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Advice Goddess Radio: Amy Alkon/Dr. Robin Stern

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Ever had somebody keep telling you down is up and 2+2 is 5 until you break down and agree with them? 
At first, you're all, "Naw, that's not how it is," but they keep at you and keep at you until you start to say "Maybe they're right..." against all your better judgment. 
If you've had this experience -- and I think we've all had this experience -- you've experienced gaslighting, an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation.

This week, my guest is Dr. Robin Stern, Ph.D., on her fantastic book "The Gaslight Effect," and the syndrome itself -- and how to stop it. I wrote about it in a column: 

"In a relationship, writes Dr. Robin Stern in 'The Gaslight Effect,' you're being gaslighted when somebody relentlessly pressures you to believe the unbelievable and do what you know you shouldn't. Stern explains that the gaslighter "needs to be right in order to preserve his own sense of self and his sense of having power in the world," while the gaslightee allows him to bully away her sense of reality and self because she fears losing his love and approval."

Buy her book here: http://amzn.to/xBJjCP