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  Date / Time: 1/13/2009 10:00 PM UTC

  Looky heya, Lettin it go AIN'T Easy!
  

  Let me tell you one thing that I have learned as a lawyer.  No matter how much you say it, sometimes, people just CAN'T let it go.
  
  Now, I know I give a lot of 'Rah rah' speeches and I try to stay positive when I say what I gotta say.  But I gotta take a second to throw out some cold water.
  
  Let me tell you what I know.  You can use that ole tired ass cliche' "let it go" if you want to, but you need to recognize that for ALOT of people, "Lettin it go" is just NOT that easy!
  
  Yea, yea, yea, it's all in your mind, it takes strength and faith and courage, blah, blahh, blah, yada, yada, YAAAAAAAAAAAA DA!!   For alot of people, it's just a HARD thing to do.  What makes it even worse for people to understand is that you don't know how much a person is tied to "IT"!! 
  
  Think about it!  How many of us can't let go of how our EX treated us?  You know what I mean.  All the times you forgave them.  All the times you caught them tricking!! All the times you gave your money, your space and your time to get them right and now that they've moved on, you're STILL bitter because of the time you wasted.
  
  How about that job?  You know the one.  The one you left on REALLY bad terms and you hate that you went out like that at your job.  You think you got punked or you're a sucker!!!  That's not WHO you are but that's how you feel!
  
  How about that family member?  You know the one.  The one who ALWAYS calls on you for emergencies and money and then they STANK your behind ONE good time and you don't talk to them until somedody DIES!!! 
  
  How about that one supposed good contact?  You know the one.  The one who says they are your friend but they always ride your coat tail but they NEVER let you know when something good is happening to them.  And you get pissed because they get a break and they don't share it with you but you share all your breaks with them???
  
  I'm sure a few of you can add a couple of more righteous things on this list and few healthy well placed "go to hell" moments that still BURN you to this day.  Don't get me wrong, it took me a MINUTE to get over a BAD relationship I had over 10 years ago (A good wife will do that for you).
  
  Listen heya, it's so easy to sit off on the sidelines and make funky fly comments about how somone should LET SOMETHING GO but the fact is, things that we HOLD onto that we can't let go are usually things that BURN us to the core.  Think about it like this.  How many have you have a burn mark that is still there??  You know? Or a cut mark?  I Have a mark on my hand from an auto accident when I was seven years old?  It's amazing how we expect physical scars from physical damages to last a long time but we get bent out of shape when we don't understand that emotional / psychological scars can last just as long if not longer.
  
  I'm a firm believer of the "let it go" philosophy but I'm, also, a realist.  These days, I've pretty much modified my stance and now, I'm "Let it go as much as you can so we can get something done".  Sometimes, the best you can do is to at least get the person to let it go enough for them to go A LITTLE bit further. 
  
  But RECOGNIZE, 'Lettin IT go' AIN'T easy!
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