-pain-the-rejectionits-realRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/18/getting-past-the-hurt-the-pain-the-rejectionits-real/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/18/getting-past-the-hurt-the-pain-the-rejectionits-realWed, 18 Sep 2013 02:30:00 GMTGetting past the hurt, the pain, the rejection.."it's real!" One thing we need to understand about dealing with pain, is that crying may acknowledge that it's there, it may even help to release it, but it doesn't get rid of it. When do we honestly look at a person or persons who have caused us pain and say, I love you? Pain doesn't heal in 5 minutes, it takes time. If we are willing to put in an effort it can be dealt with quite easier than we often think. Today, ask yourself:  How would I react if I found out tha the one I love is leaving me for someone else?  How would I react if a person I trusted betrayed me? How would I react if I found the one person I dreamt of all my life, and I couldn't have them?  We can get through the trials we face. Join us for this Real with special guest, Kofi Michael ...the creator of Afro-Man The Protectors of The Book of Knowledge, as he talks about his battles... 02:07:00Real Talk The Movementnohurt,pain,abandonment,self-esteem,confidenceOne thing we need to understand about dealing with pain, is that crying may acknowledge that it's there, it may even help to release it, but it doesn't get ridhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/11/what-can-a-successful-man-offer-a-successful-womanRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/11/what-can-a-successful-man-offer-a-successful-woman/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/11/what-can-a-successful-man-offer-a-successful-womanWed, 11 Sep 2013 02:30:00 GMTWhat can a successful man offer a successful woman Many successful women are having a hard time finding a mate..they say.  That has been one of the biggest topics of this year. I think I’ve seen it in almost every article this year and in the past year.  Are men now wondering, "what can I give her that she doesn't already have... I mean she is wearing the pants."   Has the successful woman by gaining all the professional goals sacrificed personal goals? Men, who were considered to be the providers, are being laid off and women are becoming the sole bread winners in their household. Can that have an effect on a relationship?  Many women are choosing to put careers over personal satisfaction, is that wrong? So here is the question:  What can a successful man offer a successful woman?  We all want to be successful....right?  But can one handle the success and maintain roles... as a matter of fact....what are the roles? Let's talk!   If you would like to be a sponsor of Real talk the Movement, simply e-mail us at pr@realtalktm.org!    02:05:00Real Talk The Movementnosuccessful,feminine,masculine,roles,changingMany successful women are having a hard time finding a mate..they say.  That has been one of the biggest topics of this year. I think I’ve seen it in almost evhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/04/breaking-the-cycle-of-addiction-what-are-you-addicted-toRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/04/breaking-the-cycle-of-addiction-what-are-you-addicted-to/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/09/04/breaking-the-cycle-of-addiction-what-are-you-addicted-toWed, 04 Sep 2013 02:30:00 GMTBreaking the cycle of addiction "what are you addicted to?"The person caught in addictive behavior goes through life trying to feel good but never making it. They are looking for a fix whether it is through drugs or love and underneath they want a connection to fill a void.  Underneath the love addictions is the belief of personal unworthiness, which results in choosing a partner who is fearful of connection and intimacy. Sex, romance and relationship addicts are those individuals who lack their own sense of spirituality and seek their identity in other people. Their addictive behavior allows them to avoid personal responsibility for their behavior and escape intimacy.  This night, we are going to talk about breaking the cycle of addiction because you are worthy, you are someone, you simply need to realize it yourself. How does one break the cycle? What are the most common addictions? Join our TEAM:  Host:  LaTonya Washington, Founder CoHost Tshombe Tshanti  Docs on Hand:  Dr. Monica and Ryeal Relationship Coach Simms.  Chat Room Moderator:  Juacclyn Nikol.          02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnoaddiction,love,abuse,drugs,breakThe person caught in addictive behavior goes through life trying to feel good but never making it. They are looking for a fix whether it is through drugs or lovhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/28/when-the-love-you-love-doesnt-love-you-backRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/28/when-the-love-you-love-doesnt-love-you-back/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/28/when-the-love-you-love-doesnt-love-you-backWed, 28 Aug 2013 02:30:00 GMTWhen the love you love doesn't love you backYou remember the song by Teddy Pendergrass, "It's so good loving somebody when somebody loves you back."  So, what do you do when that other person doesn't love you back; does your love for them change?  But then is it possible that they are loving you but maybe not the way you EXPECT them to love you?  hmmmm...When we go into anything, we have to begin asking the right questions and then based on that answer, wait a minute, pay attention.  In some instances, answers are staring us right in the face but we don't want to see.  But then some people change in the midst so what do we do?  Let's break bread together on this one.  Join us!  Call ins are always welcome and the switchboard is always LIT UP!   Speak the Real, not some story that you think sounds good or being politically correct.  I'm looking forward to The Talk!     02:05:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,love,lost,infatuation,expectancyYou remember the song by Teddy Pendergrass, "It's so good loving somebody when somebody loves you back."  So, what do you do when that other person doesn't lovehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/21/living-in-a-society-of-perfection--but-what-about-the-kidsRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/21/living-in-a-society-of-perfection--but-what-about-the-kids/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/21/living-in-a-society-of-perfection--but-what-about-the-kidsWed, 21 Aug 2013 02:30:00 GMTLiving in a society of perfection - but what about the kids? Because we live in a society that gives us a view of perfection, anything that doesn't match that view we reject.  