LGBT Matters of The Heart Episode #1

Matters of The Heart Episode #1

LGBT Relationship Talk Show

“The Mind Ex-Detox” technique consists of 5 steps:

• First you have to identify your recurring thought patterns. Write them down. Take your time with this.

This could be, for example:

• Looking for reasons
• Imagining your Ex with a new partner
• Reliving the actual breakup
• Reliving old painful memories
• Playing through the "shoulda/woulda/coulda's"
   
• Make a list of 3 of your most pleasant thoughts and pictures ever. It is important that these thoughts and pictures give you pleasure, and have nothing to do with the unwanted thoughts.

This could be, for example:

• Imagining playing a favorite sport ("Skiing on fresh powder ... I'm flying")
• A hobby
• A peaceful or beautiful place
• A special achievement or award
   
• Put a rubber-band around your wrist and every time negative thought patterns rise up, you pull that rubber-band and shout “STOP” loudly, (or in your mind if there are people nearby).
   
• Immediately switch to one of the written down positive thoughts. Relive them vividly in your mind.  Merge with these positive thoughts and become them.  Do this in as much detail as possible, enjoy all the pleasant sights, sounds, tastes, and smells for about thirty seconds.
   
• Repeat the process as often a