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On Death and Dying…and Love

What was it that I just read?

Why did it affect me so?

I was reading of death and dying

And love

The kind of love that comes

From sharing that “final” experience

Well, up to that experience, anyway

No one can experience death with you

That is an experience we all must face alone

Perhaps that is what many find so frightening

But as it tells in the “Tibetan Book of the Dead”

One can be prepared for it

And enter into it with grace, dignity,

And awareness

To me, it spoke of a love so full

So complete

So thick

So…..yeah

  The question has been put to me recently of how to be a sadhu (spiritual seeker) and still be “in the world”. To me, the experience of death and dying is a classic example. The quote, “To be in the world, but not of it” speaks louder than ever. While the dying process (however it might occur for each of us) may be frightening, it can be useful for enlightenment. If one is fortunate enough to know when it will come about, we can use the time previous to it as a time for awakening. Given proper direction and someone that is open, loving, and candid we can explore our next destination with honesty and less, if any, trepidation.

  I watched my mother slowly pass from the cancer that was ravaging her body. I was witness to the fear she felt as she went through her stages of transition of leaving her body. What I did not see was someone that was willing or knowledgeable to be with her through this and be able to explain what was happening, why it was happening, and what she could expect next. As I was as inexperienced as the next guy about this, I did not know. But I do now and I know my mother hears me when I tell her I am sorry that I didn’t know. But I also know that because of the love that she flowed into when she dropped her body, not only because I am (proudly) her baby, but because it is all perfect timing, I know she forgives me wholly, totally, and completely. And I could not ask for nor expect more.

  And that, to me, is love.

~Rev. Nagi

Let’s start from the beginning so those of you who don’t know can catch up.  I’m jewelz, I own a company called Imagine Your Soul that provides a variety of services to its clientele as you can see from the website, http://www.imagineyoursoul.com/services.html. I am the host of The Soulstice Hour along with my exquisite spiritual partner Nagi.   I am an intuitionist and one of the services I provide is intuitive counseling, I feel it would be kind of a waste if I was given such a wonderful gift and didn’t use it.  So I provide this intuitive counseling and people come and ask questions and I try and help them find the answers.  The questions I am asked about more times than not are about love and relationships.  Will I find Mr or Ms  Right or is the one I just met Mr or Ms Right Now?  It is at this point in the counseling that I have to ask a question of my own.  Have you spent any time on your own?  Completely alone? Not looking or thinking about how wonderful things would be with someone in your life.  ALONE!!!!  Looking and thinking about how wonderful things are while you are spending time in your own company.  Learning to love the person you are so that when the “right” one comes along you actually find it an added bonus and not the life sustaining presence you think you need to survive and be accepted in society. 

As far back as anyone can remember the rules of “modern day” acceptance in the world have been, graduate from high school, go to college, get married, buy a house, have kids, grow old and at some point transition out of your physical self and astral project into dimensions unknown.  These are different times we live in now.  We need to begin to shift the old way of thinking and go outside the proverbial box and start to see things from a different perspective.  It’s okay to be alone, as a matter of fact it’s fantastic.  No need to answer to anyone, do what you want, when you want to do it.    It provides much needed quiet time for reflection, growth, and spiritual development. Time in which to learn to love yourself, or the criteria necessary in order to have someone enter your life that will love you  for you flaws and all.  Knowing what it is you want in life and going after it will help to remind you to not settle for less than what you deserve. 

So before you ask the next psychic when will I meet Mr or Ms Right, take this time and think of it as the perfect opportunity to go on the ultimate “blind date” with Mr or Ms Always Been Here, yourself. Don't forget to listen to The Soulstice Hour Sunday January 10th 2010 at 3pm here on BTR.  Peace J