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Dr. Howard Rankin -The Great Valentine’s Day Relationship

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Ten Things You Can Do to Make Your Relationship Better All Year Long Valentine’s Day is nice, sure, but one evening of love poems and champagne can’t make up for a year of fighting, tension, and resentment. Nationally recognized psychologist Dr. Howard Rankin explains what you can do, starting February 14 and continuing all year long, to change your relationship for the better.Whatever your opinion on enforced handholding and chocolate giving, it’s nice that there’s a day to focus on the fun, romantic side of your relationship. But what about the less, well, sexy parts of being a couple—the ones that are making so many people miserable the other 364 days of the year? “The truth is, romance is a very small part of what makes a marriage or long-term relationship successful,” explains Rankin, creator of the Science of You website (www.scienceofyou.com) and founder of the American Brain Association. “It’s getting the other 98 percent right that makes a couple last in the long haul. So,really, it’s too bad we don’t have any days devoted to issues like communication, fighting fairly, and forgiving.” Relationship change requires behavior change, and this is far from easy. However, Dr. Rankin has a track record of helping people do it successfully. (He has been described as one of the world’s leading lifestyle change experts.) And with his new video and workbook set, Communication Secrets of a Great Relationship, coming out in May 2011, he has spent a lot more of his time refining his thoughts and insights on the subject. In successful relationships both partners accept their different ways of doing things. Accepting differences equals a peaceful home. Communication is the root most problems. Gender differences, contrasting thinking styles, and different personalities can all make communication inside a relationship especially difficult. If you can learn to communicate effectively with your partner, you are well on your way to a successful and happy partnership.