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  Why Bother Getting Married?

  Ms. HeartBeat

  Date / Time: 11/12/2009 2:00 AM UTC

  Category: Romance

  Call-in Number: (347) 327-9215

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  Why do single men think that marrying them should be the goal of every woman in the world? Do single women still feel the need to behave in ways that meet the standards and expectations of men? With women filing 65% of the divorces in the U.S., does it make sense to believe that marriage is still a necessity for women, or has it become a rather distasteful option? Husband and wife team Laura and Jay Laffoon are the authors of "The Spark-Igniting Passion, Mystery and Romance in your Marriage and the soon to be released book "He Said She Said - Eight Powerful Phrases That Will Strengthen Your Marriage." The book discusses four phrases every woman needs to hear from her man and four phrases every man needs to hear from his wife. We'll look at the purpose for marriage, modern marriages and men's perspectives and needs in a wife and if those needs are or are not being met by modern American women, as well as how marriage may not be meeting the needs of the modern American woman. Please join us!

  Upcoming Episodes

  11/15/2009 2:00 AM UTC - Why Women Struggle With NEXTING a Relationship

  11/19/2009 2:00 AM UTC - Workplace Romance: True Love vs. Sexual Harassment

  11/22/2009 2:00 AM UTC - Why Black Women Should Consider Dating Interracially

• Featured Episode

  Dating Standards - What Are Yours and Why?

  Ms. HeartBeat

  Date / Time: 10/15/2009 1:00 AM UTC

  Category: Romance

  
  

  
  Everyone should have basic standards for dating, but some people have a ridiculous laundry list of standards that may be a bit unrealistic. On the flip side we have men and women that have no standards at all and take anything that comes along just to avoid being alone. Is it unrealistic for an educated Black woman to want to have a similarly educated Black man by her side? Why is it that women think book smarts is so important. Is it unrealistic for Black men to want a submissive woman in 2009? Who do these guys think a woman wants to be under their foot and total control? What is on your list of criteria... what standards do you require a potential mate to meet? Money? Sex? Looks? Just how flexible are you with your list of "must haves" when it comes to dating? Read the article: Can Dating Standards Be "Too" High? as well as the article Why Weak Men Want Submissive Women

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  Original Air Date: 3/27/2008 3:00 AM UTC

  Why You Didn't Get a Second Date...Sucka!

  Most of the time we and our dates are on the same page with the "I'm cool if I never see you again!" thing. But what do you do when you ARE interested and you DO hope for a second date, and it doesn't happen? Why do so many daters fall off the horse after date #1? We'll go over the most common errors singles make which prevent dates from progressing to relationships. Order your copy of Deborrah Cooper's dating guide "Sucka Free Love" today! Call toll free 1-866-308-6235
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  • Tags:
  • dating
  • dating advice
  • first dates
  • dating mistakes
  • getting dumped
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• Date / Time: 3/21/2008 7:05 PM UTC

  Nice Guys - Why Are Nice Guys Losers in the Dating Game?

  Nice guys are confused about why they can't get the woman they want and why players get all the girls.
  
  This was the subject of discussion on March 19th on the Sucka Free Dating Talk Show. And I discovered some interesting facts as well as wildly negative perceptions of nice guys, especially by men!
  
  Nice guys were labeled as losers, social rejects, short, angry little dickheads with no skills, weak and effeminate. Nice guys are angry at players. But players understand women's needs and give them what they want, make them feel hot and sexy and womanly and attractive.
  
  Nice guys instead try to befriend women and approach in a way that makes a woman see him as a brother, not a lover. Nice guys also tended to be overly giving, supplicating, and much too agreeable which made women feel like they could walk all over him and he'd just lay there and take it.
  
  Women hate that kind of thing, and want a man to be strong - mentally, physically, and emotionally.
  
  Rom Wills, author of the book "Nice Guys and Players - Becoming The Man Women Want" concluded the interview with three action items for nice guys:
  

  1. Hit the gym and get your body into shape. Looking like a Tele-Tubby, soft and fat, or soft and skinny does not inspire lust in women. Muscle up and look manly!
  2. Learn to recognize when a woman is showing an interest in you. Women flirt in subtle ways and what players have over nice guys is the ability to pick up on that interest and exploit it!
  3. Respect yourself and feel that you have value. Stop putting yourself down and sucking up to women trying to get their approval all the time. Mental strength means you are confident and comfortable in your skin as a man, whether a particular woman wants you or not.

