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Mindful Awareness: Emotional sobriety

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The pillars of Mindful Awareness:

  • Non-judging -becoming the observer develops empathy and compassion for self and others
  • Patience - training the mind to refrain from auto-pilot reactiveness by  choosing to  respond with loving kindness
  • Beginners mind - training the mind to become present
  • Trust- ourselves so that we can trust the unfolding process
  • Non-striving- no action is an an action of self-mastery, choosing instead to observe 
  • Acceptance - bridges the conscious and unconscious states of being in the present
  • Letting go

As a rule, most defects of character involve some imbalance in the expression of and the experience of our most basic human needs. For example, sexuality and ambition are problematic when  our experiences of those drives are imbalanced or codependent.

If we are addicted to intensity that is expressed  either  acting out sexually  or are driven by  unbridled ambition to the point of workaholism, these expressions have become hardwired habits and are defects we can address. Our sixth step prayers need not be "Make me sexually anorexic " or "I will live an austere life as Nun or a Monk " 

Rather, we might pray, "I surrender. May I personify  healthy expression of my sexuality" or "Channel ambition into enhancing my private life as well as my work life."

We are behaving authentically when our beliefs, actions, goals, and results are aligned with who we are—our self. It is a congruence between our actions and our strengths, values and goals.

We become authentic when the path we choose through life is congruent with who we are. It is a congruence between who we are and what we do. An authentic choice is a decision congruent with doing your best.