Edwards, CO – Each individual brings to a relationship their own needs for closeness and attachment. When these needs are not met, however, and attachment is uncertain, a partner may express these unmet needs often at the risk of damaging their relationship permanently and sabotaging their needs for closeness.
Don Bissett is a licensed professional marriage and family counselor and an expert in emotionally-focused therapy. First developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, emotionally focused therapy (or EFT) is founded on the principles of attachment theory, which states that our emotions are connected to our most essential needs. As a result, emotions are innately adaptive in guiding us toward meeting those needs.
“The symptoms of a problematic relationship in the present were once solutions to a problem in the past,” explains Bissett. “The symptom is always a solution but it’s a solution that’s outlived its usefulness.”
Through EFT, couples are taught to better manage their emotional experiences and strengthen their bonds of attachment. In session, Bissett establishes a therapeutic alliance with both members of the couple by listening carefully and offering understanding and appreciation for what they’re saying.
“In all my years of practicing therapy, I’ve never seen a modality that is more effective than emotionally focused therapy,” says Bissett.
According to Bissett, over 90 percent of couples treated with EFT have described their relationship as “significantly improved.” He says it’s often simply a matter of learning to better appreciate your partner’s experience.
“My goal is for couples to find an emotional balance and a secure attachment. When they find that, it’s a life changing event for them.” says Bissett. “I’m proud of the relationships I’ve helped restore.”
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