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Thank you for checking out my show, Glow With The Flow on The Vortex Network. I hope you'll visit again. And I LOVE what you've done with the word F.L.O.W. I wish I'd have thought of it first! Stay in the F.L.O.W. United in Love, Sheryl Lynn

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Since 2005, The F.L.O.W. (For Love Of the World) began as a dialogue between three men, Marc Collins, Angelo Hunt and Roy Frank sharing their feelings regarding their past relationships. Through their dialogue Marc, Angelo and Roy forged a bond that is not common among men. The discussions quickly moved from telephone conversations, to the Internet with male and female participants, to monthly forums held in a variety of venues bringing men and women together to discuss relationships. The Flow (For Love Of The World) is a relationship dialogue consisting of an online internet forum (www.flow4theworld.com) and regularily scheduled relationship events where there are discussions regarding such topics as “Why Men Fear Love & Intimacy”; “Sex, Religion & Spirituality”; “ Are You Ready For a Relationship?”; among others. F.L.O.W. events provide a platform where fundamental relationship issues are candidly discussed that go beyond “baby momma drama”. Originally from the New York Metro Area, Marc, Angelo and Roy came together to share their knowledge of relationship pitfalls, challenges and successes. . The Flow Advocates: * One of the Prime Relationships is with yourself: Having a healthy, loving relationship with yourself is a key to successful relationships. * We are complete within ourselves: Relationships should enhance who we are not complete us. * Relationships are experiences that allow us to grow and redefine ourselves, if we choose. * We are responsible for our choices and consequently our relationship outcomes

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Heart of the Matter goes beyond assumptions, tradition, gender roles, and socially defined frames of reference in a process, an exploration, an interchange of ideas and feelings regarding relationships.
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    What is Fatherhood? Is it a role, a frame of reference, a behavior, or just a set of socially sanctioned activities? At one time fathering meant being a good provider, not a nurturer or a homemaker. Today the role of a father has greatly expanded? Has it evolved to reflect who we are as a human being as opposed to a narrowly defined behavior? Is fatherhood something innate to men or a process to be understood, and developed based upon our own personal histories? Is being a “good” father different than being a good person? Do all men have the qualities to be “good” or more importantly healthy father?
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    Fatherhood: More Than Being Present?

     

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    What is Fatherhood? Is it a role, a frame of reference, a behavior, or just a set of socially sanctioned activities? At one time fathering meant being a good provider, not a nurturer or a homemaker. Today the role of a father has greatly expanded? Has it evolved to reflect who we are as a human being as opposed to a narrowly defined behavior? Is fatherhood something innate to men or a process to be understood, and developed based upon our own personal histories? Is being a “good” father different than being a good person? Do all men have the qualities to be “good” or more importantly healthy father?

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    We often hear about the value of fatherhood. Is it more than just being present in the home? How essential are father’s as opposed to having a healthy home environment and caregivers? Are there unique values and frames of reference that fathers should pass on to their progeny and children they care for. Fatherhood does not exist in a vacuum. It cannot fully examined without considering the mother or her absence and how society impacts the father role.Fathers are often the role models for love & intimacy, masculinity, gender equality, the treatment of women, etc. What’s the impact of all this for home, family and society?

    Join The FLOW, guests and callers on Heart of the Matter, The Relatiionship Magazine, www.blogtalkradio.com/the-flow on November 15th at 6PM where we will explore the multi-demensions of fatherhood. Please share your comments here or send The FLOW email at flow4theworld@verizon.net and of course, join us on Heart of the Matter.

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    Sex, Religion & Spirituality:Reconciling Our Sexual & Spiritual Selves

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    Sex and its relationship to a meaningful spiritual life is a topic largely ignored, greatly disparaged by organized religion, and largely misrepresented in the media and society. Nonetheless, this disconnection is a burning issue that exists just below the surface of our consciousness, confronting us all, whether religious, spiritual, or unbeliever.

    We live in a society where we are bombarded by sex and, unfortunately, religion has failed to put sexuality in any useful context (outside of marriage and procreation), while our communities and societies are ravaged by AIDS, unwanted pregnancies and widespread sexual abuse and dysfunction. The media has taken the sexual disconnect created by religion and has made it a psychologically loaded abstraction and absurdity. Sexuality has been reduced to body parts and sexual acts.

    The tragedy of this is that many apply these media induced frames of reference to their lives and relationships which has resulted in the sexual pathology that surrounds us. We are living in the eye of a storm! Can we talk about it? As quiet as it's kept, sex fails to drive relationships, it is the meaning that we bring to the sex and sexuality that does not affirm and honor our highest selves that currently dominate our relationships.