So, are our youth being taught the true meaning of love at the core?  That the true essence of love is the intangible connection of the soul?  We teach them what to say, how to say it, when to say it so they look good to others and others are impressed. But are we teaching them to have the right attitude, the activity of love?   What do our children see - do they see us judging, criticizing, talking about one another, unmerciful? Do we remember the truth about love? Society is not perfect because we're not perfect.  We have to let our kids know we've fallen, we've failed, so they don't have to feel less than or trying to come up to our standards.  Let's stop kidding ourselves.....WE ARE NOT PERFECT! How do we now connect with our youth? Do they really believe what we say or pay attention to what we do and simply say "all y'all fake?" Join us in this definite thought provoking conversation.  HOST:  LaTonya Washington Co-HOST:  Tshombe Tshanti DOCS ON HAND:  Dr. Monica                                   Ryeal Relationship Coach Sims CHAT ROOM MODERATOR:  Juacclyn Nikol     02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnoyouth,kids,perfection,judgment,criticismBecause we live in a society that gives us a view of perfection, anything that doesn't match that view we reject.  So, are our youth being taught the true meanhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/14/youve-got-to-know-when-to-let-goRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/14/youve-got-to-know-when-to-let-go/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/14/youve-got-to-know-when-to-let-goWed, 14 Aug 2013 02:30:00 GMTYou've got to know when to let go All relationships have the same basic components:  People, needs and expectations.  Though we try to keep the needs and expectations in their proper order, we get so caught up in those two that the essence of the relationship is lost in what we think we should be doing and what we expect should be done.  What we fail to realize before it is much too late is that when love is the foundation of the relationship, all needs and expectations are met.    You should never have to prove your love, nor should you ask others to prove theirs. Remember love asks for nothing but to be reciprocated.   When it is not there, first ask why?  Pay attention to the habits and if there is no sign of love, it is time to let go.   Why is it so hard for people to let go? How much can one's mental capacity hold before breaking down to states of depression? How do you know when love is loving you? Signs Join us for Real Talk the Movement with your Host, LaTonya Washington, Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti; Docs on Hands Dr. Monica and Ryeal Relationship Coach Sims and Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol.   It's time to TALK....for REAL! 02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnounconditional,love,signs,release,truthAll relationships have the same basic components:  People, needs and expectations.  Though we try to keep the needs and expectations in their proper order, wehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/07/agenda-driven-is-it-love-or-a-conquestRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/07/agenda-driven-is-it-love-or-a-conquest/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/08/07/agenda-driven-is-it-love-or-a-conquestWed, 07 Aug 2013 02:30:00 GMTAgenda Driven: "Is it love or conquest?" Is your quest to find your significant other driven by a need for love, companionship or to simply achieve a goal at the expense of other people that you encounter along the way...or as I call it..."collateral damage." Why do we discuss this?  Because at the end of the day we continue to find out that until you a) walk in the truth of what it is you really want; b) understand who you are; c) be willing to understand the other individual and accept them for who they are; d) be honest...let me repeat that...be honest; e) listen and you know there is more, you will continue to lose and may never find true authentic love.  Remember love is pure, it does not come with an agenda or assignment.   Looking at self:  Until the right one comes along, you(we) have to practice authencity, conflict management and right living regardless of what it looks like around us.   Let's Talk!  Even if it is my Birthday!       02:05:00Real Talk The Movementnoagenda,conquest,authentic,love,youIs your quest to find your significant other driven by a need for love, companionship or to simply achieve a goal at the expense of other people that you encouhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/31/the-forbidden-fruit-the-cause-and-effect-of-temptationRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/31/the-forbidden-fruit-the-cause-and-effect-of-temptation/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/31/the-forbidden-fruit-the-cause-and-effect-of-temptationWed, 31 Jul 2013 02:30:00 GMTThe Forbidden Fruit: The Cause and Effect of Temptation A many people want what they can't have, we've heard this statement often.   It describes the underlying human characteristic of an increased desire of things that are either forbidden or cannot be attained. I had the chance to watch the movie Temptation by Tyler Perry just the other day and though the gentleman knew that the very intelligent young lady was taken or married, it did not stop him from going after what he wanted.  She on the other hand being naive saw something that seemed better than what she had.  In the end, it was destructive, deceiving and brought death.  What do you do when you want a thing or someone that is off limits? What is one to do when their flesh takes over and all logic goes out the front door?  How do you stop yourself  from going down the wrong road or do you simply go with the flow and deal with the cause and effect later?  Let's talk on Real Talk the Movement Radio with special guests and YOU! Host:  LaTonya Washington.  CoHost Tshombe Tshanti.  Docs on Hand:  Dr. Monica and Ryeal Relationship Coach Sims.  02:06:00Real Talk The Movementnoforbidden,fruit,desire,flesh,infatuationA many people want what they can't have, we've heard this statement often.   It describes the underlying human characteristic of an increased desire of thingshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/24/fatherless-sons-and-daddyless-daughters-revisitedRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/24/fatherless-sons-and-daddyless-daughters-revisited/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/24/fatherless-sons-and-daddyless-daughters-revisitedWed, 24 Jul 2013 02:30:00 GMTFatherless Sons and Daddyless Daughters Revisited A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to watch the Life Class with Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah Winfrey.  