Giving others power and control over your mind is a dangerous and weak state to be in!! How we feel about ourselves depends largely on how others treat us...it is as simple as that!...Many of us are driven by the oppinions of others. Driven to succeed or Driven Insane!...Negative, demeaning comments have more of an impact on your self-esteem than positive encourage comments....We tend to remember the negative comments overall because of the debilating blows they possess....the hurt lasts for a long time!!....Unlike positive influences where the affects are much like a quick high after the rush of esteem is over the high quickly fades and you are in need of another fix!!...Comments like..You are fat, women who can't fit into a size 2 clothing should not think of becoming a model!..You are too short, short men are not sexy!...Your nose is too big!...Your skin is too dark!...Your breast are small! You are not smart enough to attend law school!...You have to be a blonde with double "D's" and wear a size 2 to make in Hollywood...these comments haunts your mind permanently!...Even the most confident person can become a victim of someones judgement/oppinion...The only oppinion that should have the most power over your mind is your own....I have adopted a method that helps me to rise above allowing others oppinions and judgement affect me permanently. This method is called analyze the analytics...Whomever is offering their damage to my self-esteem gets a thorough examination of their background and character from me!! I need to know what qualifies that individual to have such power over me...In other words you have to turn the tables around and ask them to start with the man in the mirror before he/she decides to critique you!!...Take a closer look at the things they think are invisible, hidden, undiscovered, covered up, etc...and you find that they DO NOT QUALIFY TO BREAK YOU DOWN in anyway shape form or fashion!!! This will take that power they thought they had and STUMP IT OUT OF EXISTENCE!!...From that moment on you will no longer allow others to affect your mind or your life to the point that you TURN AGAINST YOUR OWN SELF!!! It is so not fair to let anyone to become that important to you that their very words and how they treat you will cause you to hate yourself and ultimately self destruct!...No one is worth it not your friends, associate, husband, wife, boss, NO ONE!! In loving memory of a man whom the most complimentary adjective can not measure up in describing him...Michael Jackson, I am sorry you allowed so many people to have such a powerful and dangerous affect over you....sleep was his greatest escape and now he will sleep forever....I ADORE YOU, FOREVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! -Sincerely, Don't give up on U!