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  Original Air Date: 11/14/2009 8:00 PM UTC

  A Dream Deferred: Traumatized US Troops Become Cadavers or Emotional Commodities

  The XB3s: America's Expendable Assets: Soldiers returning to our cities and town. What is the emotional impact on the returning soldiers to their children, wives, lovers and society at large. Military (PTSD) is a reality and exists. Special guest "DrLIZ", 'It iz, what it iz' retorts "It just like Morpeus says in the Matrix: “I know *exactly* what you mean. Let me tell you why you're here. You're here because you know something. What you know you can't explain, but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life, that there's something wrong with the world. You don't know what it is, but its there, like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad. It is this feeling that has brought you to me. Do you know what I'm talking about?” After eight years in the military, three years in civil service, 38 years old, Bachelors in Business Administration posits, Spouses need more information on PTSD; family emotional health treatment needed before, during, and after deployments. Moreover, children need treatment for coping with injured deceased parent(s) as a result of war.
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• Original Air Date: 10/24/2009 7:00 PM UTC

  Long -Term PTSD Problems: The story behind the story - Secrets, Emotional Abuse, Incest & Rape

  Long-Term PTSD Problems include a distorted view of the perpetrator and a preoccupation with one's relationship with the perpetrator. That is a belief that the perpetrator continues to have all of the power. "Stockholm Syndrome" that means to idealize the perpetrator, loving him or her and feeling grateful to have that person in their lives. Symptoms also include a sense of a supernatural or "fated" relationship with the perpetrator. Lastly, is acceptance of the perpetrator's ideas and beliefs. Tune into "Emotions R Us" as DrBev discusses long-term PTSD problems which are not limited to distorted views of the perpetrator. Education and knowledge will be given on the child/adult's sense of self, sense of meaning, relationships, physical well-being, managing your feelings, and behaviors, memory and perception, and other emotional disorders.
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  • Tags:
  • Incest
  • Secrets
  • Rape
  • Abuse
  • PTSD
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• Date / Time: 10/18/2009 9:05 PM UTC

  Long -Term PTSD Problems: The story behind the story - Secrets, Emotional Abuse Incest, Rape & Mole

  
  

  What is important to note in the recent wave of sexual abuse "truths" that have come out with the Mackenzie Phillips story 'High on Arrival' and the Kathryn Harrison's 'The Kiss is the horrors of children who continue to be abused as adults, because of the conditioning from their childhood as well as the dissociation that caused them to be triggered as adults. In addition to the standard definition of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) there are other problems that may occur with PTSD.
  
  Long-Term PTSD Problems include a distorted view of the perpetrator and a preoccupation with one's relationship with the perpetrator. That is a belief that the perpetrator continues to have all of the power.  "Stockholm Syndrome" that means to idealize the perpetrator, loving him or her and feeling grateful to have that person in their lives. Symptoms also include a sense of a supernatural or "fated" relationship with the perpetrator.  Lastly, is acceptance of the perpetrator's ideas and beliefs.
  
  Tune into "Emotions R Us" as DrBev discusses long-term PTSD problems which are not limited to distorted views of the perpetrator.  Education and knowledge will be given on the child/adult's sense of self, sense of meaning, relationships, physical well-being, managing your feelings, and behaviors, memory and perception, and other emotional disorders.
  

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  • incest
  • rape
  • secrets
  • abuse
  • High on Arrival
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• Date / Time: 7/21/2009 5:52 PM UTC

  Tonight's Emotions R Us Guest: Myspace's GUILITY VAGINA @ 7:30 p.m. 7/21/09

  EXCERPTS  FROM TALES FROM A GUILTY VAGINA'S NEWEST BLOG:
  
   i kept on loving you...
  
