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Raising Our Daugthers, Loving Our Sons

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Raising Our Daugthers, Loving Our Sons 

Every person has his or her own unique set of DNA defining character traits. We are individuals regardless of who our parents are. Therefore, to expect our children to be the same as any other member of our family is a mistake and virtually always is a setup for failure. What works for one child may not work for another and when each family member's personalities are respected, the family structure can respect each individual, working toward solutions to maintain a healthy family unit.    For example, if your daughter makes A's and B's in school and your son does not, when talking to your son about improving his grades, do not bring up the daughter's good grades. Maybe your son needs a different motivation than your daughter does and the key is to find out what will motivate him. Work with each child based on his or her own individual needs. It is important to understand that comparing the behavior of one child to another, will almost certainly put that child into a defensive mode. Doing so creates dissension among siblings. All children need nurturing, understanding, counseling, attention, love, communication, discipline and the opportunity to be heard, and the mother must tailor her parenting style to the personality of each child.