Ms.Realist  

We have officially hosted our first show. It was definitely a learning process and as time goes on we will improve the process. I would like to thank those who supported, please continue to join us it only gets better. I am looking forward to learning and growing from Blogtalk Radio listeners. Last night we introduced ourselves and spoke about a few dynamics within relationships. We as in my husband and I have been through many experiences in these past 13 years. Many lessons have been learned along the way and we are still growing and trying to make the pieces fit, if you will. I believe we have just now come to the point in our relationship where we are making it more fun to grow and learn rather then this heavy burden of feeling like the world is on our shoulders and no one hears our cry.

One of the most important lessons I have come to learn and would like to speak on at this time is love, and how love is relative. As little girls we begin seeking love, our ultimate goal is to be loved not necessarily to love. We get married under the premise of LOVE. But until we are married we have no clue that the one thing which keeps us together is not love but commitment. Thats right, the big " C " word. See, there are times in our relationship where we can't stand the sight of our spouse and we wonder why we even thought we could love him/her yet we stay in the relationship, once we realize that love is relative and its the commitment which counts and has kept us hanging on maybe then will we see the divorce rate begin to decline. Understanding is the key, one of our most famous quotes is " Without knowledge the people perish " if we do not understand our internal dynamics and how they affect our relationships, then understand our partners internal dynamics and how the combination of the two affect how we deal and process feelings, pain, anger etc then we will continue to live in the fantasy of love instead of the reality of commitment. Always remember LOVE is relative. When you are at  the end of your  relationship lifeline and you want to let go, do not question your feelings, feelings are fleeting they can't be trusted, but question your commitment. Is your word bond ? IS YOUR WORD BOND ?  Are you a man or woman of your word ?  All a man/woman has is their word, if they don't have that they do not have nothing.

I want to leave you with 3 points.

1. Love is relative its all about commitment.
2. Seek to understand THEN to be understood !
3. Is YOUR word bond ? If so, then you MUST keep it.

Peace & Blessings