You, Me and the Preacher

Let most black men tell it, the black church is the main reason they are not in a relationship. Preachers preach to their mostly female congregations selling the myth that God has a perfect man out there for them...So that's exactly what they look for: a perfect man. Is the preacher just selling a dream? How does God reveal the right man? Are there specific signs or is it just a feeling that you get? Guys, do you avoid "Church Girls" for this very reason? Let's talk about it.