Katy Manna  

All the work that I do boils down to one thing: THE APPLICATION OF SELF ESTEEM. So you can imagine my surprise the other day as I was sitting at an event and I heard a woman say, "self-esteem is one big roller coaster ride". This woman is a coach that I have much respect for as well. She is an amazing life coach and an amazing woman in general. Still, I couldn't believe my ears.
Sometimes it's all about the language and I wondered, "are we saying the same thing with different words?"
This comment was very jarring for me because the basis of my work is about self-esteem being in tact and it takes self esteem, in my humble opinion, to stay consistent with it. So, what gives?
From all of the people I have worked with and in my own journey I have found that real self esteem boils down to one thing: is our spirit engaged?
Many people have the understanding that self esteem is a psychological issue that is about standing up for ones self or being able to speak up for ourselves and talk about our feelings. And sure, this is certainly a piece of it. It is also only the tip of the ice burg and if we stop there, then yes, it sure does feel like a roller coaster ride. It feels like a ride because if we are hanging our hat on the psychological piece then we are still staying in our human self. That part of us who can have a mood swing in point two seconds and this so called self esteem can go right out the window. This is a self-of-steam not self esteem. It can evaporate or seemingly vanish without warning.
I believe that self esteem is in Truth is how much we allow our spirit to animate our life. When we are so engaged with our spirit that our human self answers to our spirit first and foremost we find that self esteem is unwavering. That does not mean that our human selves will not chime in, but at the end of the day our spirit wins and we go to bed feeling safe and comfortable in our own skin.
Sadly, many people are divorced from their spirit in big ways and have confused their human self with their spirit. Our spirit knows that we are always safe therefore, using our spirit as our means of navigating through life and as our compass, we connected fully with the Divine and their is little room for worry or struggle.
The choices we make day to day are how all of this is revealed to us. Do we feel like our self is made of steam often? Or do our actions say, "yes, I recognize the fear of my human self and at the same time I acknowledge that my spirit is fully engaged with the Divine and will steer me in the right direction."  This way of living continues to take us back to the place of our human self living in the back seat and our spirit in the drivers seat with the Divine right there with us. And this ride is not on a roller coaster, but a paved road. That is true self esteem, putting your spirit in action.

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