It brought tears to my eyes as I watched those men who never experienced true fatherhood and women who were without a daddy growing up.   For this very reason, many of our  men do not know how to connect with women or their own children.  Many of our young women begin the search for love to fill a void that was created by not having a daddy in the household.   So now, what do we do with all these holes, the void, the abandonment and depression that so many feel.   How do our men begin to fill the void?  How do our women begin to know what love really is?  I mean, the first experience should be a father's love...right?   Tonight, we want to talk with you about it, allow you to share your experience and hopefully help those who are searching....searching for something that they don't even know is missing.         02:06:00Real Talk The Movementnofatherless,daddy,sons,daughters,loveA few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to watch the Life Class with Iyanla Vanzant and Oprah Winfrey.  It brought tears to my eyes as I watched those men who nhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/17/dating-on-purposeRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/17/dating-on-purpose/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/17/dating-on-purposeWed, 17 Jul 2013 02:30:00 GMTDating on Purpose Do you date with a purpose or do you date just to be out for a good time?  I believe the older people become, they want more in life, someone to grow old with, companionship, etc., so here comes the dating on purpose.  The question is, do you know what you want when dating? ...because it just can't be about companionship because all of a sudden you feel lonely.  There is another person involved here.  I don't believe in long lists but I do believe in knowing what you want.   I also believe that when dating, one needs to understand the psyche or mindset of the individual they are dating., i.e. is he controlling, is she thirsty; is he a preyer, I mean player; is she/he emotionally stable.  When you date on purpose, you need to let the other person know that you are not just out to "date," you're dating to mate.  Then let them make the decision to either go out on the date with you or not.   When I was a child, I operated as a child.  Now I'm older, it's time to operate in maturity. Let's be honest, no man is an island and we were made for one another.  Stop lying to yourself that you don't want anyone....that ain't natural.  Join the team for some Real Talk! SPONSORSHIP:  If you would like to be a sponsor of our Real Talk the Movement Radio Show, do contact pr@realtalktm.org.  Advertisement opportunities available. 02:08:00Real Talk The Movementnodating,meetup,purpose,plan,listDo you date with a purpose or do you date just to be out for a good time?  I believe the older people become, they want more in life, someone to grow old withhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/10/education-vs-incarceration-of-the-black-maleRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/10/education-vs-incarceration-of-the-black-male/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/10/education-vs-incarceration-of-the-black-maleWed, 10 Jul 2013 02:30:00 GMTEducation vs. Incarceration of the Black Male Just this past week, I saw a news segment on black men incarcerated who on Father's Day, were allowed to have their daughters come for a visit and dance.  As I watched, I saw these young children running into their father's arms when they got a glimpse them.  I then saw these fathers hold them tight.   When it was over, I saw the shedding of tears...the not wanting to let go.  As I listened to some of the reasoning why they were incarcerated, I thought to myself, "are you kidding me?"  Don't get me wrong, there were some who should have been incarcerated but has it become a system of numbers that instead of lowering the dollar amount to attend college, it serve the powers that be better that our men are  incarcerated?   Enslaved...AGAIN! What do we now do to stop the conspiracy?  Can we stop it?  If so, how do we stop it? Is education key to our survival?  But if educated, how do we use that education in whatever field to further us? Would you date or ever trust a person who has been incarcerated?  Real Talk! We'll be speaking with some of those who have been incarcerated who were educated before going in, educated themselves while in and even sought higher levels of education once out.  This is our Real Talk the Movement. Host:  LaTonya Washington; CoHost Tshombe Tshanti. Docs on Hand:  Dr. Monica and Ryeal Relationship Coach Sims Chat Room Moderator:  Juacclyn Nikol   02:01:00Real Talk The Movementnoeducation,inceration,relationship,men,fathersJust this past week, I saw a news segment on black men incarcerated who on Father's Day, were allowed to have their daughters come for a visit and dance.  As Ihttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/03/your-needs-vs-your-wantscan-one-coordinateRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/03/your-needs-vs-your-wantscan-one-coordinate/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/07/03/your-needs-vs-your-wantscan-one-coordinateWed, 03 Jul 2013 02:30:00 GMTYour needs vs. your wants...can one coordinate? We are challenged in understanding the difference between what we want out of a monogamous relationship and what we need from that relationship.  We're entitled to both but do we allow what we want outweigh what we need? How many times have we gotten caught up in the physical and not tap into the spirituality of the other person....taking the time to see them for who they really are and if the match is inevitable.  We sometimes confuse our wants with our needs. This subject matter is crucial in the development of lasting and loving relationships.  Our divorce rate is simply too high and I think it has elevated because we've become selfish and it has become all about us, not about WE.  We can change the world if we're willing to take the time to do so. Join us for some Real Talk on Relationship with special guests along with our team of ordinary people doing extraordinary things. 02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,needs,wants,coordinate,himWe are challenged in understanding the difference between what we want out of a monogamous relationship and what we need from that relationship.  We're entitlehttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/26/love-or-careerRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/26/love-or-career/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/26/love-or-careerWed, 26 Jun 2013 02:30:00 GMTLove or Career People are now being asked the question before going into a a long term relationship, "this time around, would you choose love or money?"  