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Getting It Right With Dr Boles

Getting It Right With Dr Boles


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Friendship is that ingredient which adds the magic to the relationship. If two people can be lovers and friends at the same time, they have a complete relationship. Friendship allows the two to laugh together at their silliness, yell at each other for the mistakes and cry with each other for the losses.

10 steps for a healthy relationship:

1. Every morning eliminate blame, criticism, and invalidation from your side of the relationship; acknowledge error   apologize to your partner.

2. Express appreciation for positive things your partner says or does--no matter how small!

3. Do one loving/caring behavior for your partner each day.

4.  If you want something different, you need to do something different with respect to self.

5. Develop compassion for your partner; ask yourself, What can I do differently at this point to ensure that I don't do damage to  my partner?"

6. Tell your partner what you need to feel valued.

7. Learn good commuication skills that make talking safe and effective for both of you.

8. Know that both romantic love and the power struggle should never be "pitted against one another".

9. Talk about your relationship and repair damage.

10. Getting rid of the partner does not get rid of the 'problem'! You can create the relationship you want.

Understanding and acceptance go hand in hand. In a relationship.  If you cannot accept the person for what they truly are, then the relationship will be a farce. A balanced relationship is made by two people who understand each other and accept each other with the flaws.

It is empathy that helps a couple do small things that make the other person happy.