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  Date / Time: 9/14/2009 10:21 PM UTC

  Child Support - the Great Deal Breaker
  

  Child support has become the pivotal issue that mothers use to determine whether a man deserves to see their children.  Hmmmmm, so if he pays, he deserves to see them.  If he does not pay, he does not deserve to see them.  An interesting conundrum.  Children don't need money, they need their parents. Sure, the money helps the mother meet the needs of the house; but money does not in any way say that a man is or is not a good father.
  
  I learned a long time ago that good men are providers and protectors.  What I've seen, however, is good men get ruined by an angry, vindictive woman who cannot handle the end of their relationship.  Because he left them, she has decided that he is not worthy of being a father. It's like they are thinking that if he doesn't want her, he doesn't want them. 
  
  I'm not saying it's not his responsibility to take care of his children.  Of course he should take care of his children.  What I am saying is that paying or not paying child support should not be the determinant for whether or not children should see their father.  Did you hear that?  Children should see their father.  The focus should be on the children.  Seeing or not seeing  their father changes a child.  It makes a good child stay good and a bad child get worse. 
  
  I don't negate the value of the check.  My sister was a single mother until my nephew was five. That check came in handy for them. I just believe that focusing on the check instead of the children is a bad plan.
  
  Peace,
  The Diva
  
  
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