    The disconnect between sex and spirituality had its beginnings in the Greek philosophy which has heavily influenced early Christian thought and continues to this day. In the book, Sexuality and the Black Church", author Kelly Brown Douglas says:

    "...Christianity gradually became influenced by the aspect of Greek thought that denigrated the body and fostered a profound split between the body and the spirit." She goes on to say that in Greek philosophy, "...the body [was] the home of the irrational passions of man." "Sex was viewed as corrupt when it emerged from passion."

    This divide was further compounded by misogynist, sexist messages, fueled by religion that vilified women and has created the flagrant double standard that exists in attitudes regarding the sexual expression of men and women.

     

    We are sexual beings. This is an acknowledged fact from the cradle to the grave. This is whether we are abstinent, celibate or sexually active. Our sexuality is an expression of our humanity. Sex and sexuality, I believe, was not created to be as an albatross, a trap, or an impediment to spiritual growth. How ignoble a concept of The Creator does this foster? This is man creating God in his own image with all of man's prejudices and irrationalities. Ms Douglas explains:

    "Spirituality concerns a person's connection to God and, thus, inevitably involves her or his sexuality. "...sexuality is that fundamental dimension of human beings that governs intimate, sensual, affective, emotional, and sexual relationships. Human sexuality and spirituality are inextricably linked because involve a person's relationship to God"

     

    We live in a society where our humanity has been relegated to strictly defined compartments causing too many to lead lives of desperation struggling to fit in. Reconciling the sexual/spiritual divide, discovering the sexual "you" is part of the human development process, a realization of who we are as a unique individuals made in the image and likeness of the Creator. Ms. Douglas again comments:

    "Human sexuality is what provides men and women with the capacity to enter into relationships with others. Sexuality is the dimension of humanity that urges relationship. Sexuality is a gift from God that, if properly appreciated, helps women and men to become more fully human by entering relationships. Sexuality thus expresses God's intention that we find our authentic humanness in relationship."

     

    Some discover their sexual selves and are empowered by it, many, due to the religious/social stigma placed upon sex, drown in a sea a shame, guilt and spiritual, infirimity, even within the confines of marriage or a committed relationship. The FLOW will explored the issue of"Sex, Religion and Spirituality" on "Heart of the Matter, the Relationship Magazine on blogtalk internet radio, www.blogtalkradio.com/the-flow. This dialogue must continue. Join The FLOW and Rev. Leon Bailey on November 8th at 6PM. Please share your comments here or send The FLOW email at flow4theworld@verizon.net.

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    The Downlow

    When we hear the term the Downlow it most likely conjures up an image of a black man loving heterosexually by day and lusting homosexually by night. But is it realistic to characterize this as an exclusively black phenomenon? What is The Downlow really? First of all, when you get past the sensationalism, it's basically infidelity and a lack of regard for the well being of your partner. We all should know that this may occurs in any relationship, it's not new and it's not just men! Join The FLOW, guests and calers as we discuss what is The Downlow

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    Can Relationships and Religion be Reconciled? by Rev. Leon Bailey

    Rev. Leon Bailey, a non-demoninational minister, will be a part of In Spirit, a new internet radio segment to air in November on Heart of the Matter, the Relationship Magazine on blogtalkradio, www.blogtalkradio.com/the-flow. In Spirit will be an ongoing conversation regarding relationships, religion and spirituality. In Spirit, wiil explore the profound disconnect between religion and sexuality. How did that rift come into existence and why do the issues of sex, sexuality and alternative lifestyles generate such hate, confusion, and seperation.

    The current landscape of relationships is rapidly shifting and changing. There are far more challenges in society today than there were just a few decades ago. Depending upon your upbringing and your life choices, your experience of what is fitting and proper in your personal relationships can differ vastly from others. In fact, that is the cast for most people - there is no such thing as one size (or type of relationship) fits all.

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    Looking back to the era of the 60's when there was the Woodstock generation and ‘free love,’ people were just beginning to ‘come out of the closet’ and declare their choice for ‘alternative’ lifestyles. Those times reflected so many struggles on so many levels and to this day, there are a number of people who are still sorting out how to resolve the societal demands of these choices.

    Now add to the mix the consideration of religion or it's absence and leading a spiritual life. How do these often conflicting frames of reference impact relationships and marriages of people from different religious traditions. What about people who may be agnostic or atheist? What about gay or lesbian partners and a particular faith tradition? What about transgender people and their religious affiliations and needs? Is there a consideration for these other ways of thinking in our different faith traditions? These considerations are all inside of the context of relationship and the challenge is how do we reconcile these relationships in the context of relating to our individual conceptions of God?

    These and other topics are not to be shied away from, because they represent creations of God and our neighbors in this global community. We are them and they are us. In essence, we are inseparable and all related. Join us in this ongoing discussion In Spirit at www.blogtalkradio.com/the-flow.