  

  I felt lonely right in front of you. You were a great guy…the best boyfriend I've ever had by a long shot. But your perpetual absence in my presence left me feeling lonely. So, as if by osmosis I took you for granted as a reaction to feeling taken for granted myself. Things were just too steady, I guess. Back then I didn’t do well with steady. It made me nervous. All that silent steadiness. There wasn’t such a thing when I was a kid, ya know. There was tremulous turmoil. Espionage. Cut-throat negotiations. High-stakes power games. The homeland Gestapo. Black magic. Red Dawns. It’s what I knew better than I knew myself. So your silent, sturdy, steadiness made me real uneasy. Not only that but I was so insecure, man. And what a burning bush that is! You have no idea how horrific is the existence of the girl who is that insecure with herself—that doubting of her her basic feminine worth. It’s like being covered with bees and nobody knows they’re on you but you. So anytime those smoldering, deep-set blue eyes of yours wandered wantonly in the direction of another, I knew. I knew like you know when a razorblade is pulling your skin apart. Heat. Fire. I was just so goddamned sick of being ignored—replaced with a look. So when you looked at her and her and her like that, the bees started to swarm. And I was gonna get even with you even if I didn’t really mean to. Make sense? Inferiority is a bitch like that. 
  
  
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  • love
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• Date / Time: 7/18/2009 9:10 PM UTC

  LOVE YOU AND WISH YOU ENOUGH

  LOVE YOU AND WISH YOU ENOUGH

   

  Recently I overheard a Father and daughter in their last moments together at the airport... They had announced the departure.
  
  Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the Father said, 'I love you, and I wish you enough.'
  
  The daughter replied, 'Dad, our life together has been more than enough... Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Dad.....'They kissed and the daughter left. The Father walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry.

   

  I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, 'Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever? ''Yes, I have,' I replied. 'Forgive me for asking, but why is this A forever good-bye?'.
  
  'I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be for my funeral,' he said. 'When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough.'  May I ask what that means?' He began to smile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.' He paused a moment
  and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more.
  'When we said, 'I wish you enough,' we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.' Then
  turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.  
  
  I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
  
  I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
  
  I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
  
  I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
  
  I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
  I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess..
  
  I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good- bye.
  
  He then began to cry and walked away.
  
  They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.
  
  TAKE TIME TO LIVE....
  
  To all my Listeners’ and loved ones, I WISH YOU ENOUGH.  DrBev
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  • love
  • relationship
  • security
  • reality
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• Date / Time: 6/18/2009 2:55 PM UTC

  Relationship 101: Sex Changes Thangs!!!

  As a psychotherapist who works with dozens of singles and married couples every year, I am constantly amazed at how many people stumble their way into marriage--and then wonder why their relationship grows miserably stagnant or chronically contentious. They simply did not approach this monumental decision objectively and proactively. 80 million men and women in the United States are single. Yet, the biggest complaint about being single is, “All the good ones are taken!” Now, are all the “good ones” really taken, or are you meeting people who are not the best ones for you? To be capable of real love means becoming mature, with realistic expectations of the other person.  It means accepting responsibility for our own happiness or unhappiness, and neither expecting the other person to make us happy nor blaming that person for our bad moods and frustrations.
  
  

  Beverly “DrBev” Jackson and I am the host of a live Internet broadcast show called “Emotions R Us” on BlogTalkRadio. My show brings real life issues and people “on air” to talk about their emotional problems of drama, trauma, and life chaos.  Therapeutic Reality Radio Show, Tune-in, Download or listen LIVE all you need is a cell phone.

  
  
  
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  • couples
  • married
  • emotions
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• Original Air Date: 5/28/2009 11:30 PM UTC

  Distraction Action = Toxic Relationship Personalities: How much time have they cost U ???

  We may like to think that the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded individuals, we sometimes realize that it just isn't so. Truth be told, the emotionally immature person has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; To counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the center of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviors is telling you how emotionally immature they are. Check out EMOTIONS R US, life is too short to spend your time dealing with toxicity. Today's show will provide knowledge and education on the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how to spot them; and the most common tactics they employ to gain attention for themselves. HAVE YOU ENCOUNTERED TOXIC PERSONALITIES? WHAT HAVE YOU DONE? Holla' @ a Sista'!!! Ask not WHY -ASK WHAT? WHAT! DrBev, what do these personalities have in common? "Ignorance like denial may be bliss, but, oh, so, very time consuming."
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  • personalities
  • toxic
  • self-confidence
  • time
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