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Assertiveness isn't about "building a good disguise," Dr. Randy Paterson explains. "It's about the courage to take the disguise off." It's "about being THERE."
Paterson, a clinical psychologist, is the author of the excellent book I've recommended in my column, "The Assertiveness Workbook: How To Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships," and that's exactly what he and I will be laying out on tonight's show.
Paterson takes a very rational, behavioral approach and gives extremely practical tips for how to change, and this show should help even already-assertive people notice and shore up areas where they could do better.
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Tonight we're discussing overcoming Narcissistic abuse with special guest Samantha Harris. Narcissism along with all the other Cluster B Personality Disorders can be emotionally draining and overwhelming which is why a lot of people need therapy after having a close relationship with or dating one of these mentally ill people. Narcissism has ruined tons of friendships, family relationships and romantic relationships and it's time to really start discussing the dramatic experience this behavior brings.
Our goal is to help shed light on Narcissism, Sociopathy and the effects they have on people. It can't be stressed enough how many lives have been damaged and left in pieces due to Narcissism. It is such a self-centered, finger pointing, deceitful, emotionally empty tactic used to drain people dry of all their usefulness and once they've been completely consumed of all their resources, they generally get tossed in the dumpster like a dirty diaper. This is our motivation for covering this topic and helping shed light for those who don't know while sharing helpful tips and information for those who may currently be in a relationship with a Narcissist.
Samantha Harris has dated a Narcissist before so she has real life experience with these people and is more than qualified to help us shed light on this manner. If you think you may be dating a Narcissist or any of the Cluster B's, sit back, pour a glass of your favorite beverage and tune in as we dive in on this controversial topic.
Below we've included the link to a very informative YouTube video Samantha posted about her experience with dating a narcissistic sociopath. This was the YouTube video that led to her invite on the show. Check it out.
Samantha's YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9DORoAjcr60
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It Just Got Real!
As a survivor of Narcissistic abuse myself I know how frustrating, helpless, and confusing this disorder can be to deal with. As an experienced counselor I know that issues dealing with this problem are always arising. I am fully aware that many of you cannot afford the out of pocket expense of paying for counseling, but do have important questions you would like answered. I can and want to help all of you work through these sensitive issues.
The second Friday of every month my internet radio show, A Fine Time for Healing, will be entirely devoted to taking to your calls and answering your questions about NPD. The advice is FREE!
The show airs at 11 a.m. EST and runs for 45 minutes. The number you will call to connect with the show and speak to me is 424-220-1801.
This time will not be a convenient one for everyone so there is another way for you to get your questions answered. Just email me ahead of time and I will read your questions on air and answer them. I assure you that your identity will be kept anonymous.
All shows will be recorded and archived after broadcasting. They can be listened to at your convenience by clicking on the link I will provide you when you email me. Please send your emails to email@example.com with “Radio Show Question” in the subject heading.
There’s PTSD, and then there’s complex-PTSD, a branch of posttraumatic stress disorder that stems from the infliction of interpersonal trauma. Whether that’s trauma at the hands of a friend or family member or at the deranged impulse of a stranger, how to to heal complex-PTSD poses unique challenges. Expert Dr. Christine Courtois joins Michele Rosenthal to answer these important questions about how to heal complex-PTSD:
what is complex-PTSD? what are signs of complex trauma? how do PTSD and C-PTSD differ? what is possible in C-PTSD recovery? Dr. Courtois also shares her thoughts about how childhood trauma impacts the psyche, how C-PTSD develops, the importance of trauma-informed care, creating a healing sense of self, and building a “window of tolerance.”
Michele Rosenthal is a an award-winning PTSD blogger, best-selling and award-nominated author and the founder of HealMyPTSD.com. Her shows combine scientific research, cutting-edge guests and personal stories that highlight the challenges and successes of deliberately deciding to change the direction of your life. For more ideas about how to create change you choose, visit HealMyPTSD.com.