It seems now that when it comes between the two choices, it poses not to be an easy answer.  Women are going into careers that require much of their time and men are seemingly developing tunnel vision with all focus on career and status, feeling that a better career can give you a better life.  Though this may be true, but isn't true love hard to find?  Are we passing over people due to tunnel vision and once getting to that status or ultimate level in our careers, believe we will finally settle down, will stop or  want more?  Is this the reason why so many people are not in committed relationships?  Ask yourself these questions: 1.  What really matters the most to me? 2.   Will I regret not following my heart? 3.   If I pass this one up right now to go after my career and goals, will I ever find another person as loving and caring as this one? 4.   Will I find the person that understands my career means more to me than life itself? Choices....It's not easy finding Mr. Right or Ms. Right, so if you feel you've genuinely met the right one, what will you do?  That's Real Talk!  We're weighing out the pros and the cons. Join me, your Host LaTonya Washington, along with Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal Relationship Coach Simms, our chat room moderate, Juacclyn Nikol and our special guests as we get to the real deal of the matter. 02:05:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationship,love,career,money,choicesPeople are now being asked the question before going into a a long term relationship, "this time around, would you choose love or money?"  It seems now that whhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/19/communication-through-body-language-you-didnt-say-it-butRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/19/communication-through-body-language-you-didnt-say-it-but/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/19/communication-through-body-language-you-didnt-say-it-butWed, 19 Jun 2013 02:30:00 GMTCommunication through body language you didn't say it but.. Communication is the life blood of relationships, whether good or bad.  We communicate through body language daily and may not recognize what we're doing but the body does, it doesn't lie.  Have you ever gone out on a first date with someone and during the conversation, they looked deep into your eyes or may have looked away when speaking?... that speaks volumes and may be your clue as to whether you want to see this person again or not.  Body language also tells you if someone wants to get to know you more intellectually, they really like you or simply just want sex.  Some try to figure out "why am I never approached?"  Well, your body may be throwing off signs that you are unapproachable.  Body language is very relevant in leadership, at work, away from work, dating and relationships.  The sending and receiving of body language signals happens on a conscious and subconscious level.  Tonight, we'll be speaking with our very own Ryeal RelationshipCoach Sims on the study of body language and looking to master the art of it.  I've very curious as to the signs how about you?  Have your questions ready, along with pin and paper because you know how we do... Join me, LaTonya Washington, along with CoHost Tshombe Tshanti, Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal Simms, with Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol for some Real Talk Body Language..   02:07:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationship,body,language,communication,subconsciousCommunication is the life blood of relationships, whether good or bad.  We communicate through body language daily and may not recognize what we're doing but thttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/12/relationship-fears-hows-that-working-for-youRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/12/relationship-fears-hows-that-working-for-you/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/12/relationship-fears-hows-that-working-for-youWed, 12 Jun 2013 02:30:00 GMTRelationship Fears "how's that working for you?" We are living in a society where it seems more and more people are dating multiple people and get stuck right there; are we dating with a purpose of committment waiting for the right person to come along,  waiting until the finances are right or simply operating in fear with excuses of why we haven't found the right person yet?  I hear the stories just as much as I'm sure you have.  The truth be told, people suffer from the following:  the fear of the other person leaving; the fear of not being good enough; the fear of possible hidden sexuality; the fear of failure.  Aren't you ready to let go of that and operate in a love?  Understand that with any relationship, it becomes a faith walk....the question is is how much faith do you have to go through the journey and if the relationship is built on the right foundation, it is a good chance it will work!  Enough is enough I say!  No more second guessing, be honest and true.  Aren't you tired?  After all, a relationship is really an extension of you and the other person, make sure to walk finely.  Tonight, we'll discuss the common fears and how you can deal with those fears and walk in love for the other person and truth.  Can you imagine....if you are awesome, look at all the awesomeness of two!!  WOW!  What a WORLD! Join your host and founder, LaTonya Washington, along with CoHost Tshombe Tshanti, Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal "Relationship Coach" Sims and our chat room moderate, Juacclyn Nikol! 02:08:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,fears,committment,marriage,languageWe are living in a society where it seems more and more people are dating multiple people and get stuck right there; are we dating with a purpose of committmenhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/05/trayvon-martin-and-the-marginalization-of-black-male-imageRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/05/trayvon-martin-and-the-marginalization-of-black-male-image/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/06/05/trayvon-martin-and-the-marginalization-of-black-male-imageWed, 05 Jun 2013 02:30:00 GMTTrayvon Martin and the marginalization of black male image We've seen the news, heard the lyrics in songs and can only imagine what the parents of Trayvon Martin are going through at this very moment.  We have to become more conscious of how the music industry, news and silver screen help to reduce the value of the lives of our young black men. In my discussion with black men, I've come to the realization that they deal with so much so where do they go to talk, to become vulnerable and to be given the respect of manhood. Where do we go from here in the uplifting of our men, the education of a younger generation and standing up for what's right?  