Spark Plug + Jackie

6/1/2008 3:08 AM UTC

I guess I'll never understand why many women keep domestic violence so quiet. Thanks for giving them a voice.

Sis. De Baptiste

1/18/2008 7:41 PM UTC

Hello everyone! Msquietstorr, your question is a very good one and is being witness every day in women lives. I have experienced this in my marriage. I am a newlywed. It is difficult sometimes when you bare all and you think that he is baring all, but he is not and when he shuts down and do not allow you in. I found this very hard me. It hurts me greatly, than I found my self becoming angry at him and even two steps from giving up. I began to pray to our Father in heaven asking for patience and understanding. Now, I understand my husband and where he's been and the struggles he has had. The hurt comes from when you bare all, and you have submitted your self to him has you have to God. He shuts you out not trusting in you as a team to work things out. You start to feel that instead of a team that you are two individuals dealing with your situation as individuals instead as a team (one) with the help of God. I recently learned; when your man loves you, one can tell by his struggle with him self to do right by you. He does not want to shut you out, he does not know how to let you in. Sometimes in fear of letting you see his weaknesses, sometimes to admit his failure. If they could only learn to trust in you as they do God and no matter what it is, to allow you to bare it all in spirit and truth with him! When you become as one, just like you said; it's like Siamese twins, one feels what the other feels, no matter what ever it is. This is the way husband and wife should be. After praying and fasting over my husband and I. I received my answer and that is patience and never stop loving him. Stand fast to God words and what ever it is that you feel and he has made you feel give to God. Talk to the father as if he is sitting next to you, and when you look around God will reveal to him what he is doing to his wife and he will correct it. Now, this only applies to a God fearing man. One who is seeking answers from God as you are. God always reminds me, He is in the middle, no one else. So allow God to be the mediator and everything will come together. Patience, Love, Trust and God will make a relationship to be in His image. Ordained is the key word. What God has put together, no man can put us sunder. Thank you MsQuietStorr!

joan

12/21/2007 10:15 PM UTC

MsQuietStorr you are so right is painful when someone rip themselves away from you with no explanation and walk out of your life and you have to deal with the pain, and then they say they love you.

MsQuietStorm

12/21/2007 12:28 AM UTC

Love is a conscious decision that we make. We must choose to have healthy relationships - whether they are friendships, marriages, or something that falls in between. Regardless of what type of relationship (if any) the Lord allows and/or ordains, what can we do to equip ourselves to avoid the pitfalls that we so often find ourselves in while in these relationships?

MsQuietStorm

12/21/2007 12:25 AM UTC

When you truly love someone, you feel their pain whether they ever express it verbally or not. The two of you become one. Whether it's a best friend, someone you are involved in a relationship with, or a spouse, you feel what that other person feels. To have someone become so selfish and rip themselves away from you with no explanation is very painful. How do we as women deal with this and what can the men who are supposed to love us, care for us, nurture us, and protect us do to not hurt us in this way? How can we, as women, gain the trust of the men so they don't alienate themselves to the point of hurting the women they say they love?

MsQuietStorm

12/20/2007 11:24 PM UTC

Bro. Larry, will the show be open to callers on the next segment? It would be great to be able to dialogue with everyone regarding loving one another.

joan

12/20/2007 12:02 PM UTC

that is a good question, sound like someone i know, thank you larry can wait to hear more

MsQuietStorm

12/20/2007 6:41 AM UTC

12/19/07: Tonight's lesson was very interesting and insightful. TY for sharing. But it brings a question to mind. How does a woman who has a man who says he loves her deal with a man who literally shuns her and shuts her out when he goes through difficult times? In your lesson, you stated the woman is the helpmeet - he should be able to go to her and be naked and not ashamed. He should be able to go to her in difficult times and find peace and comfort. She's waiting to offer him all of that and more, but he literally shuts her out and shuns her because he's afraid to allow her to hear the heaviness of his heart.

MsQuietStorm

12/19/2007 9:24 PM UTC

The name change is great. I pray that through these segments, we can all be equipped- both men and women - to love as God loves. I pray that we can all gain a better understanding on how to love those who love us. Will people be able to call in and ask questions? I pray that there will be opportunities for open dialog, thereby helping everyone to grow in this area.