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Conquering Fear and Embracing Change

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Getting It Right With Dr Boles

Getting It Right With Dr Boles


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People don’t take action because fear is holding them back. No one is being chased by animals trying to kill him, no, the fear is born from negative thoughts. Most fear is just bad management of our mental faculties. The fearful mind is asks ”what if…?”  It follows that phrase with a negative statement. Neuroscience has shown that we have powerful capabilities that contemplative processes that, overcome fear. Once you understand things more they aren’t so terrifying. The more you understand something the more confidence you have in that area.

Fear consists of three types of pain.  Understanding this concept you can re-orient your mindset and no longer be frustrated or stopped by fear. The first thing that is feared is “loss pain”. When I change my life or do this new thing I’ll experience loss and I might lose something that I care for or adore. If I make that big change in my life I might lose my job. I might lose my relationship with my spouse, lose my connection with my kids or lose a passion or a benefit. Thinking about all the things you’re going to lose stops you from making the decision to change. To re-orient your life you do not focus on the things you are going to lose, but on the things you are going to gain.

The second thing we fear so much is process pain The process of change itself is hard, but mastering life is learning to see change as a game, learning to see challenges as something that can be joyously entered..

The third thing most people fear is outcome pain. What if after going through difficult work, the outcome is no better than what things were at the beginning. Don’t focus on negative outcomes; think, dreaming, visualize on the wonderfulness of the new circumstance. Give your attention to  satisfying outcomes.