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  Date / Time: 5/6/2009 4:59 AM UTC

  From A Divorced Or Part Of A Stepfamily, You Need To Hear These Four Words From Judy Graybill
  

  I heard several bits of wisdom shared by, our guest today, Judy Graybill.  Do not ever underestimate when you will hear something for the first time, and the hearing it said that way, for the first time, turns the sunlight on in a dark room.

  Within the first half hour you will understand Judy’s passion, her personal experiences, and her academic whys, which are one of many of her abilities to understand how stepfamilies cope and function.

  Only a third of the way into the show and Judy’s talked about:

  1.  What is a healthy marriage, and what is not?

  2.  How do you deal with arguments?

  3.  What I forgot to tell you…What is it?

  4.  What is an “Outsider” and what is an “Insider”?

  5.  What is one big lie you may be building your life on?

  Permit Me To Make A Big Deal HERE… There is something that took place during the show, which I would like to point out. It is something subtle, you may not have noticed, but I caught it, because I happen to be Bill’s partner. We spend a great deal of time together and therefore have our own “insider group”, which is why I probably understood what I witnessed.

  Judy said something very profound, at least for Bill, it was, which is why I urge you to listen to Bill’s insight as he shares some of his personal life story. Bill shared this story with me before, but it was not until today, when he shared it with Judy, did he come to realize a significant insight within himself. I consider this one of those moments – When the Teacher Arrives, The Student Will Appear, or I have heard it this way too – When The Student Arrives, The Teacher Will Appear.

  Bill shared with our listeners his personal story of his parents divorcing when he was three years old, and moving in with his grandparents. If you have a chance to talk to Bill, and he talks about his “Grandma”, you will know immediately that he never lacked any love from her.

  Pay attention now, because this is where Judy wanted to share with our listeners the #1 big deal that is so simple, yet burdens children for a lifetime. It is overlooked by parents and guardians. Those responsible need to verbally communicate with their children, so they understand, this one important message… “It Is Not Your Fault”.

  What we learned from Bill, was his parents were deaf, and considering the divorce and the challenges at that, time, Bill, ended up with loving grandparents.

  Since the time Bill was three years old, until now, Bill took blame in-part for his parents’ divorce.

  Until he heard it for the first time from Judy, “It Is Not Your Fault”, Bill realized it was not his fault.

  This is such a wonderful example of one of the key elements Bill and I talk about and hear from our guests’ consistently, “awareness” and “communication”. Our new CyberHood Watch partner, Judy Graybill, is proof a positive message realized, would change lives.

  We know, what we do, will touch someone’s life in a positive way.

   

  David C Ballard

  PS: Be sure to listen to the show, Judy provided a lot of value…it is worth your time.

  
  

  
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