To understand what lies beyond appearances and to communicate effectively with other people, have detained four truths: 1. many people who suffer do not need to be a psychiatrist to see that in this world there are many people who suffer. A huge number of people suffering deep hiding. 2. often hurt other people suffering German poet Herman Hesse wrote, 'When you hate someone, hate, in fact, that part of it which is also found in you. What makes some of us do not mind. " When people attack other people injured, this is actually the reaction to what is happening inside and not outside them. They feel or believe negative things about yourself. The problem is that people who do not believe in them not knowing success and also, will prevent those around them to achieve success. 3. suffering are often injured by other people not only hurt people who suffer in their turn, but they are also vulnerable, being easily hurt by others. If someone has a splinter in the finger and let there be finger will swell and become infected. If another person comes and I then very easy finger touch, the individual will howl with pain and will say: 'You caused the pain! " But in reality, the problem is not the person that hit the wrong finger. The problem is the person with the chip in the finger and has neglected wound. Similarly work and emotional suffering. People over-react and are supraprotectori wounded. Furthermore, exercise influence over the extent, that they are the ones that control the relationship. Always when you interact with others, should note the following work: whenever a person's reaction is greater than the problem itself, almost always is in fact something else. 4. suffering is often hurt themselves in an old sketch humorous, one Knows-All keeps preaching his friend in the state now waiting train every morning. And every time you push Knows-All and friend in the chest with the finger. Which, of course, no other man suits. Why he decides to end the situation. Next day, on way to the station, meets with a third friend which tells: 'I'm tired as Does-Everything that I keep his sermons and I thrust a finger in the chest. Today I will get up. " 'And how you do it? " asked his friend. Man freed when their clothes to find three pieces of dynamite linked to his chest. 'Today, when I will push, hand will jump in the air. " People suffering are often, exactly. Although hurt other people, people you hurt the most and often are even themselves. The poet George Herbert said: 'He who can not forgive others destroys them on the bridge itself have to go. " How to interact with those who suffer? Author Glen Clark offers the following advice: 'If you want to travel far and fast, travel without worries. Break loose with envy, the jealousy, the inability to forgive, of selfishness and tears. " People who have not got over their pain hardly manage to follow this advice. As a result, they will act and react differently compared to people Sereni. If we in the situation to interact with a person suffering, something which we must all do it from time to time, we have to do the following:-Do not take it as an insult what we say look for problem beyond the person-to look beyond the situation-not increase their pain-to help them find But if we support those who suffer? We first need to answer the question: I am a person who hurts people or that is too easily hurt them? If the answer is yes, we have the answer and question: I'm ready to solve problems and exceed my pain? Here is the solution. Most people want a quick fix, something to deliver on time. That is why some choose to attack, it makes them feel better temporarily. Others call for alcohol, food or anything that diminishes pain. But: 'If you want to do well, you need more than a repair. You need a healing. " People who seek peace of mind and will not release a time. They seek the right thing. People looking for a repair to stop work to resolve the problem as soon as pain or pressure diminishes. People who seek serenity continue to do what is right and work on their improvement, even when discomfort is gone. This process is likely to have to deal with unpleasant things. But the reward could be the discovery of treasure about whose existence did not know. And at the end of effort we can develop a healthy capacity for relationships. 'It is more cost effective to solve a situation than to dissolve a relationship. " 'Friends are like money, easier to do than to store. " "Greatness lies not in the hand of friendship stretched to warm smile or joy offered by companion, she is in the spiritual inspiration that is born when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to entrust your friendship."