Q:  Does the dominant, very consistent negative portrayal of the black male contribute to the way our culture is perceived by others as well as we see ourselves? Q: Do these images that incite fear, hatred and anger serve to further endanger our youth? Q: Does the aspect of your child "fitting the description" give an armed individual (that is not a law enforcement officer) the authority to stalk, interrogate or detain your child? Let's talk! Join your Real Talk Family, Host LaTonya Washington, Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti; Docs on Hand Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal "Relationship Coach" Sims, our chat room moderate, Juacclyn Nikol along with our special guests and YOU as we delve into the deep.... 02:08:00Real Talk The Movementnoblack,male,justice,trayvon,respectWe've seen the news, heard the lyrics in songs and can only imagine what the parents of Trayvon Martin are going through at this very moment.  We have to becomhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/29/keeping-it-on-the-down-low-or-are-you-simply-low-downRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/29/keeping-it-on-the-down-low-or-are-you-simply-low-down/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/29/keeping-it-on-the-down-low-or-are-you-simply-low-downWed, 29 May 2013 02:30:00 GMTKeeping it on the down low or are you simply low down? Many times we've heard the term, "keep it on the down low", which means keep it a secret.  But the down low or DL has now referred to a new phrase, men who date women while secretly having sex with men.  Anything that's kept a secret from the other party or the public can bring damages and repercussions, especially as it pertains to relationships.  Would that be considered low down or the "can't help it syndrome?" We now have couples who one person thinks the relationship is monogamous but the other is having a secret relationship with another woman, another man, woman to woman, man to man.  I think that's simply LOW DOWN! Why can't people simply be honest or truthful?  Is it the fear of being discriminated against or experiencing rejection from others?  If one is bold enough to live that way, why not "come out the closet for the sake of others involved?"  Let them make the decision to stay or leave. Hiding one’s non-heterosexual identity, relationships, or desires, and the bias against these components of sexuality, are obviously not new.  On our last program, we talked about HIV and its effects especially us as a community. When does the drama end?  How can one tell if their partner is on the DL or simply low down?  Regardless, we have to stop the spread of disease and it starts with us, it starts with YOU!   Let's talk. Join me, LaTonya Washington, along with our CoHost Tshombe Tshanti, Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal "Relationship Coach" Simms, and our chat room moderator, Juacclyn Nikol.  On Yes....We're bringing it up because so many are trying to sweep it under... 02:03:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,heterosexual,homosexual,down,lowMany times we've heard the term, "keep it on the down low", which means keep it a secret.  But the down low or DL has now referred to a new phrase, men who dathttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/22/what-or-whos-lurking-at-your-house-without-you-knowingRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/22/what-or-whos-lurking-at-your-house-without-you-knowing/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/22/what-or-whos-lurking-at-your-house-without-you-knowingWed, 22 May 2013 02:30:00 GMTWhat or who's lurking at your house without you knowing? Tackling the effects of HIV can be somewhat scary and misinformative.  However it must be confronted and tackled.  HIV is a disease state in which the overwhelming number of people with the disease are black— Why is that?   HIV has emerged as the leading cause of death among black women ages 25 to 44 and one of the top three causes of death for black men ages 25 to 54.  We're all going to leave this earth one day, but isn't it better to know what one could be dealing with and be treated as opposed to hoping it will simply go away?  Just like any other illness such as diabetes, hypertension, cancer, obesity, if not treated, they can take you out of here sooner than you expected.  Unlike these other illnesses mentioned, HIV and AIDS can be passed on to someone else through you or they to you....let's do better!  Is unprotected sex worth it?  Isthe taking of intravenous drugs worth it?   It's time to survive and your survival and life I believe is worth so much more.  It doesn't just go away... There are steps individuals can take to help the fight against the virus and AIDS in our black community. Join us as we speak with the producer of a theatrical production happening in Chicago starting next month bringing awareness to the community about HIV and it's effects.  Host LaTonya Washington; CoHost Tshombe Tshanti; Chat Room Moderator Juacclyn Nikol; Docs on Hand Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal Relationship Coach Simms.   African Americans are 13% of the population, 50% of new HIV diagnoses, 56% of new teen AIDS caes and 67% of new AIDS cases among women. 02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,hiv,community,AIDS,virusTackling the effects of HIV can be somewhat scary and misinformative.  However it must be confronted and tackled.  HIV is a disease state in which the overwhelhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/15/no-finance-no-romanceRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/15/no-finance-no-romance/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/15/no-finance-no-romanceWed, 15 May 2013 02:30:00 GMTNo Finance No Romance... No romance without finance is a sentence that is so popular. Is love now measured by material things?  If you describe it as a good time leading to sexual pleasure then, prostitutes will be people who sell romance for finance. However, the sentence is mainly used to describe normal relationships where people now seem to get into relationships just for money. Women look for security, men want to be able to trust that woman.  So now, what is one to do when it comes to the topic of finances?  Ladies, would you date and think of going into a relationship with a man who is "low on cash."  Be honest?  Men, if you are financially stable, do you tend to look at every woman you date and wonder, is she here just for the money? Love has really become elusive and, it is really hard to recognize the real thing. It is therefore very necessary to look at yourself as an individual.  