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Does Black Love Really Matter? Our enslaved ancestors fought for it

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We hear about sticking together, looking out for one another and embracing the concept of “Black love." Why is this so important to us?  Noted in Essence Magazine. 

When it comes to African-Americans, it is mentioned that love is a very complicated and often an evasive concept. Our enslaved ancestors had to fight for love and sneak it in when our captors were not looking. As Bell Hooks says in "Salvation: Black People and Love," post-slavery movements to secure true freedom often made our men feel like they needed to be “fighters, not lovers." They did not always see that it was possible to be tender and romantic with love in the home, at the same time that they were strong and battle-ready when dealing with the enemy outside of it. And while women contributed a great deal of nurturing, they also struggled with balancing the demands of work and love. We have often experienced forced separation from our partners and our families that has made love an even more traumatic concept.

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