Find And Keep Love Through The Science Of Attachment, with Dr. Amir Levine

Welcome to HumanLab: The Science Between Us, with Amy Alkon interviewing the luminaries of behavioral science.

This show will help you use the new field of adult attachment science to find love -- or to keep and even vastly improve the relationship you have.

My guest is neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine, co-author with psychologist Rachel S.F. Heller, of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find -- and Keep -- Love.

If you’re seeking a partner, by recognizing which of the three attachment styles you fit into, you can help yourself avoid all the usual troubles you get into while dating.

If you're in a relationship, by recognizing which form of attachment you exhibit and which your partner does, you can stop battling each other, behave more lovingly to each other, and better meet each other’s needs.

The partner who longs for more closeness can recognize their need and stop always acting so demanding of a partner who needs a little more distance to feel comfortable. At the same time, they can come to understand that their partner loves them, and that it's largely their style of attachment that makes them harangue the other person for closeness, which can help them pull back a little.

In turn, the person who's more distant can recognize their style but come around in small and regular ways that reassure their more intimacy-seeking partner.

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