If you fall in love with a person who is not well up, will you dump them for money?    If your goal is just to be stable financially, you will go for what you are looking for...can you live without love?  Let's talk.. Join us for some Real Talk with your Host LaTonya Washington, Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Docs on Hand Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal (RelationshipCoach) Simms and our Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol.   Of course, you play a major role so LET'S GO! 02:09:00Real Talk The Movementnofinances,relationship,love,gold digger,trustNo romance without finance is a sentence that is so popular. Is love now measured by material things?  If you describe it as a good time leading to sexual pleahttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/08/am-i-in-love-or-just-comfortableRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/08/am-i-in-love-or-just-comfortable/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/08/am-i-in-love-or-just-comfortableWed, 08 May 2013 02:30:00 GMTAm I in Love or Just Comfortable? More and more, I hear of people in relationships and/or a marriage that they really are not happy in or just getting by. They say they stay because they've become familiar with the partner but the option of cheating has crossed their mind...that's their Real Talk.  And when the arguments hit, they hit hard!  The thought of breaking up brings sadness, however, the honeymoon has definitely left the building.  Both parties are good people, have great characteristics but truth be told, they get that with their best friends.  They miss one another when away, but there are days they are glad to be away from one another.  There is no doubt that they love one another, but is it enough, is it love, infatuation?  Is the comfortability a good thing or is it a mask?  We hear that love is a selfless act but how does one know when they are simply with someone out of familiarity or deeply in love?  Does it matter?  Let's talk about it! Join us with Special Guest Relationship Strategist, Denyce Gartrell, Author, Strategist, Coach, and let's make sure we're not simply doing a thing for the sake of "doing a thing."  Love isn't always comfortable...hmmmmm or should it be.. Your Host/Founder, LaTonya Washington; Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti; Chat Room Moderator Juacclyn Nikol, "Docs on Hand" Dr. Monica, Clinical Psychologist/Professor and Dr. Ryeal RelationshipCoach Simms 02:17:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,comfortable,love,infatuation,strategyMore and more, I hear of people in relationships and/or a marriage that they really are not happy in or just getting by. They say they stay because they've bechttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/01/wounds-in-the-sanctuary-taking-off-the-maskRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/01/wounds-in-the-sanctuary-taking-off-the-mask/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/05/01/wounds-in-the-sanctuary-taking-off-the-maskWed, 01 May 2013 02:30:00 GMTWounds in the Sanctuary "taking off the mask" Wounded people are real, and their injuries are real. We may never authoritatively establish the real source of the problem—whether a failure of the church, or a failure of the wounded individual. How much does it matter? When do we take off the mask and allow ourselves to be healed and/or not allow the wounded to keep wounding?  "The eye cannot say to the hand, 'I don't need you!'  We need one another to establish love and healing to a community, to a world and it starts with us.  Most pastors seem very familiar with the wounded, who don't necessarily leave the church—many stay and walk around in it, like unhappy ghosts.  How about the wounded pastor who leads....do we pray for him/her, do we walk away or do we add salt to the wounds. The wounds vary, from people who have been hurt in the church to those hurt outside coming in for healing.   What do we do as the church is to be a pillar of the community.  We have to begin addressing issues in which people struggle in because if we don't, there goes the neighborhood.  Let's talk.  Join us with special guest pastors, ministers, overseers such as Gary Jackson, Overseer, from the great state of Texas who has traveled across this nation, all the way to Africa where the need is great.  What will you do in the struggle?  02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnowounds,church,struggles,healing,helpWounded people are real, and their injuries are real. We may never authoritatively establish the real source of the problem—whether a failure of the church, orhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/24/casualties-of-war-after-the-affects-of-careless-loveRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/24/casualties-of-war-after-the-affects-of-careless-love/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/24/casualties-of-war-after-the-affects-of-careless-loveWed, 24 Apr 2013 02:30:00 GMTCasualties of War after the affects of careless love Here we have it  and we all know them, someone wounded by someone else, a casualty of love gone bad....hmmmm was it love?  How do you comfort those who have been hurt and help them get to the stage of healing?   Could it be you who needs help coping? Hurt people do hurt people and we have to get to the point of recognizing  a hurt person, even your very own hurt so you don't walk down a path of having to experience the affects of a careless love or giving careless love.   How do you forgive so you can move on in your journey and allow true love to find you because forgiveness is necessary otherwise you will attract that careless love or that hurt person-type again whether you believe it or not.  We experience pain, rejection, hurt many times in our loves, but you have to ask yourself, how am I going to take those bad experiences and get through this?  What would you say to someone who feels trapped by old wounds?  Let's talk! Join your Host LaTonya Washington, along with CoHost Tshombe Tshanti, Chat Room Moderator Juacclyn Nikol along with Dr. Monica as we delve into the deep....again! Bring your pens, your paper and let's go! 02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,casualty,love,war,experienceHere we have it  and we all know them, someone wounded by someone else, a casualty of love gone bad....hmmmm was it love?  How do you comfort those who have behttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/17/is-my-relationship-worth-a-second-chanceRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/17/is-my-relationship-worth-a-second-chance/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/17/is-my-relationship-worth-a-second-chanceWed, 17 Apr 2013 02:30:00 GMTIs My Relationship Worth a Second Chance? They say the dating "game" is rough; the older you become, the harder it is to trust, there's the baggage and the "other stuff."  