  Listen to the March 19th broadcast for the full story!
  
  
  Purchase Rom Wills' book Nice Guys and Players at http://www.ihbooks.com
  
  Purchase Deborrah Cooper's book Sucka Free Love on AskHeartBeat.Com
  
  • Tags:
  • dating
  • nice guys
  • losers
  • players
  • pimps
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• Original Air Date: 3/20/2008 3:00 AM UTC

  Nice Guys vs. Players - Why Players Get the Women and Nice Guys Don't Get No Love!

  Our guest tonight will be Rom Wills, author of "Nice Guys and Players - Becoming the Man Women Want!" Rom will present the audience with tips on how nice guys can become more physically and sexually appealing to women and avoid being relegated to "the Friend Zone!" He also shares the ways women categorize men, and why women are so drawn to bad boys, thugs and players.
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  • Tags:
  • relationship advice
  • nice guys and players
  • thug love
  • why women love players
  • bad boys
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• Original Air Date: 3/13/2008 3:00 AM UTC

  The Lies and Games of a Sucka - Can You Recognize a Sucka When You See One?

  Deborrah Cooper's hilarious dating guide "Sucka Free Love!" tackles and exposes some of the most common games singles play today. Whether you are in your teens or 50s, games are part of dating. Can you recognize when a game is being run on you...or do you fall prey to a gamester every time? Order your copy of Sucka Free Love today on Amazon.Com. Read Deborrah's article Dating Tips: Dating, Lies and Deception Are Often a Package Deal!
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  • Tags:
  • abusive relationships
  • advice
  • game playing
  • cheating
  • players
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• Date / Time: 3/6/2008 6:24 AM UTC

  Definition of the Term Sucka and What it Means to Love Sucka Free

  Apparently, there are still people around that are so out of the loop, they don't know what the term "sucka" means.  A few of them called tonight's broadcast attempting to tell me that a sucka isn't a real world. I guess if you live in the COUNTRY and you are ignorant of other cultures and their terminology and use of language, you might think that.  So in an effort to educate such people, I'm going to explain it. 
  
  A "sucka" can be anyone, male or female, young or old - any race, color, creed or nationality.  We define a "sucka" as an insincere, emotionally unavailable, game playing, opportunistic user.  Player types are included in this hit parade.  Suckas can also be those on the other side of the fence and includes men and women that allow themselves to repeatedly be put into situations where they are loving and giving to someone that is insincere, emotionally unavailable, a user (aka "suckas!").
  
  In my book "Sucka Free Love - How to Avoid Dating The Dumb, The Deceitful, The Dastardly, The Dysfunctional & The Deranged!" readers are presented with tips and techniques to recognize and avoid suckas of all types, reducing the risk of enduring unnecessary trauma and heartbreak.
  
  Loving "Sucka Free" means that you vow to wisely SELECT your partners, not let them select you.  It also means that you refuse to settle for whatever comes along just to avoid being by yourself.  Loving SUCKA FREE means you love smart and in your own best interest!
  
  If you have any questions about what a "sucka" is or how to know if someone you are dating IS a sucka, visit the link above and order your copy.  Listen in to this broadcast each week as well.
  
  • Tags:
  • sucka
  • sucka free love
  • Deborrah Cooper
  • dating advice
  • relationship advice
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• Original Air Date: 3/6/2008 4:00 AM UTC

  Ten Early Warning Signs of a Doomed Relationship

  It's easy to tell very early on if a relationship is headed for long-term passion and bliss, or if it is instead on the fast track to a crash and burn! Advice columnist and author Deborrah Cooper lays out the realities you need to keep in mind. Learn to pay attention to the warning signals. Avoid waste-of-time romances and unnecessary heartbreak by dating smart! Order your copy of Deborrah's book "Sucka Free Love" today! Call toll free 1-866-308-6235
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  • Tags:
  • advice
  • bad relationship
  • breaking up
  • broken heart
  • date
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