The issue of domestic violence is all around us, but it is not always easy to recognize. We, as advocates and professionals, must not only learn to recognize it, but we must be ready to step in and take the hand of those victims who come to us for help. Saying that, however, does not mean that we will be able to save all of those who come to us in need. Many of the abused individuals we encounter will not yet be ready to break from all they have known and leave their abuser. As difficult as it may be, we must stand by these individuals, softly encouraging them, but never demanding or pushing them too hard. When they are ready to leave, they will realize that they have somebody ready to stand beside them, who will take that next step with them, who will support them if they should falter, and who will help guide them all the way to safety. Two things that I would like to address is respect for each other and individualism. It is imperative for us to join together in unison. It is imperative for all advocates and survivors to have ultimate respect for victims and victims in transition. We have no idea who is reading our posts - victims do not need to be put down or verbally chastised for making a decision in "their time". This is not how an Advocate advocates. We must encourage support, empowerment, and strength. You have no idea what she/he has gone through. This blog is a place where those come for comfort, understanding and to try to learn how to cope and yet live day to day during a healing process. Feeling stronger - feeling stronger and empowered comes in time. Healing emotionally, mentally, financially is a process and if there is physical abuse that one is healing from it takes even longer. Yes, it is imperative for us to encourage and empathize but please remember that everything is a process. The abuse didn't happen overnight nor is it going to go away overnight. IT TAKES TIME, no two healing processes are alike as well. Words can cut like a knife hence I encourage walking/typing/speaking softly. Victims, victims in transition and even Survivors who have transitioned and are Advocates do not need to be chastised or belittled. This is not positive what-so-ever. No two stories are alike. No two abuses are alike. This blog is about having the freedom to express what one is feeling and be able to come to a place where no one will judge nor condemn. There is no tolerance or time for this. Victims need us. In closing, I extend my hand in friendship and love for our supporters, family and friends and I thank each of you for sharing, apathy and most importantly the encouragement and empowerment that we give to each other. Take care and STAY SAFE! Anny