It feels very natural to take responsitility for the behavior of others. You try to understand why he hits you, why she cheats, why mom or dad is disinterested is you. It's not that you don't have some responsibility, but it is important to seperate your "stuff" and how others treat you. Understanding this is critical for establishing a higher functioning self image and relationships.
Have you ever wondered why some people can behave unemphatic, arrogant, envious, entitled, and shameless in relation with their own family members? Have you noticed how these people overestimate their abilities and have excessive need for admiration and affirmation? These people are considered Narcissists.Living as the child of a Narcissist parent is torturous. These children are often micro-managed, do not feel respected or appreciated, are shamed and embarrassed, or told that whatever they do is not good enough. Tina Fuller is the daughter of a Narcissistic mother who has shared her story in her book: It's My Turn.In my interview with Tina we will talk about the issues facing her as she grew up in an environment that made her feel flawed. She shares how her earlier life experiences continued to affect her adult life and cause years of misery. Low self-esteem, having troubled relationships, feeling broken, sense of inadequacy, indecisiveness, and inability to listen to constructive criticism are among the many topics associated with such emotional abuse.
Narcissism – ABUSED: The Victim Through The Eyes Of The Abuser.
Spoken Word Artist, Author & Poet Audrey Michelle Welcomes Noted Narcissistic Expert Sam Vaknin, Directly From Macedonia. Vaknin Is The Author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited.
Narcissist Is A Title Synonymous With The Label Of Abuser.
Vaknin Is Not Only An Expert On The Subject Of Narcissism But Also The Only Expert That Is A Narcissist Himself. Vaknin Is Well Read On The Topic Of Abuse But More Importantly His Education Comes From His Own, Real-Life Experiences.
In This Interview Vaknin Will Allow Us To View Abuse Through The Eyes Of An Abuser. Vaknin’s Talent Is His Ability To Express Facts Using Tangible Explanations. His Teaching Approach Enables Victims To Relate To His Knowledge Because He Possesses An Uncanny Ability To Describe Facts That Present As Too Personal To Be General.
Topics Of The Discussion Will Include (But Will Not Be Limited To):
- Causes Of Narcissism
- The Life Of A Narcissist & The Psychology Behind It
- How Narcissists View The World And Those Around Them
- Intimate Relationships – The Type Of Individual An Abuser Preys On & A Understanding Of Why Victims Target Abusers
- The Signs Of Abuse – With Accurate, Real-Life, Explanations
- The Types Of Narcissists
- The Cycle And Behaviors Associated With Abusive Relationships
- Immediate & Long-Term Effects Of Abuse
- Leaving The Relationship
- What To Expect During & After The Separation
- Is Narcissism Treatable? Is Full Recovery For Victims Possible
The First Hour Will Be A 1-On-1 Interview Between Vaknin & Audrey Michelle. During The Second Hour Callers Are Invited To Call In With Questions. Callers Should Be Prepared To Be Shocked By Vaknin’s Ability To Answer Any Question With A Depth That Extends Past Any Assumed Possibility.
A MUST HEAR Radio Talk Show!
Codependence and the Power of Detachment – Dr. Karen Casey
There is a way to transition from the exhaustion of codependency to the empowering place of healthy detachment. Learn how and why with guest Dr. Karen Casey.
The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples
For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship.
Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times.
Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient.
Talia was sexually abused from the crib on. No one listened or intervened. Even her step-father sexually abused her. Cutting herself to find relief from the internal pain (cutting takes the pain from the inside to the outside and is not a form of suicide but actually an attempt to find release from emotional pain), she soon developed other self-destructive behaviors. Starting out as a regular "model" she soon found herself being eased into the world of hard-core . From hard-core in magazines such as "Hustler" she found she couldn't make ends meet with an erratic shoot paycheck. Addicts tend to seek out other addicts so she found herself buried in debt because of her husband's gambling addiction. He left but left her with the bills. Soon Tara began to see that it was really just one excuse after the other to justify returning to the sex industry. Once the denial was stripped away - then what? She sought help in Sex Workers Anonymous where today she's now working at a "regular" job and just got into graduate school. Tara's hope is to finish school and work with other troubled kids like herself.