I am friendly person and that I treat everyone with respect and kindness. But what do you do when someone is just plain ol’ difficult? Here are the scenarios. I had this one friend who I would always go over and beyond for. I was constantly giving and never getting anything in returned. The friendship became very draining for me. Needless to say I decided that I was going to help this associate of mines on a really important marketing project. Being the kind (sometime people pleaser); I volunteered myself to support them in their endeavors. I would call them asking for ideas or what direction they wanted go. Either they were always too busy to respond or never returned my phone calls, texted, emailed, IMs, ride by’s notes on the door…. You get the point I tried to contact them.
Well I was given the opportunity to become BooBoo the Fool again. (I really need to work on that People Pleaser Gene). The same person asked to borrow a very expensive item of mines. I loaned it to them with now problem. One month goes by I still did not have my item back despite my effort to contact this person for my belonging. So three months go by still no item. Whenever I spoke with them about the item they would brush it off or change the subject. I sent a lovely text saying that I hope all was well and I would like to stop by and pick up my item. I get a text back saying that they were going to relax today and had no plans to look for my item check back at a later time when it was a more convenient for them. Wow one would think that after I asked for it the last three months ; an item that belonged to me that you could get your lazy @$$ up to returned something that you borrowed. (Enough of that opening up old wounds LOL) I stopped talking to the person and let it go. I purchased a new item and released the friendship. Six months later this same person who obviously did not appreciated the friendship sent me text stating that they did not understand why I had stop talking to them and had no desire to talk to me anymore. They felt like I was not the person they thought I was. (LOL a pushover)
My question to you is there another way I could have dealt with this person? I can think of some but I would have to come up with some bail money and good lawyer that could have gotten me off for murder with all of the evidence point at me. How would you deal with a difficult person and not catch a case?