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Ask Alex - Former Bully Struggles With Payback

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Today's Ask Alex About Stalking and Bullying comes from Pauline who writes; 

Alex - You probably don’t get many requests for advice from bullies. But, here goes.  I spent years stalking and trolling, and generally causing trouble for people that I didn’t like. I made up stories and posted them online. I know that I hurt people’s feelings, damaged their reputations, and messed with their relationships. I really got off on the drama. I was unemployed, bitter, and bored. They were easy marks. I don’t have a better excuse.

About a year ago, I met a man who was raising his little boy on his own. I found that I didn’t have the desire or the time to bully people online, because I was spending so much time with my man and his son. We got serious and a few months ago, we got married and I plan to adopt Toby.  I couldn’t be happier. In fact, I just got certified to operate a day care from my home which allows me to stay how with Toby.

I recently made a website and Facebook page for my new day care. Unfortunately, one of the women who I pretty regularly savaged found out and has started a campaign of payback. Parents who signed up to put their kids in my day care are backing out, my neighbors are whispering, and my new husband can’t believe that I could have been so terrible before we met.  He is questioning who he married. I might lose my husband and son over this.  I know that I am not going to get much sympathy, but how to I make this woman stop destroying my life? - Pauline

PR & Crisis Management expert, Alexandrea Merrell answers question about stalking, bullying, online harassment, and hate campaigns, and helps adults deal with personal and professional reputation crises to ultimately rebuild a stronger, more resilient, and joyful brand and life. AlexandreaMerrell.com