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Equipping For Change Ministries BlogTalk:Nuggets For Deliverance  

Greetings in the Name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Thank you so much for visiting my blog talk page. My name is Selena Mosley and I am the Host of Equipping For change Ministries, Nuggets For Deliverance.As one who once struggled with homosexual desire and lived for several years as a lesbian attending several glbt churches, I now desire to help others who are looking for a way out of homosexuality to know that there is an alternative and that freedom is possible. Equipping For Change Ministries is created with the mission to help God's people connect to resources needed for change; Equipping God's people to walk in healing and wholeness. Although Equipping For Change Ministries is a ministry geared to assisting Christians to overcome their struggle with same sex attraction, the principles for deliverance can be used in walking in victory over any habitual sin, so please know that you are welcome to listen in no matter if you struggle with homosexuality or not. Popular culture says, that if you have homosexual desires that you should accept that you are gay, lesbian or bisexual. They say that there is no possibility of change. If one does claim change or that they have been set free from homosexuality, it is said that they are in denial of their true self for it is impossible to change your "sexual orientation" and therefore it is impossible to be free from homosexuality. Jesus said, "with men it is impossible but not with God; for with God ALL things are possible." Mark 10:27 So please join me each week as we dig nuggets from God's Word to help us experience what man calls impossible. For it is truly possible to have and experience freedom from homosexuality.

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    The Four Stages of Healing

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    Written by Doug Houck   

    Dr. Elizabeth Moberly, in her book, Homosexuality: A New Christian Ethic, defines the homosexual condition as "a deficit in the child's ability to relate to the parent of the same sex in general [coupled with] a corresponding drive to make good the deficit - through the medium of same-sex or 'homosexual' relationships." The homosexual person seeks to fill a legitimate love need through erotic means. 

    The same-sex love need is a normal, legitimate need of every person. Some people fill it satisfactorily enough and live very normal lives. Others who attempt to ignore the samesex love need experience various symptoms of broken or desperate heterosexual interactions. For those experiencing homosexual urges, the need can neither be ignored nor seemingly can it be fulfilled. 

    We believe that the same-sex love need is part of God's created order. Freedom from homosexuality is not the elimination of this need. Finding freedom involves a process of filling the love need and maintaining its healthy state. This process involves four distinct stages: a) change in behavior, b) increased self-esteem, c) deepening same-sex relationships and d) the discovery of the heterosexual or complementary-sex relationship. 

    FIRST STAGE: The Call to Obedience 

    The very first steps in making a change in any aspect of life is to change behavior. The behavioral changes will in themselves produce a new perception of who one is. Throughout the Scriptures we constantly find commands to obey -- regardless of our feelings at that time. 

    Genesis 4:6-7 gives us the example of Cain. The Lord says to Cain, 'Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it." This conversation took place before Cain killed Abel. 

    For the person struggling with homosexuality this means quickly and completely cutting off all associations with the homosexual lifestyle which includes those people and places like gay friends, gay bars, pro-gay groups like the Metropolitan Community Church, Evangelicals Concerned and liberal mainline churches who support the homosexually active person. 

    In this first stage of the transformation process God simply calls us to obey. In Ezekiel 33 the prophet declares God's Word, 'Turn! Turn from your evil ways! ... And if I say to the wicked man, 'You will surely die' but he then turns away from his sin and does what is just and right -- if he ... follows the decrees that give life, and does no evil, he will. surely live, he will not die' (vs.11,14,15) When we obey, we receive God's blessing. Obeying and restraining from homosexual activities and social settings, is the necessary first step. Even though making these first steps can be traumatic, God's Word still calls us to obey. 

    SECOND STAGE: Self-Esteem Founded in Grace 

    The second stage of the transformation process involves the establishment of self esteem. Many clients are weighed down with the guilt of their sinful past. Often the real guilt is magnified by false guilt or false beliefs about themselves. Yes, you are guilty of sin, but no, you are not unforgivable. Yes, you have behaved in an unlovely manner, but you are still worthy of love -both God's love and the love of those in your Christian community. 

