The Show

Hevenlyone

11/18/2009 4:48 AM UTC

I enjoyed listening to The Show on 11/9 and 11/17 regarding infidelity. Many of the points that were brought up I agreed with as it applied to leaders and infidelity. But I find when this subject is discussed in open forums; infidelity in general, is dealt with one- sided.

Hevenlyone

11/18/2009 4:48 AM UTC

Meaning, the person is cheating for short-term sexual or emotional gratification or that person has issues with monogamy and therefore that person needs to A) Avoid temptation, B) say "No", C) pray or D) all of the above. We need to dig deeper and not be afraid to say infidelity is a symptom and not the problem. Nor is it Satan trying to trip us up.

Hevenlyone

11/18/2009 4:48 AM UTC

“Some” marriages and relationships fall prey to infidelity because the marriage/relationship is simply in trouble. A, B and C are good talking points but do not provide real solutions for real people with real conflicting issues. If A, B and C actually worked no man or woman of God would have infidelities issues and the list is to endless to even go there. So we need to do away with canned Christian responses when it comes infidelity

Hevenlyone

11/18/2009 4:47 AM UTC

In order to get our arms around infidelity, first stop blaming the "enemy” and giving the enemy credit for being that powerful over you nor should we blame the spouse, the other man or woman but instead fix or address what is lacking within yourself or within your relationship that is leading you down this path

Hevenlyone

11/18/2009 4:47 AM UTC

But if you remain complacent in your relationship in its current unhealthy-state and if the root issue(s) never gets resolved, infidelity will certainly happen again.