Well folks, sorry to say but the older you become, the more baggage you just may carry.  So the question is, because you are familiar with an ex, would you consider giving him/her a second chance at a relationship?  We know, they say an ex is an ex for a reason, but could it be that the timing just could have been wrong?  Some folk simply DO NOT need to repeat, but others may need to take the leap of faith.  Before going into anything, whether old or new, you need to know if it is worth it.  You also need to ask yourself, what was the cause of the breakup.  Did they cheat, cheat and try to hide it? In that, would getting back with them only reinforce that behavior and what lesson was learned?  Can a person really change?  How about those emotions?  Were they emotional or emotionless?  Then there is the unfinished business.  I think many get stuck there, the need to know phase.  Make sure you're not holding on to the simple "thought of them."  Many times we don't go through the silent treatment to clarity.  What's the silent treatment?  It is no texting, no talking on the phone, no FaceBook, no Twitter over a period of time.   Ask yourself, do you miss them before you miss having someone around and don't like being by yourself?  Let's talk about it and make sure you're simply not lonely.  Whether you believe it or not, something lies deep within that makes one do what they do.  Real Talk the Movement will put in WORK AGAIN with Host and Founder, LaTonya Washington, Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Chat Room Moderate, Juacclyn Nikol, Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal "Relationship Coach" Sims and YOU!    02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,second,chance,worth,trustThey say the dating "game" is rough; the older you become, the harder it is to trust, there's the baggage and the "other stuff."  Well folks, sorry to say buthttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/10/taboo-and-cultural-identity-what-regulates-our-societyRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/10/taboo-and-cultural-identity-what-regulates-our-society/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/10/taboo-and-cultural-identity-what-regulates-our-societyWed, 10 Apr 2013 02:30:00 GMTTaboo and Cultural Identity, what regulates our society? Every culture has an identity.  The question is, do we know our own as it relates to self, our community, our society and relationships amongst ourselves?   To cross boundaries, to go beyond borders, is there a consequence in that? On our last discussion, we talked about interracial dating, colorblind or eyes wide open?  There were some who had no problem with it and others choose to stay within the boundaries of race and its preservation if you will.  Crossing Cultural Boundaries - is it taboo for most and used to regulate our society?  The moment boundaries are crossed, it is very visible and may be considered a violation of culture.  But if one is strong in knowing their identity, why does it matter to cross the color or culture line? Whether or not the stigma attached to interracial dating still exists, there is an obvious hurdle that mixed-race couples must overcome; a new culture.  But what is the old culture? If you don't know you history, how can one embrace the new?  How's that personal compatibility working for you?  Let's TALK!  This is Part 2 Join me, your host, LaTonya Washington, along with Co-Host, Tshombe Tshanti, Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol and "Docs on Hand", Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal Simms.   Special Guests:  Y-O-U!  It gets deep!!  It's okay, the water is warm...   02:00:00Real Talk The Movementnoculture,identity,relationship,society,communityEvery culture has an identity.  The question is, do we know our own as it relates to self, our community, our society and relationships amongst ourselves?   Tohttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/03/interracial-datingcolorblind-or-eyes-wide-openRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/03/interracial-datingcolorblind-or-eyes-wide-open/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/04/03/interracial-datingcolorblind-or-eyes-wide-openWed, 03 Apr 2013 02:30:00 GMTInterracial Dating....Colorblind or Eyes Wide OpenI had a business meeting with an Asian business owner. I began to think about cultures, society, community....is is that big of a difference the way men treat women or is it simply the way we're brought up and/or the baggage?I also thought about the question posed by an anonymous Caucasian male caller who noted how he wanted to know how to change the perspective of an African-American woman he had feelings for about him as a Caucasian man.  Would you think twice about crossing the color line?  Let's Talk About It..Join our team: Host LaTonya Washington, Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol with Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal Simms.     02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnointerracial,dating,relationship,black,whiteI had a business meeting with an Asian business owner. I began to think about cultures, society, community....is is that big of a difference the way men treat whttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/27/sexual-intimacy-and-its-emotional-rollercoaster-part-iiRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/27/sexual-intimacy-and-its-emotional-rollercoaster-part-ii/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/27/sexual-intimacy-and-its-emotional-rollercoaster-part-iiWed, 27 Mar 2013 02:30:00 GMTSexual Intimacy and Its Emotional Rollercoaster Part II We couldn't finish last week's session so definitely bringing up a part 2.  Some say the intimacy and the emotions cannot be separated, others say as you become older, it can be.  What say ye? It is no doubt that sex is an intense experience involving strong emotions that often heighten feelings. So what happens if what you thought was casual sex begins to feel like something more?  As sex is intimate and intense, naturally emotions surface, but they can also fade very quickly.  Usually any longer-term emotions come from having sex multiple times with the same person. Last week, we kept it at the college level to a degree but this time, it's about the grown folk!   Attracting sex is simple but does it complicate things?  Join our team: Host LaTonya Washington, Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol with Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal Simms. 