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    Love Should Not Hurt: Violence in Relationships

    The American Psychiatric Association describes Domestic violence as "control by one partner over another in a dating, marital or live-in relationship." Abuse is not an accident. It does not happen because someone was stressed-out, drinking, using drugs, repressed or discriminated against. It is not an example of love gone amuck, as often characterized, but the absence of love and respect. The abuser has constructed a reality where their needs dominate relationships. Abusers have learned to satisfy this distorted sense of self through their abuse and feel justified in it's use whether physical, sexual, emotional, or psychological. Join The FLOW, guests and callers, as we explore why Love Should Not Hurt.

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    What is the Downlow?

    HalfFaceMan.jpgWhen we hear the term the Downlow it most likely conjures up an image of a black man loving heterosexually by day and lusting homosexually by night. But is it realistic to characterize this as an exclusively black phenomenon? What is The Downlow really? First of all, when you get past the sensationalism, it's basically infidelity and a lack of regard for the well being of your partner. We all know that this may occurs in any relationship. Secondly, it's not new and it's not just men!

     

    It has also been implied that the Downlow is a major risk factor in the transmission of HIV/AIDS to black women. Is this the real HIV/AIDS transmission story? Pat Hill Collins, in her seminal book Black Sexual Politics states that:

    Because sexual contact constitutes one major trajectory of HIV contraction, the HIV/AIDS crisis reveals how the failure to criticise prevailing Black sexual politics places all African Americans at risk. Many Africian Americans fail to question dominant Black gender ideology and thus help replicate America's sexually repressive culture that takes special form within African American communities. For example, black men who confuse masculinity with dominance and take these beliefs into their romantic relationships place their partners at risk. Whether straight, gay, or bisexual, Black men who make "booty calls" without condoms foster the spread of HIV. Black women who confuse feminity with submission and weakness fare no better. When partnered with these same men, heterosexual African American women who try to be the "strong" Black woman can end up being sexually exploited, economically used, and abandoned when they can no longer compete sexually in the marketplace."

     

    I grew up hearing stories whispered of men having sex with other men and women having sex with women outside of heterosexual relationships. And, no doubt, this is an activity that extends beyond all ethnic boundaries. Is having an outside homosexual relationship any more egregious that a heterosexual one. Or does the shock and fear that the Downlow engenders a result of the homophobia of a patriarchal society.

    Even more fundamentally, is the Downlow a result of a society that stigmatizes it citizens for being authentic, whether it's your religion, ethnicity or sexual orientation. Instead of further alienating black men, further dividing already fractured relationship between black men and women,The Downlow, in my opinion, speaks to the lack of honesty and respect, a failure to come to grips with who we really are and the lack of intimacy and communication common in relationships. It is not an indictment of black men, but an indictment of society.

    Check out Heart of the Matter, an internet radio relationship magazine hosted by The FLOW. The October 25th topic is The Downlow.. Our guests are Lisa Durden, producer of the documentary film Project Wow: A Look Into The Lives Of Men On The Down Low and Terrence Dean, author of Hiding in Hip Hop: On the Down Low in the Entertainment Industry--from Music to Hollywood.

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    Love Should Not Hurt: Love & Intimacy VS. Power & Control

     

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    The American Psychiatic Association describes Domestic violence as "control by one partner over another in a dating, marital or live-in relationship." Abuse is not an accident. It does not happen because someone was stressed-out, drinking, using drugs, repressed or discriminated against.  It is not an example of love gone amuck, as often characterized, but the absence of love and respect.  The abuser has constructed a reality where their needs dominate relationships.  Abusers have learned to satisfy this distorted sense of self through their abuse and feel justified in it's use whether physical, sexual, emotional, or psychological.

     

    In the book "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Mind of Angry and Controlling Men, the author, Lundy Bancoft says that there is a "degree of consciousness that goes into [an abusers] cruel and controlling actions," as opposed to the common perception that abusers are out of control.  Mr. Bancroft goes on to say that most times the abusers "value system is unhealthy, not their psychology."  It is their values that inform their behavior.

     

    On October, 18th 2000 at 6pm, The FLOW will explore love and intimacy vs. power and control in abusive relationships and how extreme definitions of love become nails in the coffin of healthy relationships. Please join The Flow,  guests and callers on Heart of the Matter, an Internet Radio Relationship Magazine.

     

    Guests: 

     

    Brenda Thomas, author of Laying Down My Burdens, a deeply moving depiction of the author's struggle with domestic violence

     

    Quentin Walcott, Director of CONNECT Training Institute& Community Empowerment Program.  CONNECT is an organization dedicated to ending family and gender violence.

     

     

    Love Should Not Hurt: Violence in Relationships

    Love & Intimacy vs. Power & Control

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