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The most important statement for me was: Learn to love yourself. It was not until I became content enough to be with myself, and to be by myself, that love found me and wanted to be with me, also. Before this, love deluded me: I hit the proverbial “30-something” and where I had not really been looking before, I found myself almost in despair because I could not “keep a man”. It was so disheartening, because I thought I was doing all the right things, and surely I was ready, right???

At 36 I left it all alone. I did not even care anymore. I just wanted to enjoy the rest of my years loving me, and doing whatever made me happy – with, or without a man, it did not matter. At first it seemed selfish. But then, the more I read, and the more I educated myself with champion experts such as you, Darren, I understood that this could not be selfish. For, if I am truly happy, and if I am truly in love with myself, this is the ONLY true way for other's to be fed through me.

It took almost three years from that enlightenment until my soul mate “found me”. I wasn't looking for a mate; and from what he says, neither was he. It just happened that we were both in the same proverbial place. Fortunately, the universe gave us the right of passage and we were able to really "see" each other. He says he was on a sabbatical from women at the time. I had already been through my sabbatical from men. Truly I am grateful that God lined us up for each other -- we had both been living on opposite sides of the nation and was brought together by the tragedy of Katrina where we were both compelled to migrate and give of ourselves.

Before I met my husband I would only come in contact with gentlemen I could merely say I had learned from. All were toxic to my well being. Perhaps they can say the same in reference to me, for I was not the "right one" for them, either -- I still had a lot of growing to do, because I did not love me enough.

I thank God everyday for my past as it helped to move me into my future. Today, my husband and I are embarking on a lifetime mission to help as many people as we can to realize life to its fullest with, or without, a soul mate.

Mrs. Intimacy

www.backtointimacy.com