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Every Tuesday with, Martin Jongue

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                                How can a Man lead his Family?

Knowing yourself is the first step-and the foundation of the journey into flow. Before you can advance very far, you must be aware of who you are, where you are, and where you want to go. Although this sounds easy, all too often we live unconsciously, unaware of the beliefs that drives us, the opportunities that surrounds us and the effect of our behavior on others. If we’re unaware, we can be bogged down, derailed by powerful emotions and unknown drivers. We lumber through life when we could be doing figure eights on Rollerblades. We struggle when we could be in the case of flow.

Our fathers are our first definition and demonstration of masculinity. Unfortunately, our fathers’ model has caused many of us to equate masculinity with absence, irresponsibility, sullen, silence, or violence. They are all deeply planted in the soil of our early memories, experiences, and definitions.

Many men lose their ability to communicate during childhood.  As youngsters we are told what is “appropriate” to do or is merely convenient.  Now as adults, we feel the rush of unchecked adult passions, frustration, and anger coursing through us on the inside, and we can’t speak. We can’t communicate. We’re ready to explode, but we don’t dare cry! We’re hurting too bad to laugh. The only emotion we are allowed to express is anger. The raging child who takes a hammer and pounds his toy into oblivion soon becomes the grown man who runs his first through the wall and batters his wife into an early grave. Many times this kind of rage is fueled by an inability to turn thoughts into words.