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How to Put Yourself in Your Partner’s Emotional Shoes

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Did you know that happy couples regularly enter each other’s emotional realities by making the effort to see from the other’s vantage point? The technical name for this skill is partial identification. What this skill entails is keeping one foot on your own side of the emotional fence while at the same time stepping into your partner’s emotional shoes.

No relationship can thrive without this skill. Unfortunately, in distressed relationships, partners never partially identify with each other; instead, they ram their individual realities down each other’s throats...and ring each other’s necks!  Partial identification is the master key to ending your fights--and opening the door of your hearts! Join me as I share how to master this skill!

For a complete guide on how to put yourself in your partner's shoes and more conflict resolution and communication skills, see my book "Till Death Do Us Part," at  AskDrLove.com, along with1000's of relationship, dating, and sex advice articles on every imaginable issue.