    One of the significant transition points in my life was the afternoon when Ren, a pastor who knew I had fallen sexually, expressed his love for me anyway: "Doug, what you've done really hurts me!" Maybe the message wasn't conveyed in those words, but it certainly was conveyed through our relationship. He could accept me for who I was -- sin and all. In that situation, my spirits didn't soar, but more importantly, they stopped sinking deeper. 

    This second stage established the reality of God's grace, love and forgiveness. It is because of God's love expressed through His grace and forgiveness that we come to see that we who struggle with homosexuality have intrinsic worth. For those raised in a traditional Christian home and church, this is a time of seeing theology transformed into living, personal reality. 

    Another aspect of this stage is beginning to accept yourself for who you are, including things about your body that are basically unchangeable, like shape of face, hair color and bust size. There are some things that are changeable, like weight, but it's still very important to start with the premise that you are lovable as you are. 

    If you have been sexually abused, it means realizing that you are not "damaged goods" because of the event. As a guide to inner healing we encourage praying Psalm 139:14 and the study of Scriptures which teach us who we are in Christ. 

    Finally we must also deal with the age-old question, 'Who am I?" We have already begun to answer that by examining who we are in Jesus Christ. Yet there is a need to continue onward. Who am I as a member of society? Having a realistic picture of myself is of utmost importance. 

    While in college I often let my failures define who I was, while at the same time I didn't allow my successes to influence me. A "D" on an ancient philosophy course paper told me I could never write anything. Yet when my psychology professors explained "I like your writing style!" and gave me an "A" on the course paper, I refused to believe that I could really write anything worthwhile. 

    This stage deals with reinforcing the true positives in your life. A significant number of our clients are either unemployed or underemployed while seeking counsel. This state often locks them into an 'I'm a failure" mentality. Dealing with self-esteem as it is defined by our occupations, social activities and cultural expectations is an important element in the healing process. Learning to see yourself as God sees you and coming to accept the compliments of those in your social circles will help free you from various self-defeating and degrading behaviors and thoughts. 

    THIRD STAGE: Establishing Same-Sex Friendships 

    Through the third stage of the transformation process, the person seeking freedom from homosexuality is required to establish deep interpersonal relationships with members of his or her own gender. This stage is analogous to ministering to the needs of starving people. The first major concern is to provide the person with the vital nourishment that will maintain his life. It is needful to restore the person to full health, slowly increasing the supply of nourishment. After full health has been achieved, it is important to maintain a consistent supply of nourishment through a balanced diet. Too much nourishment can cause obesity; too little, starvation. 

    For the person seeking freedom from homosexuality, the nourishment comes through the formation of same-sex relationships. The homosexual condition, as described by Moberly, is this lack or deficit in the same-sex relationship. It is not a failure with the opposite-sex relationship. 

    Nourishment comes in two specific ways. First it's needful to treat the hurts of the past. That is, the person must be called to forgive those members of his gender who have intentionally or unintentionally wounded him. Bitterness and anger must be resolved. Secondly, the individual must begin to experience the unconditional acceptance and love from the members of his own gender. This can be done through the establishment of same-sex friendships. 

    After the initial healing has occurred and the person achieves full health, it is important that he continues to feed his same-sex love needs. As they are fulfilled, he will have no need to seek fulfillment through the homoerotic relationship. 

    FOURTH STAGE: Accepting Heterosexuality 

    The fourth stage of the transformation process is the growing and drawing towards, the acceptance of, and the incorporation with the opposite or complementary sex. This can only occur when the same-sex love need has been filled and continues to be filled. Only when one has accepted and embrace himself as a member of his own gender can attraction begin to develop toward that which is different from the self. 

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    Copyright (c) 1986 Metanoia Ministries. All rights reserved. Reprinted by permission.

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