02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnointimacy,relationship,love,emotions,sexWe couldn't finish last week's session so definitely bringing up a part 2.  Some say the intimacy and the emotions cannot be separated, others say as you becomhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/20/when-emotions-come-into-casual-sexRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/20/when-emotions-come-into-casual-sex/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/20/when-emotions-come-into-casual-sexWed, 20 Mar 2013 02:30:00 GMTSexual Intimacy and the Emotional Rollercoaster It is no doubt that sex is an intense experience involving strong emotions that often heighten feelings. So what happens if what you thought was casual sex begins to feel like something more?  As sex is intimate and intense, naturally emotions surface, but they can also fade very quickly.  Usually any longer-term emotions come from having sex multiple times with the same person. My questions then is geared towards college students.   With so many college students having sexual relationships on campus, are they passing the grade or simply becoming mediocre. Is the college campus now considered Fun Fun Town?   Attracting sex is simple but does it complicate things?  Join our team: Host LaTonya Washington, Co-Host Tshombe Tshanti, Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol with Docs on Hand, Dr. Monica and Dr. Ryeal Simms. Our Special Guests: Dr. Darnise Martin, Ph.D from Loyola Marymount, college students and Mr. Hank Morris, who I considered one of "the Original Philly cats and friend!   For more information, visit http://realtaltm.org. 02:02:00Real Talk The Movementnoemotions,sex,relationship,college,intimacyIt is no doubt that sex is an intense experience involving strong emotions that often heighten feelings. So what happens if what you thought was casual sex beghttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/13/casual-dating-vs-serious-relationshipRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/13/casual-dating-vs-serious-relationship/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/13/casual-dating-vs-serious-relationshipWed, 13 Mar 2013 02:30:00 GMTCasual Dating Vs. Serious Relationship When you go out on a "date" with the same person on a few occasions, does your mind begin to wonder, "is this leading somewhere?  Is it getting serious?  Should I ask?"   To some people a date is simply a date with no ultimate goal. To others, the goal is to find someone to spend the rest of their life with.   If you are a person who is looking for a lasting relationship, should you date for the sake of dating?  Or do you wait to find the person who also is looking for a lasting relationship?  There are the questions that minds ponder over.  Let's talk about it with our special guest, Dr. Kathleen Walls of Sisters in Harmony out of Philadelphia, PA.  Also on the show will be Author Kennedee Devoe of "Two Wrongs Don't Make Us Right, It Makes Us Even." I can't wait!  Join our Team with your Host, LaTonya Washington, Co-Host, Tshombe Tshanti, Chat Room Moderator, Juacclyn Nikol and "Docs on Hand" Dr. Monica Wilson and Dr. Ryeal Simms.  Visit Us at RealTalkTM.org for more details! 02:01:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,dating,questions,marriage,partnershipWhen you go out on a "date" with the same person on a few occasions, does your mind begin to wonder, "is this leading somewhere?  Is it getting serious?  Shoulhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/06/what-type-of-package-are-youRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/06/what-type-of-package-are-you/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/03/06/what-type-of-package-are-youWed, 06 Mar 2013 03:30:00 GMTWhat Type of Package Are You? We come in all sizes, shapes and colors and that alone  perception of you has already been developed from a visual standpoint.   But the minute you open your mouth, twist, twirl, walk with a swag, you are placed in a category.  How are you repping?  Join us in this thought provoking conversation with special guest at the top of the hour, Jason Ottley of Washington D.C. and CEO/Founder of Empowering Relationships, LLC and From His Lips to Her Ears.  Yes, we're talking about packages TODAY! Also at the top of the last hour, will be the One Line Diary.  You may ask What's That?  That is a question from a listener that they want answered from our specialists, Dr. Monica Wilson, Dr. Ryeal Simms and/or a guest Relationship Coach.  Feel free to send in your letter by e-mail to media@realtalktm.org or via FB at http://facebook.com/realtalkthemovement.   Host:  LaTonya Washington    Co-Host:  Tshombe Tshanti Chat Room Mod:  Juacclyn Nikol Docs on Hand:  Dr. Ryeal Simms - Dr. Monica Wilson Visit our website at Real Talk the Movement for details on upcoming meetups and events 02:01:00Real Talk The Movementnorelationships,package,representation,swagger,talkWe come in all sizes, shapes and colors and that alone  perception of you has already been developed from a visual standpoint.   But the minute you open your mhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/02/27/a-change-of-heart-letting-go-of-bad-habitsRelationshipshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/02/27/a-change-of-heart-letting-go-of-bad-habits/#commentshttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/realtalkthemovement/2013/02/27/a-change-of-heart-letting-go-of-bad-habitsWed, 27 Feb 2013 03:30:00 GMTA Change of Heart "Letting Go of Bad Habits" Did you ever wonder if the person in the picture is the same one you see when you look in the mirror?  Did you ever wonder that once in a relationship with someone you say you truly love, it will last a lifetime?  Those are questions that people ponder. We constantly evolve and in our evolution, change comes; we age, we mature, we become more wise.  We some times have a change of heart.  We're simply not the same people we were in our teens; the happy go-lucky kid who didn't have a care in the world.  You're all grown up....now what? Join us for this thought provoking conversation.  Not only thought provoking but we have therapists on hand to give you the solution to your situation... Host:  LaTonya Washington Co-Host:  Tshombe Tshanti Chat Room Mod:  Juacclyn Nikol Docs on Hand:  Dr. Ryeal Simms - Dr. Monica Wilson Have you been to our website?  Visit us at Real Talk the Movement for updates on meetups, events, etc   02:01:00Real Talk The Movementnochange of heart,bad habits,mirror,relationships,solutionDid you ever wonder if the person in the picture is the same one you see when you look in the mirror?  Did you ever wonder that once in a relationship with som