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  Date / Time: 3/14/2009 5:05 PM UTC

  Feng Shui Fabulous: Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda
  

  In today's episode we continued out discussion about the "power  of intention" and how FEAR can stop us cold in our attempt to make life changes and/or work on our goals/dreams.  Feng Shui is applicable here as we "wrok on" or try to "activate" any of the Life Areas, our fears, negative self-talk and lack of self-worth can actually stop any progress we may make on our quest for happiness. 
  
  ***Side note-negative talk and lack of self-worth can come from "well-meaning", or NOT so well-meaning friends and family as well.  they may try to "help you" through their own fears, jealousy (afterall, who are YOU to try and make a change) and/or insecurities.***
  
  I mentioned, and recommended the book by Esther Hicks, "Ask and It Is Given" as a reference in helping you to overcme any of these fears AND to help you "get in vibe" (my words) with what you want to achieve.  The first "exercise" to help you "raise your vibration" to fit with acheiving any goal is called the "Woiuldn't it be nice if..."  Here, you just start imagining all of the things that would "be nive" if they were to happen RIGHT NOW.  I would say as I'm writing this..."Wouldn't it be nive if...I had a venti vanilla soy latte?  yes it would...Wouldn't it be nice if if my fence were painted?  yes it wol (weather please cooperate with me!)...Wouldn't it be nice if I was writing this blog post on a beach?..."  See how this works?  You want to feel like a 5yr old on december 23rd waiting for Santa to arrive...The joy...the anticipation...the utter feeling of jumping out of your skin because you ARE SO EXCITED!!!!  THAT'S how you should feel whenever you are thinking about one of your goals or changes you want to make.  If you don't, you only feel a sense of dread, guilt, los...whatever negative emotion comes up....ask yourself WHY you feel this way, and work to change it.  Is it YOUR feeling or is it SOMEONE else's "voice" you hear...Change it..
  
  the next exercise, also from Esther Hicks, is the "Removing the rees from your path" exercise.  Here we take our negative thoughts/emotions (or the TREES) and try to move them from the path.  Example: imagine you are driving from Phoenix to San Francisco to move there.  It's ALWAYS been your dream to live in SF.  You start to pack, plan your trip and find a place to live (You should have some sort of plan or outline as you move forward with any goal.  A budget, a time-line...you need to know the HOWS of how tostart and proceed).  Along the way, well-meaning, or not so, will try and be "helpful."  are you SURE this is what you want?  SF is expensive, can you afford it?  The weather is worse there...(this can also be going through your head as negative self-talk as you might not feel "worthy" of acheiving your goal-for whatever reason.  As you move forward on your journey, the negativity can either make you drive SLOWER towards your goal OR make you stop and turn back altogether.  You give in to the fear and negative self-talk, declaring your goal unattainable or you are not worthy to receive it.  Do NOt SUCCOMB TO fear AND LIVE YOUR LIFE IN REGRET .  You don't want to be part of the 'coulda, woulda, shoulda" club.  You want to reach SF (or whatever your goal) in record time!  THAT's the goal.
  
  Start small in making changes to your life, and trying to bring about positive life change.  Take a different route to work.  Try a different flavor of coffee.  Do the exact opposite of something and see what the results are.  There is a great Seiffeld episode where George Costanza does this as his "life is going nowhere."  So-he does the opposite.  He lands a date with a beautiful woman and gets his dream job with the NY Yankees.  Be George for a day and see what happens.  Also of note is that you can't keep doing the same thing day in and day out, and expect DIFFERENT results.  (This is the definition of insanity by the way).  I have a neighbor who wants to find "Mr Right."  Yet, she won't go out, she only socializes with her married sister and her father.  She is "hoping' that Mr Right will move into our neighborhood and ask her out.  Oh if it were only that easy....DON'T be like my neighbor.  Go out.  Try new things.  Take a chance.  I tell me workshop attendees to think of the absolute worse thing that could happen and then do a "pro/con" list.  If youcan live with the cons-go for it.
  
  this week, try a new flavor of coffee, take a different route to work or sign up for workshop you've always wanted to take-whether someone else signs up with you or not.  Worse case senario, you waste $20 and a couple of hours, best case, you make some new friends with the same interests and learn something new.  You choose.
  
  Next week we will discuss Feng Shui and the Wealth/Abundance area of the Bagua.  Some tips on how to feel wealthy and abundant in our current economic climate
  
  Remember to check out our Facebook group and view the Events area.  Also-we will be offering webinars through Design2Share starting in April!  Stay tuned for more details on that.
  
  have a great week and Happy Feng Shui-ing....
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